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    I gotta be honest…cam modeling can sure get depressing. Yeah, sure, the pay is good. And I don’t have financial worries like the rest of the world’s source of stress, but the damn gig gets me down sometimes. After 2 years, I’m really sick of having to depend on guys to tip me for my income. Guys to fall for my personality to stick around, since I’m not getting naked like the rest of them. It’s easy to flash your tits, lift your shirt for money; the hard part is pouring your personality, character, and good soul into entertaining the people. My followers, the non-nude fans, want me for me…and the hopes one day I’ll get naked and they’ll be the first to see it all exposed.


    But as the days go on, I just want out. I’m SO close to starting my dream job and every day that I’m not doing it, I’m on cam shaking my ass and shimmying my tits. I’m more than this, and I know it.


    I’m going on cam way less than ever before. Weaning myself off the huge income and onto a simpler life. I may be downgrading my vaulted-ceilings for normal ones this coming summer…who knows what I’ll simplify. But really, my dream job is never gonna make me rich- just happy. And that is what life is truly about.


    Most dying people regret working so hard and not following their dreams. Well, I’m the opposite. I’m going to love working hard AT my dreams. For my dream life. A mediocre house in the suburbs, a nice family and dog, and helping people be healthy and happy.


    Happiness. Believe it or not, it’s a choice. You have to LET yourself be happy. Let go of the past things that piss you off, even if it was just yesterday. Let go when people cut you off or flip you the bird, even when you’re going 80 yourself. Letting go of things and living for yourself (and loved ones) is oh-so important.


    I’m going to end my lavish run on cam with a nice vacation, and then get down to the nitty gritty, day-to-day, normal job. A normal life. Trust me, more people want normal than lavish. rich. expensive.


    It’s true: Mo’ money, mo’ problems. No doubt.


    So no, I don’t want a five-headed shower, heated tile floor, electric wine opener, or gold dusted appetizers cooked by a home chef. I don’t want a mercedes, BMW, or Porsche. America drives people into jobs they don’t want, to buy things they don’t need. It truly is ridiculous. It’s the little things in life that matter. The laugh. The kiss. The warm hug. When someone pulls you close. The coffee break. The home-cooked meal. The look in his eyes. The jokes. The walks in the park. The all night talks. Truly, find what matters in life and forget the rest.


    My advice: don’t become a cam model. Work a normal job and enjoy knowing you have nothing to hide, ever.

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    BTW I did not write this... came across it on google.

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    I love camming, however I do not like getting personal with clients. That cam host is non-nude and on a tipping site, so it's a whole different ballgame.

    I think non-nude camming is way harder because you have to put too much into it and I'd never be happy doing that. (Plus I despise tip based sites and won't work for tips myself, tried it, didn't do well and didn't even like it).

    I'd rather have fun being a flirty naughty cam host or a domme than put out all that energy and end up burnt out and frustrated.


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    I found that blog very interesting. She's mentally exhausted. I've never felt that way though I did have days when I didn't feel like logging on at all --- though that was just due to laziness LOL!
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    I don't cam anymore but toward the end I could definitely relate to this. I started turning down shows because I just became annoyed with requests and... stopped caring or wanting to put forth the energy it took to please customers anymore. Same thing happened with stripping, which is how I turned to camming in the first place. Sometimes you just get burnt out or change and when you don't do something about it, you wind up feeling like this blog post. I hope she gets to what makes her happy.

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    "So no, I don’t want a five-headed shower, heated tile floor, electric wine opener, or gold dusted appetizers cooked by a home chef. I don’t want a mercedes, BMW, or Porsche.
    It’s the little things in life that matter. The laugh. The kiss. The warm hug. When someone pulls you close. The coffee break. The home-cooked meal. The look in his eyes. The jokes. The walks in the park. The all night talks. Truly, find what matters in life and forget the rest."

    ^ Actually I am the opposite of you. Before camming I had all the "little things in life that matter". Unfortunately I hardly got to experience them because I spent from the minute I woke up at 6:30am working in a horrible depressing demeaning retail/customer service job, until I got home at 7:30PM (thats more than 12 hours away, 5 days a week). I had a long commute. I hardly saw my husband and children, when I got home, I was too tired for the warm hugs and kisses, and I never got time to cook them a home-cooked meal. Way too tired for sex and walks in the park. And I was asleep by 9:30PM. And in those days I would give my right leg to be able to afford a five-headed shower, heated tile floors so my kids didnt freeze on a winter morniing, and I would have done anything for a car to be able to drive to work in. I was fucking depressed. I started camming and my life improved 110%. Now I get the little things and the gold dusted appetizers all rolled into one. I could not ask for more. I also am a none-nude model. I spend 3 hours a day talking to guys in my clothes, they lavish me with gifts and tips. Somedays I hardly make anything, but the next day I will make a bucketload in one tip. Its an easy job though if I compare it to what I did before. Working in a shop for 7 hours a day was much harder work, fake smiling, pretending to be nice, lying out of my backside about products and why they should be bought, dealing with assholes asking the same shit over and over again "where are the curtain poles" "where are the fridge handles" "is this on sale" "is this going to get reduced anytime soon" <- is just as fucking annoying as "show ass bb", but at least I can speak my mind on cam and tell them to fuck off, cause in the store I would have been sacked. So no. I am not depressed. And I will milk the money off this camming for as long as I possibly can. Doesn't matter what age you are, theres always some generous guy out there waiting to spoil you.


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    I don't want to respond directly to any of her quotes, being as she's not here to respond, and - it's a personal blog, and I never really feel it's right to put those up for external dissection. I know they are, but I wouldn't feel right doing it. I have a few internet blogs of my own, and if ever I found people on some message board picking them apart, it might feel a bit... weird.

    In short, it is clear she doesn't enjoy her job, so she shouldn't be doing it.




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    What the hell happened between this morning at 7:40 AM and now????? Banned?


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    ^^^there was some drama elsewhere on the board yesterday, having nothing to do with this thread or anything in cc

    As far as the blog, while I can't relate personally she's done a great job of articulating how she feels about camming.
    She's obviously unsatisfied, so I'm glad she's moving on to pursue other goals. Feeling "stuck" can be a horrible feeling, props to her for doing something about it.

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    Um okay, that's cool I guess. if camming depresses you and you don't want to do it anymore, great. Don't be a camgirl. Get a normal job. Be happy. Camming is certainly not for everyone, and if it makes you feel down on yourself, ashamed for using your T&A to make money, then you definitely should NOT be in the industry. But why does she think she has the right tell EVERYONE ELSE that they shouldn't become camgirls either? Oh I see, it's her advice. Well, my advice is to do what makes you happy and don't listen to people who get all preachy and try to guilt-trip you.

    For the record, I don't care about heated tiles in my bathroom or vaulted ceilings (oh wait I have vaulted ceilings in my bedroom, nvm ). I actually don't make much money TBH, partially because I'm lazy (lol) but also because I also value the 'little things' over money just like she does. I love being able to spend all day with my husband and kids. Go on an impromptu trip to the lake whenever I feel like it. Go shopping whenever the mood strikes. Go on a roadtrip to visit family for a few days. Lay around and play videogames all day long if that's what I feel like doing.

    If I had a regular job, I wouldn't be able to do any of those things. I couldn't take time off whenever I want. I would have to work 8-12 hours a day making SHIT income and I'd miss out on my kids growing up. A few years ago when I worked a regular job, I was scheduled to work on Christmas day. My family had rented a cottage a couple hours away and a bunch of my relatives that I hadn't seen in forever were all going to be there. I was so pissed off that I called in sick that day, just so I could drive up on Xmas eve, spend as much time with them as I could and then drive home the next night so I could get back to work the next morning. I couldn't really enjoy that time because I was stressed out over skipping work, and when I came back of course my boss was pissed off. All that bullshit, missing a holiday with my family all because of a shit job that paid $9 an hour. Fuck that.

    Now I can work 2-4 hours a day and take the rest of the day off to do whatever I want, while still making enough money to pay my bills and have plenty of time leftover to raise my kids and pursue any hobbies I take an interest in. If I worked more I could probably afford the heated tiles and BMW, but I like hanging out with my family in a modest home more.


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    ^^^^^I totally feel you on the Christmas thing. I like camming but the lack of social interaction is hard on me. I don't have kids and me and the boyfriend don't live together so the loneliness can get to me. However this is the first time in years that I am able to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas with my family without having to drive back home the same day. Plus i can actually afford presents. To me that makes it all worth it.

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    Working on Christmas eve/Boxing day also happened to me 10 years running in a row... and for £6 per hour ... it's such bullshit. Why should we miss Christmas for such little money? Theres no buses/trains running either on those days, so you end up paying a shit ton for a taxi or begging someone to wake up at 6am on Boxing day to give u a lift lol.

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    Yea camming can be depressing BUT its a JOB and no job is a PLEASURE. Pay is good when u work hard. I use camming for saving up my money so when I get the money saved up i can go ahead and follow my life goals. Money is opportunity !!! and no matter how u get it u get it..... No one is gonna pay your bills or give u money for FREE. I always detach myself emotionally from it!!! Its playing a role NOTHING personal. Whats the first thing u do when u get online.... PUT A SEXY ON, put a smile !!! its a game !!! There is a lot of assholes out there trying to bring us down, but hey They are losers themselves for doing so. I always tell myself guys that say something stupid and bad to YOU on cam are "pussies" and would never say ANYTHING like that to you In a REAL life.....

    Camming has a lot of benefits and i will stick with it for a few more years!!!!

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    I have never felt like that. It seems like article writer finally came to terms with facing reality. This job pays a lot more than any other job, its flexible, and there are many avenues. It also doesn't mean you can't pursue other jobs or hobbies or goals at the same time. If anything, this job makes it easier to do so.

    Then again, my biggest hobby has been studying human behavior, and since I primarily do fetish, I am pretty much doing my own human sexual behavior case study. So, in many ways, this job lines up with my own goals and interests. For her, it obviously did not.

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    I have never felt that way.

    I found that one phrase in particular was very telling "I am more than this, and I know it". That tells me that this is someone who has all kinds of negative ideas about the sex industry - that it is a low job, a bad job, something to be ashamed of, something that you have to keep a secret, some dirty little secret that makes you a lot of money but eats away at your soul.

    I think that if that is how you feel - you should NOT be in the industry. I know that it isn't always that simple, and that some women are, sadly, still getting into the industry out of desperation - and that is terrible, and heartbreaking. I hate the idea that anyone should have to take on something as big as being a sex worker just because they feel that they have no choice. But that has (luckily) never been my situation.

    Part of it is that I don't have anything to hide - I have always been 100% upfront about what I do, with everyone in my life. I don't feel that I am missing out on anything - in fact, I feel like I CAN have the things listed in this blog BECAUSE I cam/strip/whatever. I CAN get up a little later, and take a long walk with the dog through the parks and beaches. I CAN make sure that the time I have free lines up with the times that my boyfriend and friends are free. I CAN make home-cooked meals, because I'm not rushing home and shoving food down my throat between meals.

    I have another "dream job" as well, to write, but I would like to write about the industry, amongst other things. Sex, psychology and human sexuality fascinate me. The ability to work around my myriad other pursuits and interests makes me happier than punching a clock ever would. This job IS a dream job for me - even at my lowest, most burnt out points, I never forget that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lewandowskaewelina View Post
    Yea camming can be depressing BUT its a JOB and no job is a PLEASURE. Pay is good when u work hard. I use camming for saving up my money so when I get the money saved up i can go ahead and follow my life goals. Money is opportunity !!! and no matter how u get it u get it..... No one is gonna pay your bills or give u money for FREE. I always detach myself emotionally from it!!! Its playing a role NOTHING personal. Whats the first thing u do when u get online.... PUT A SEXY ON, put a smile !!! its a game !!! There is a lot of assholes out there trying to bring us down, but hey They are losers themselves for doing so. I always tell myself guys that say something stupid and bad to YOU on cam are "pussies" and would never say ANYTHING like that to you In a REAL life.....

    Camming has a lot of benefits and i will stick with it for a few more years!!!!
    Wow, this is exactly how I feel. I am a lazy ass and it takes a lot of motivation to get up and do but when I think of the financial benefits it pushes me to get up and keep going. Money is definitely opportunity... and the money from camming has made more things possible for me. I don't live an extravagant lifestyle but it has kept my head above water in terms of rent/bills etc. It is tiresome and you do come across a lot of rude assholes but you just learn to ignore them. One thing I must say that I do enjoy from it is listening to music, and doing sexy dances, that gives me some kind of buzz/adrenaline rush... something that I miss from my lap dancing days. Also, that the job is so flexible in terms of hours worked. I don't think I could ever work in retail on such low pay, I'd rather be my own boss.
    -- Stuck in a rut.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Smurfette View Post
    Um okay, that's cool I guess. if camming depresses you and you don't want to do it anymore, great. Don't be a camgirl. Get a normal job. Be happy. Camming is certainly not for everyone, and if it makes you feel down on yourself, ashamed for using your T&A to make money, then you definitely should NOT be in the industry. But why does she think she has the right tell EVERYONE ELSE that they shouldn't become camgirls either? Oh I see, it's her advice. Well, my advice is to do what makes you happy and don't listen to people who get all preachy and try to guilt-trip you.

    For the record, I don't care about heated tiles in my bathroom or vaulted ceilings (oh wait I have vaulted ceilings in my bedroom, nvm ). I actually don't make much money TBH, partially because I'm lazy (lol) but also because I also value the 'little things' over money just like she does. I love being able to spend all day with my husband and kids. Go on an impromptu trip to the lake whenever I feel like it. Go shopping whenever the mood strikes. Go on a roadtrip to visit family for a few days. Lay around and play videogames all day long if that's what I feel like doing.

    If I had a regular job, I wouldn't be able to do any of those things. I couldn't take time off whenever I want. I would have to work 8-12 hours a day making SHIT income and I'd miss out on my kids growing up. A few years ago when I worked a regular job, I was scheduled to work on Christmas day. My family had rented a cottage a couple hours away and a bunch of my relatives that I hadn't seen in forever were all going to be there. I was so pissed off that I called in sick that day, just so I could drive up on Xmas eve, spend as much time with them as I could and then drive home the next night so I could get back to work the next morning. I couldn't really enjoy that time because I was stressed out over skipping work, and when I came back of course my boss was pissed off. All that bullshit, missing a holiday with my family all because of a shit job that paid $9 an hour. Fuck that.

    Now I can work 2-4 hours a day and take the rest of the day off to do whatever I want, while still making enough money to pay my bills and have plenty of time leftover to raise my kids and pursue any hobbies I take an interest in. If I worked more I could probably afford the heated tiles and BMW, but I like hanging out with my family in a modest home more.
    Perfect!

    This rips apart her whole REASON for that story/essay/rant!

    Very well said Smurfette

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    i am too impatient to sit on cam in a room all day so I find MANY other ways to make money and I do well. Indy work, clip work, goods work. If you are unhappy, don't give up on the job just try a different approach!
    I FREAKING LOVE being a cam girl.

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    You know...
    I came across that same blog awhile ago. And I thought "wow, this girl really makes it sound horrible!" Hopefully she got out and is doing something she loves.
    In response to your question... Yah, sometimes I feel like this. I even peruse the "vanilla" job sites when I'm in those moods, and when I see what kind of jobs are out there "secretary", "part-time customer service, cold calls", etc, etc- my love of camming is renewed. lol.
    I had the opposite problem as this girl- I had a really great-paying vanilla job, had a great apartment, could buy myself nice things- the problem was, I seriously considered pouring my boiling hot coffee on my face every morning and run screaming through the plate glass windows because I hated it so much. I worked a mid-shift (10am to 7pm), so I couldn't really have a life. All I did was work, make money, and when I was off work I would spend all my time dreading going back to work on Monday, or the next morning.
    So, my ex-boyfriend suggested that I webcam as extra income. I tried it for a week, to make sure it wasn't a scam (I was so naive back then! ha!), and then I quit that vanilla job with no notice- intentionally burning those bridges so that I wouldn't be tempted to go back to that kind of job again. It was the best thing I've ever done.
    NOW- I work whenever I want. Make as much as I want. And I have time to enjoy the little things, go out with my friends, study for school. Although, I will say that being self-employed like we are takes a LOT of willpower! To log on every day/night- that takes willpower. To not be like "oh, I made $800 (or whatever amount) in one week! I can take a week off, right?"--> that takes willpower, and unfortunately my willpower was low to begin with. lol.
    I think camming is what you make it. I want it to be fun, intelligent conversations, and so it is because that's what I make it. I view camming as a life-long recession-proof job where I will always be able to make money if I need to. That's a comforting thought, to me.
    But if camming isn't what makes you happy, then yes, get out of it before you boil your face off with coffee and jump through a plate glass window. Find something that makes you truly happy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LilRedRidinGood View Post
    i am too impatient to sit on cam in a room all day so I find MANY other ways to make money and I do well. Indy work, clip work, goods work. If you are unhappy, don't give up on the job just try a different approach!
    I FREAKING LOVE being a cam girl.
    Yup. This is what I do. Camming is a great way to supplement income when I need it. It's not something I'm consistent with at all. I recently gave up on it because I'm doing well with other business ventures BUT it's nice to know it's there for me when shit hits the fan. Camming rocks in that sense.

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