I think that we can't fault guys for not knowing what a woman generally likes. How on earth would they know if they have no experience? In the United States, at least, there is ZERO sex-as-pleasure sex education and women are conditioned not to experience, enjoy, or talk about their pleasure. I know liberated, smart women who didn't have orgasms or even masturbate until their late 20s. They don't talk about it with their partners, or show their partners what a woman wants. I've had men come to me with no idea what to do, even after having several girlfriends.
So if they don't learn in school, their parents don't tell them and their lovers don't tell them, where do they learn what to do?
1)They do what feels good to them. They like their penises. They like pounding away at their penises. Why wouldn't we also like that? Why wouldn't we also experience the same arousal patterns and want to see the same things they do?
2)Porn. That's us, ladies. I'm doing my master's study in human sexuality. We hear over and over and over in our program that young people (in the United States) say they learned what they know about sex primarily from commercial media and porn. http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/1...10410001678338 http://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/1...24498809551413 It reminds me of a comic I love. The main characters are building sexually explicit snowmen. Someone else objects with, "think of the children!" and they shout back, "If they don't learn it from us, they'll learn it from the streets!" The person replies, "You ARE the streets!"
Ladies, we ARE the streets. They don't hear it in school, their partners won't talk about it. We are where they're learning about sex. So yes, I do feel obligated to demonstrate what I actually like. Not every woman is the same in exactly what they like, but we are all remarkably similar. Not only do I feel I'm doing a service to those who actually want to learn, I feel that doing what I actually like (and telling the fuck off people who insist I don't know how a woman really "cums") enhances my appreciation of the gig, too. I'm having a good time, I'm not hurting myself, it makes me want to stay on cam longer.
/end epic sexologist rant.




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He'd probably beg to differ. As far as I know, since I broke up with him he's not a big fan of me. I love him to pieces, miss him daily and he's a great guy, he just wasn't MY great guy. We could never make it work.

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