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    Default Are Women in the Sex Industry More or Less Likely to Cheat?

    I was speaking with a guy that has no experience with the adult industry in any way, and he said that he would be too paranoid and jealous to date a woman in the sex industry. He said he would be afraid of his significant other being tempted to cheat on him with someone she met in a club. I started thinking about the women I work with and how, in general, they are the most fiercely loyal and faithful women I've ever met.

    I think women in vanilla jobs (or stay-at-home moms) may be more tempted to cheat for several reasons. Here they are:
    • They feel unappreciated, or less sexually desirable than adult workers in general.
    • They need a thrill. We deal with all types of men, women, and couples and their sexual fetishes. It becomes routine, and while we may enjoy playing out fantasies and fetishes with our partner, we generally don't need to look elsewhere for fulfillment. Anything our partners aren't necessarily willing or able to do may be talked about and sated with a customer, which maybe isn't cheating, depending on the situation. Women that work a normal 9-5 probably don't have this outlet.
    • They may be more likely to suffer from low self-esteem or insecurity. Our job requires us to be sexy and have thick skin. You need a certain amount of positive self-image to do this job (not saying that adult workers without body image/self-esteem issues don't exist).
    I'm sure there are a lot more things I could come up with, but I'm curious to know everyone's thoughts. I could be right, I could be wrong.. what do you think?

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    My opinion? Way less. A sex worker is surrounded by sex and males all day long....when a pizza chef gets off work, do you think the first thing he wants to do is go eat a pizza? When sex (or anything) is your way to make an income, I think it loses a lot of its appeal when its your "9-5" ...again just my opinion.


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    Quote Originally Posted by ashiepants View Post
    A sex worker is surrounded by sex and males all day long....when a pizza chef gets off work, do you think the first thing he wants to do is go eat a pizza?
    Completely agree, and LOVE your analogy!
    That's how it is for me- I cam all week, and then I go home to my loving, caring, funny, smart boyfriend. I don't even look at other guys anymore because I know that they can't give me what my boyfriend gives me. Before camming, I used to be a total man-izer (not a word, I know)- cheated several times, always had a few guys I was leading on. But since camming, I've calmed down so much, and really realized what's important in a significant other. And sex, while still a VERY important part, is definitely not the ONLY thing that keeps me around anymore.

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    Hmmm. On the one hand, many of the women I have worked with would be as fiercely loyal as you who have posted above.

    But I have known a whole lot who were like cats in perpetual heat. Especially the ones who drank a lot, or worse yet the druggies--especially when the dealers came in. Maybe the 'heat' analogy is inaccurate for those though; more like incredibly indiscriminate.
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    Oh and Domino.Damoiselle, I love the name!
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    Quote Originally Posted by ashiepants View Post
    My opinion? Way less. A sex worker is surrounded by sex and males all day long....when a pizza chef gets off work, do you think the first thing he wants to do is go eat a pizza? When sex (or anything) is your way to make an income, I think it loses a lot of its appeal when its your "9-5" ...again just my opinion.
    Eh, I don't think humans' pizza drives are as powerful as our sex drives. And if you're in the sex industry, you probably enjoy sex a lot. If you're flipping pizzas, you probably just need the job.

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    Less likely. I'm super loyal when it comes to relationships.

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    I never cheated on anyone and never would. I haven't been in a serious relationship since I started dancing, but if I was I would not. I don't believe in cheating. Either you're happy or gtfo.
    Stripping hasn't changed the same ol' me.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Six View Post
    Eh, I don't think humans' pizza drives are as powerful as our sex drives. And if you're in the sex industry, you probably enjoy sex a lot. If you're flipping pizzas, you probably just need the job.
    I'm not going to disagree, not exactly. But I think it's less that people in the sex industry enjoy sex all that much more than others (though some sure do...whoa ).

    More that they enjoy being sexual, without necessarily having to go through with it all the time. In other words, playing the games, the foreplay to foreplay kind of thing. But even that enjoyment is often ruined after a year or so, from what I've seen.
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    Idk about enjoying sex a lot bc of stripping. I know lots of prudes in this business who haven't had sex in 2-3 years. I went almost 2 years myself, while stripping. If anything this job has made it hard for me to get laid the way I want it.

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    I'd tend to agree that either a person is a cheater or isn't; if one is, perhaps the sex industry provides more opportunities to cheat, and thus would make you more likely to.

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    Good point, The Six.

    And yeah I have known some other dancers who just backed off sex altogether for a while, Vyanka. I've even know 3-4 who were virgins. One of them became my SO after we finally met, lol (we knew each other online first). She turned out to be a fucking nymphomaniac though--not that I was complaining. Unfortunately the relationship went to hell for a couple of other good reasons, but that's another story.
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    My guess is it's split evenly - like how divorce rates among Christians and non-Christians are exactly the same. I dated a dancer in college and she was fiercely loyal. On the other hand, I dated a pediatric counselor who cheated on me without a second thought. Had nothing to do with their jobs.

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    I'd say less likely. I know myself there were times I had no interest in sex at all (especially when I was getting burnt). Other dancers I knew got tired of dealing with men and lost their sex appetite.

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    Quote Originally Posted by The Six View Post
    Eh, I don't think humans' pizza drives are as powerful as our sex drives. And if you're in the sex industry, you probably enjoy sex a lot. If you're flipping pizzas, you probably just need the job.
    LOL, not necessarily. It's a job that pays really well. The old stereotype that all sex workers are nymphos really doesn't fly...
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    I've been in the sex industry for all of a week now, but personally, any temptation I had to be with someone who isn't my boyfriend all but disappeared. I would never cheat on my partner regardless of my occupation, but before I started working, I often found myself wondering what else was out there and if I was really ready for a monogamous relationship. Stripping basically put all of those thoughts to rest.

    I dunno. Maybe one day some really cute, charming guy will catch my eye, but so far, most of the customers I meet at the club aren't exactly the cream of the crop suitor-wise. My boyfriend's been through my side for all sorts of crazy shit and shows his love for me every single day through both words and action--it's pretty obvious that 98% of the customers at the club don't even respect me. If I were in a really terrible relationship, I can definitely see myself straying emotionally if nothing else, but that would probably happen regardless of where I was working.

    I actually think that it would require much less effort on the guy's part to maintain a monogamous relationship with a girl working in the sex industry than anywhere else. I mean, so long as the relationship itself is solid, it doesn't take a lot to be more attractive than the guy who thinks that for $30, I'll pretend not to notice him trying to stick his finger up my ass. :/

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    Well said, Cathy. And I believe you.

    But curiously enough, from what I've seen (which is of course not any sort of scientifically valid evidence in favor of sweeping generalization), it's the newbies with boyfriends who are more likely to cheat on them--usually after a few months. But certainly not all of them--just a lot that I've seen.

    The difference maybe being that those women weren't so much the type to have wondered beforehand about whether the grass was greener. Then suddenly they are presented with huge meadows of prime grazing. Mind you I have worked mainly in two resort cities with large numbers of patrons who are young and in very good shape.

    But they say that the basis of true Faith is having questioned the existence of God. I don't believe, but I can see the logic as to how that might work. Never question yourself, then get presented with a huge really tough test.

    Oh and also, the newbies who suddenly got into the drugs were always prime catch for the dealers of course.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Djoser View Post
    But curiously enough, from what I've seen (which is of course not any sort of scientifically valid evidence in favor of sweeping generalization), it's the newbies with boyfriends who are more likely to cheat on them--usually after a few months. But certainly not all of them--just a lot that I've seen.
    So there's still time then!

    All joking aside though, I'm definitely not going to argue with experience. I don't think I'm the type of person to cheat, but I'm not going to pretend that life hasn't thrown me a few curve balls in the past. I'm sure that you are far more qualified than I am to analyze these kinds of situations, but I am totally willing to contribute my own half-assed interpretations.

    Granted, the majority of people I see in the club are neither young or in shape--then again, neither is my boyfriend--but I don't think it would necessarily be a game changer if they were. If I were to hazard a guess, I think one of the main reasons why cheating doesn't really cross my mind is because, like me, my boyfriend treats stripping as what it actually is--a job. He knows that showing my tits and pretending to be single/interested in the customers is required for me to make money so there's no point in stressing out over it.

    Maybe newbie girls just have boyfriends who are insecure or don't know how to properly deal with having a girlfriend who works in the sex industry. This isn't to say that I'm blaming the boyfriends by any means necessary. I just feel like being overly paranoid about their girlfriends cheating at work gives the scenario way more sticking power than it might have otherwise.

    For example, I asked my boyfriend if he was afraid that I would cheat on him because of where I worked, and his response was something along the lines of, "Were you planning on it? No? Then I'm not gonna worry about it." IMO, that kind of attitude gets across the fact that loyalty is expected of me regardless of where I am or what I'm doing, and I respect that because it shows that he respects me. Conversely, I would have a much harder time with someone who actively believes that my loyalty could be so easily influenced. It's a vicious cycle that reflects badly on all parties involved and incites unnecessary conflict.

    Being a newbie sucks emotionally. I couldn't imagine having to deal with that AND someone else's (completely unfounded) insecurities. I probably still wouldn't cheat, but that relationship would definitely not last very long.

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    In my experience and being around those in the business a lot in and out of sc's, the statements made above and echoed byu six and DJ is pretty much dead on. If you're not a cheater, you're not a cheater; the industry has little effect. If you are a cheater, the industry offers a lot of opportunity - thus making it not so much "more likely" as just "a whole lot easier to do if you're already so inclined". There are exceptions across the board of course, but this summation is pretty darn accurate.

    And Cathy - you're dead on, too.

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    I don't think this industry makes girls more or less likely to cheat. out of all of my friends, my stripper friends are as equally likely to cheat as my non stripper friends are.

    that being said, I know a lot of girls who do more for their $$ than their bfs know.

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    I've been thinking about it a little more, and realized that the most dangerous scenarios for cheating are the party girls. The ones who make dumb mistakes when they are drunk and/or on drugs.

    Not just the druggies with the dealers. The ones who get drunk or at least really tipsy almost every night they work. The ones who are attention hounds. And especially the ones who are all of the above. I would hate to be the boyfriend of a girl like that. I've seen these guys get cuckolded so many fucking times. And some girls egg each other on, too. Seen that a whole lot. 'Come one, these guys want us to come party on their boat.' etc.
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    Not cheat, maybe, but to just leave the partner you feel uncomfortable with. Whith all the men lavishing gifts and showing their admiration, you can a) start feeling you deserve a better attitude, b) understand that your current partner is not a beautiful and unique snowflake or your last chance to find someone. IMO, that is why men would feel insecure when dating a sex industry worker.
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    Yeah it's really funny and a little weird when your SO has literally hundreds of guys who will suck up to her endlessly, buy her gifts, etc. It can even be empowering in a strange way. But most guys simply cannot deal with it.
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    I don't think its correlated. At all. Just as there are a million different personalities of sex workers, there's a million different personalities of non-sexworkers.

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    So it's not sex workers who are more likely to cheat, but their men who are more worried about possibility of being dropped or cheated on)?
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