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    Duh "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    So, I've only been dancing for a couple months now, but I've been trying different approach strategies, and I've figured out that the one that works best (in order to weed out the time wasters) for me is to ask the guy, "Would you like some company?" If a guy doesn't intend on buying a dance, that line usually seems to have the highest success rate of getting him to admit that he's waiting for someone/not interested/whatever. But, sometimes I get the guys who......I don't necessarily know how to describe it, but they say something like, "Sure, why not." or essentially, they say that they would like company, but in a way that makes me immediately know that they have no intention of buying a dance. Then I obviously don't want to sit down, lol! But how to gracefully get out of the situation??

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    Default Re: "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    I've had guys answer in such a way as to indicate they would not buy a dance.
    In this case, simply introduce yourself quickly, and ask if he wants a dance. sometimes they still say yes, and if not, move on quickly.
    It's pretty simple.

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    Default Re: "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    just walk away. They're not going to spend money anyway so why does it matter if you leave gracefully or not?
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    Default Re: "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    See, I've had customers who say something along the lines of "sure, why not" spend money on me after I've hustled them a bit. I find they've usually just arrived in the club and perhaps aren't sure as to how they want the night to go (ie. getting dances or not), so they don't want to be rude and send you away in case they want dances later on. I don't recommend spending a long time with them, but I don't think you should discount them right off the bat. Sit for a song and then pop the question. Then you're not wasting too much time.

    A word of advice, before I has someone if they want some company, I always ask what bring them out tonight. That's the best way to determine if they want dances or not, because some guys don't realize that company = dances later, and others actually just want to chat for free on the floor with a bunch of girls. Their response can also help you gauge how best to hustle them. Like, if you have a customer who says that he had a busy day/week and wanted to unwind before heading home, that's a pretty good indication that he's going to want some dances, and you should appeal to his need to relax when trying to sell to him. If you have customer who says he just wanted a beer, you know he's likely just there to drink and watch the stage shows. It's rare that someone will directly say "I came because I want to spend tons of money on lap dances", but it's easy enough to figure out what they're looking for based on their reasoning. And if they ask what brings YOU out tonight, I like to say the pretty ladies, which inevitably leads to him complimenting you and can often lead to a quick sale.

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    Default Re: "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    @Mercedes - So, would you then recommend asking them if they'd like company BEFORE introducing yourself, and then only making the introduction if they say yes? I have always done it the other way around - it never occurred to me that perhaps I'm doing it backwards!

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    Default Re: "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    i would still try to hustle them. better than a "no."

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    Default Re: "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    I don't like mentioning the word "dance" at all in my hustle. I allude to dances and make them so antsy beforehand that by the time I say, "are you ready for me to take you away/smother you with my tits/etc.?" they're more than ready to go. The word "dance" itself is off-putting for a lot of customers, especially earlier on IMO-- I think it makes it blaringly apparent that you're really asking for money, ruining the fantasy. Come up with cutesy, sexy stuff that obviously means dances but doesn't say it.
    If I get weird answers like, "sure, you can join me," I will say, "Well I don't want to bother you. If you want me to come back later after you've settled, just let me know!" Then, if they really want me to come back, they'll say, after a few minutes/a beer or two/my stage, etc. If the guy's a time-wasting pinhead, he'll usually offer a drink or try to start a convo to get you to stay (or look confused if he really is a pinhead).
    If they say they really want you to stay but aren't moving you to dance in 5-10 songs of talk/hustle, then say you have to go check with the dj/the door/manager soon. Tell them you'll come back to take them away later unless they want to go now. This usually moves them to buy or leave you alone. If the club's busy and you have customers waiting, shorten your wait time to 2-5 songs.
    This all works for me in a difficult market and busy club full of females.
    To reiterate, I'd NEVER ask for dances upfront. "Wanna dance?" is just too easy to say no to. You are a saleslady, after all. If they give you the opportunity to hustle (you're their type/hot), you have to give them EVERY reason to say yes.

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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    If you have customer who says he just wanted a beer, you know he's likely just there to drink and watch the stage shows.
    Maybe it's just the UK culture but almost every guy here will say they just wanted to chill with some beers. It doesn't mean he won't get dances, it's just that most guys are super defensive. So it's worth hustling them all the same, about half the guys I dance for come from this group.



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    Quote Originally Posted by Cammi View Post
    Maybe it's just the UK culture but almost every guy here will say they just wanted to chill with some beers. It doesn't mean he won't get dances, it's just that most guys are super defensive. So it's worth hustling them all the same, about half the guys I dance for come from this group.
    Good point! I found that to be the case in Scotland, and even a bit here in Canada, especially with the after-work crowd. I guess it depends on how they say it. If they're avoiding eye contact and fidgeting with the beer, they probably really just want a beer. If they make eye contact and don't seem to be brushing you off, it's definitely worth a hustle. At the very least, you have a better idea of how to frame your hustle.

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    Default Re: "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    I don't like mentioning the word "dance" at all in my hustle. I allude to dances and make them so antsy beforehand that by the time I say, "are you ready for me to take you away/smother you with my tits/etc.?" they're more than ready to go. The word "dance" itself is off-putting for a lot of customers, especially earlier on IMO-- I think it makes it blaringly apparent that you're really asking for money, ruining the fantasy. Come up with cutesy, sexy stuff that obviously means dances but doesn't say it.
    If I get weird answers like, "sure, you can join me," I will say, "Well I don't want to bother you. If you want me to come back later after you've settled, just let me know!"
    I have actually tried asking for a dance without actually using the word "dance," and idk if it's just me, but it seems like 9 times out of 10, when it's worded like that, the guys I talk to just.....don't.....get it. I'll say something like, "So, are you ready to go play/have some fun?" and they'll be like, "What do you mean?" or, "Do you mean, do I want a lap dance?" *sigh* Maybe I'm just not being specific enough, and I should really say something like, "Should I smother you with my tits now?" (I'm not totally comfortable using lines like that, so that would take some getting used to, haha.) Thanks for the suggestion about saying I don't want to bother them and I'll come back later! I think I'll try that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DreamsInDigital View Post
    I have actually tried asking for a dance without actually using the word "dance," and idk if it's just me, but it seems like 9 times out of 10, when it's worded like that, the guys I talk to just.....don't.....get it. I'll say something like, "So, are you ready to go play/have some fun?" and they'll be like, "What do you mean?" or, "Do you mean, do I want a lap dance?" *sigh* Maybe I'm just not being specific enough, and I should really say something like, "Should I smother you with my tits now?" (I'm not totally comfortable using lines like that, so that would take some getting used to, haha.) Thanks for the suggestion about saying I don't want to bother them and I'll come back later! I think I'll try that.
    The word "play" is usually used for extras; even "fun" can refer to extras or drugs!!!!! lol That could explain some of the confusion. "Party" refers to drugs and/or OTC extras, too!!!
    I say things like "molest you in the back room," "drag you away," "put a stripper hurtin' on you," etc. I try to keep it funny, but obvious. Sometimes, "are you ready?" by itself works! I've even tested myself by just rubbing on guys arms and shoulders, looking in their eyes, etc without anything more than an introduction.... and they ask ME for dances!!!
    Hope all the tips help!

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    Default Re: "Sure, You Can Sit Here if You Want!"

    I may try this. I'm really uncomfortable asking for dances and I know a lot of girls use the term play. Maybe saying I'll drag you upstairs later or now will help. I feel like I'm always getting stuck just talking and then I get nothing for it. I've only done it about a month, but am trying to figure out good ways that seem to flow into the conversation rather than abruptly stop and ask for a dance.

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