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    Just curious, have any of you ladies dated a man with a female best friend (one he knew for like 16 years since they were like 6)? How do you feel about this? Especially as a new gf, like knowing that if you acted like you had an issue, you would certainly turn him off.

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    Not what you asked but i am a guy with a female best friend, who also happens to be an ex and who's kids i have a close relationship with. I am a firm believer in "you can't control what you feel but you can control what you do". What that means is that i would be ok if you told you had a problem with the situation, as long as you understood it was YOU who had the problem and that it wasn't going to change just because you felt insecure.
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    Not quite the same-My guy has a female best friend. He has actually had sex with her in the past but a LONG time ago.

    We had a night out me, her and some other people and then again just me him and her (although we met up with some others later). I like her a lot-we've become close since,and I trust him.
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    and I trust him.
    And that is really all there is to it. You either trust him or you don't, and if you don't then it doesn't matter who he is friends with.
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    Right. Guy friends can be just a bad of an influence on a man. It's all about choices.

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    My boyfriend doesn't have a female *best* friend but does have a lot of attractive female friends, a few of which are strippers that occasionally stay at his house when they travel to work in the remote mining town he lives in 1500km away from where I live.

    I can't deny that occasionally I get jealous and anxious about it but we have good communication and I trust him. I know he's never slept with any of them and I trust that he would never cheat on me. He always asks me before letting them stay in his guest room or if he goes to drink with them on quiet nights at the club.

    I don't feel I have the right to tell him not to be friends with them and wouldn't want him to cut friends out of his life because of me, just as long as he fully communicates with me about how he spends time with them I find I can deal with it. He always reassures me unprompted that he's not interested in them and since he was single for 2 years before we met I believe him.

    Honest communication and reinforced trust is the key to overcoming jealousy in these situations I find. If you're worried about their relationship sit down and talk to him about it but be sure not to make any accusations or demands about the two of them - just express whatever it is that bothers you and decide what information you need to give you peace-of-mind.

    Tbh, if they've been friends since they were 6 he probably sees her more like a sister and I doubt you'd have anything to worry about.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaCM View Post
    Right. Guy friends can be just a bad of an influence on a man. It's all about choices.
    Yeah I've seen guy friends do everything they can to get their buddy laid at the same time they were.

    It really depends on the person. Some friends want to control their friends as much or more than a SO, others just want their friends to be happy. Control isn't just about sex.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaCM View Post
    Right. Guy friends can be just a bad of an influence on a man. It's all about choices.
    Yeah I've seen guy friends do everything they can to get their buddy laid at the same time they were.

    It really depends on the person. Some friends want to control their friends as much or more than a SO, others just want their friends to be happy. Control isn't just about sex.
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    I have a female wingman & she's like a sister, most would think we are together but we have fun; I've never put myself in that place.

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    Ive not been in that situation but my best friend is a guy and if one of his girls tries to be jealous or act stupid I will fuck the bitch up. I hate it. I have absolutely no interest in him sexually and I think its pretty obvious. So if she cant handle me... well goodbye skank..hope one day you have a maturity beyond 12 year olds. Thats how I feel. But weve never dated, never even kissed and have 100% platonic relationship. I pretty much treat him like a sibling. He calls me sis and I call him bro.

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    i am the best friend of a guy..two of them actually. one is like my brother , never dated or had sex never wanted to! he got married and we barely talk now it makes me sad like maybe his wife feels threatened or something because he acts totally different when she's around i hate it! you either trust ur guy or you dont. on the other hand my baby daddy was my childhood best friend, i know him better than anyone. there's still some feeling there between us ..if i wanted him back i could in a second ( i really dont tho, so his lil teenage girlfriends can rest easy ha), it depends on the history between the guy and his female friend as well..

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    Who cares? I'm friends with LOTS of my husband's ex GFs and ex FBs. They're mostly all cool chicks. He doesn't hang out anywhere without me really, but even if he did, I would trust him. What's the big deal?

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    My ex's best female friend is his ex... I was actually warned about her before we met, that she always had issues with the girls he dated so I was bracing myself. She was super cool with me from the get go though, and even after my ex and I broke up, she and I are still really good friends and are like sisters even.

    She did later tell me that she knew she had a bad rep, but whenever he introduced her to a gf, but the girl would have an attitude or give her dirty looks, and shed even been warned to back off of him. And she was all, I dont want him, I already had him...thats *over!* we're friends, we work together, and I cant stand those posessive insecure bitches cause Im the one thats got to hear him complain about them! LoL (not calling you that OP, just saying, thats why she was always so cold towards his gfs...she wasnt going to fake being nice to someone who right off was giving her bad vibes and trying to make her feel uncomfortable when she didnt do anything to deserve it)

    Anyway, I did trust him that there was nothing going on, I never got a bad vibe from her, and she and I have an amazing friendship out of it. I agree with male friends being the worst though....that was his downfall. His friends hooked him up with girls left and right, and would look me in my face and tell me how lucky he was to have me. assholes! But I digress
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