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    Today was my first day stripping. I worked the day shift at one of the most classy clubs in my city. It was slow, and after my first set a regular requested me. I gave him five or six dances, and at the end just randomly shoved his fingers inside my underwear and sucked on my nipple. I was surprised and told him that that wasn't allowed. He told me that he wouldnt tell and started getting aggressive. I said i had to dance on the main stage soon and got away asap. I told the house mom and she basically said that he was a big spending regular and thats how it goes.

    I feel really emotional about it. My boyfriend dated a stripper before and was okay with the idea, but is treating me horribly after I told him what happened. Apparently my body is his and he is angry that I allowed myself to be
    "violated" by someone else.

    I really need to do this, but I am having a hard time emotionally.

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    Default Re: Today was my first day...

    1. Sadly, extras like that are the norm in some clubs, and it sounds like you landed in one of them. Get out ASAP. It's hard enough to set and enforce boundaries as a newbie, but doing that in an extras-ridden environment with no support staff is just a nightmare. Try out somewhere else.
    2. Don't be afraid to say no, regardless of what the customer or support staff say. It's your body and you have the right to disallow anything that makes you uncomfortable. You should always be vigilant while dancing for someone to avoid situations like this entirely. Know where there hands are. Be aware of when their tongue is coming out. Move away as needed. You don't have to be cute about it either, there's nothing wrong with sternly telling them to stop it or even ending the dance if it continues.
    3. Your boyfriend is a fucking idiot, get a new one. Exhibit A: your body is not his. Exhibit B: you did not "allow" someone to violate you. The very definition of violation makes that impossible. Someone took advantage of you and violated you.

    I'm so so so sorry that this was how you were introduced to stripping. It's a sad truth that you will encounter customers and clubs like this again. I would recommend trying out a different club if you're really set on continuing with stripping. FWIW, don't feel like you really need to do this: there's nothing wrong with being uncomfortable with the work environment and not going back. There are other ways to make money.


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    Default Re: Today was my first day...

    OH WTF!!! that shit pisses me off

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    Guys like this "spectacular regular" know what they are doing. He chose you, a dancer who is obviously new, because he knew you were inexperienced in the ways of stripping and therefor easy prey. He knew he could get away with crossing the boundaries with you. One of the hardest things to learn as a dancer is how to stick to your guns and say no to creeps like him. You will run in to this many more times as a dancer. You have to decide what is ok by you and learn either how to say no to a customer and still try to keep them sweet on you or say no and run. But sit down with yourself before you take another step inside that, or any other, club and define those lines very clearly.

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    Really angry at the house mom - this ain't no classy club.

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    Quote Originally Posted by silkyrockstar View Post

    I feel really emotional about it. My boyfriend dated a stripper before and was okay with the idea, but is treating me horribly after I told him what happened. Apparently my body is his and he is angry that I allowed myself to be
    "violated" by someone else.

    I really need to do this, but I am having a hard time emotionally.
    my boyfriend did this to me, after i told him about a regular literally picking me up ( he was 6'5) and licking my pussy and then showing his finger inside , i felt so angry and , well, raped! i had nobody else to talk to and told my bf and he acted like i was gross or something, it hurt even more with feeling violated like it was my fault! i explained to him how unbelievably dickish he was being, and he apologized I'm still pissed tho..if your club allows this, find a new one! that is bullshit, makes me so angry..thats not what stripping is about and that should have never happened *hugs*

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