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    Strippers are seen by many people and many insitutions as some different breed. Women who aren't 'normal' because they're strippers. Customers view us like this, and when people find out that somebody they know is one, or somebody they know's girlfriend, sister or friend is one-it's as if they're not human, they don't have the same emotions and feelings. Kind of like a celebrity in some ways, they're seen as people that are 'different'.


    I just see it as a way of making money, a JOB..........
    People either have you on a mega pedestal, or they judge you negatively. Or make assumptions about you. What is the big deal really?
    I dance naked sure. But I see myself naked every day. We were born naked.
    I dance on stage to sexy music. But what woman hasn't done that in a nightclub or party, at some point?
    I flirt-sure how many women go out and get drunk and flirt, every night?!

    I guess it's a case of being open minded....
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    Ugh. I debate on this all the time.

    Unfortunately, I haven't found a way around these stereotypes and assumptions. I generally tell people that I am in the adult industry (instead of saying "stripper") and attempt to get to know people before I discuss work. I usually get the "Oh, you're nothing how I figured a stripper would be!", and as nice as that sounds, it makes our industry seem shitty.

    Sometimes the poeple in our industry really do act in a way that would affect the rest of us "normal" people, but I guess it's the same in every other kind of industry. Although, telling people what I do and then getting the look over and scoff that usually comes with it never feels good.

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    ^This is a great post..Yea I get tired of feeling like I have to hide who I really am bc people will treat me different or pass judgement. When I was younger I was more oblivious to this fact and honestly life was easier..When Uve been doing this for a quite a while u become like a hermit sometimes as its been well explained here on SW before...We become recluses bc people r mean to us in the 'real world' and we dont want to be hurt emotionally in our 'real lives.' So we keep to ourselves more so. I see that women with kids are sometimes a little more outgoing bc they have to seem 'normal' to benefit the kid and take care of it/them..We arent gonna be able to change peoples 'minds..There are alot of people who r threatened by our jobs and men who see it as a disrespectful occupation..Its a sad truth..The best we can do is know our worth internally..To know that we go to work do our jobs and are still great people inside..And if we rnt then damn maybe a little self improvement should be sought...We all can use that at times... But really fuck all the ignorant people..Them and their opinions are worthless in the big scheme of things..

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    The ironic thing is, this thing I'm bitching about -is also probably the reason many customers frequent strip clubs and buy our dances. Because we're strippers-we're a fantasy, we're not like 'Normal' women. We're sexual beings there for their entertainment....?
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    ^ I lead myself in circles like this. I'll argue our case when someone is bringing all the negative stereotypes out, but then be glad that we are a bit taboo because it gives men something different to 'normal' women. I want to make people see we are people but justify giving up arguing by keeping the mystery!

    On personal note I haven't really encountered much of this negative attitude... quite a few people know i dance, but maybe it's just that they are very close so know the real me or i hardly see so don't really get any attention about it...? No one seems to have suddenly changed their attitude towards me.

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    It makes me really sad sometimes how we're viewed by most people. I have days when I just feel lonely and isolated, and afraid of reaching out for fear of being misunderstood, judged, not taken seriously, and worst of all, taken advantage of.
    Unfortunately part of the reason we're seen as such lowlifes is because many of the girls in the club ARE. Just read the "trip reports" thread. Those trip reports make me dread talking to guys for fear of them expecting what they're getting from those girls, from me.

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    Most of the people I know don't judge me based on what I do, but that's also because I dj as well...so I have something other than just "being a stripper". I model, dj, and dance. I'm in the entertainment industry. Plus those are my friends and that's why they're my friends...because they don't give two shits. Don't get me wrong, at first I got a lot of questions and people looked at me as "that stripper chick", but now that my djing is coming together they just see me as myself because I've hung out enough. I don't act like a stripper in public....except when I'm out seeing my dj friends and i happen to get a little drunk and grind on my boyfriend...but other than that, that's it. I'm naturally a very sexually open and obnoxious person, and crack jokes like I'm a teenager, so people just know that's my personality. The problem is mostly with women. There are very few other females I've found that I can get along with based on the fact that I'm a dancer. I have 3 non-stripper female friends and one of them used to dance...one of them may as well be because she likes to run around naked all the time anyway. lol. I guess it's finding those people that are on your same wavelength. Heck, my boyfriend's family is kinda conservative, yet they know I dance and they love me. His mother actually urged him to date me because she could tell I made him happy and we have a lot in common. So.....not everyone judges. Sometimes at first, but you can prove them wrong. And there will always be people who will make up lame stories. I heard from a friend that a girl said that "some stripper chick" (me) was hooking up with a certain guy who happened to be a good friend of mine....not true... though we did end up fooling around at one point later. lol. but still....there will always be haters.

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    At the same time, most dancers dont have the luxury of meeting people or having people close to them give them break and not judge..To the few who luck out, well good for u...I have college degrees and am a very professional all business type of dancer and people still judge..They just lump u in with the drug addicts extras girls prostitutes etc even if u speak well and carry urself well..ANd I dont feel its right to think just bc u have another job that somehow ur better than those girls who 'only' dance..Just cant get away from the judgement calls.

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    ^Ugh I hate the "JUST dancing?". As if the only proper way to make money is anything but using your looks. When the job isn't even all about looks. Do these people hate on models too? I suppose there's the 'bimbo model' sterotype, but I don't know how nasty or perpetuated that is. I've had customers say "you could be a supermodel!" so it's a step higher than stripper! Ugh. I don't know about modelling but I would think your looks have a huge impact on whether you get partiular jobs, whereas stripping is sales, psych, business acumen, people skills.

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    I didn't mean to downgrade anyone who "just dances" right now dancing is pretty much my only income, but i think people look at me in a better light because I have an ultimate goal to not dance eventually. It's still kinda fucked up though. And I also get the comments about modeling too....which I am also trying to get into. I'd rather pose for a few hours and get paid a few hundred bucks than hustle in a club and bust my ass all night trying to get cheap men to spend their money on me. Just a little bitter on the business right now. :-/

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    It's completely true. Plus they assume we take baths in $5.00 bills and can just buy whatever we like, whenever we like, with little or no planning.

    I blame the mainstream media for this.

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    I blame media for a lot of it, too. It seems they think we earn enough money to be of an uppercrust society.
    Then again, one thing I hate is men coming into the clubs I work in telling me 'You'd earn so much more if you worked at (XYZ city, country). Like they know ?! lol
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    ^Haha yeah I had someone tell me to go work in vegas, that's where the money is. I was working in a small northern town, just so i was out of town while still at uni. I was like "...but i live here?" He was adament i wouldn't make any money here (tbf huuuuuuge money was not regular or likely, but it got me out of my hole and many girls made 3-500 regulalrly) and to go to vegas. My life is here dude! Yeah i'll just move to vegas, the most competitive stripping city in teh world probably! Duh.

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    Just like you have said here the media is to blame for this...in every movie or TV-series that feature strippers in any form they are always fucked up and damaged. Then of course media loves any story that involves a stripper sad story...we never hear or read about the content and successful stripper. Most people dont frequent stripclubs very often and dont know any REAL strippers so they base their thoughts about strippers from what they see and hear. Almost every person that I know tells me I am nothing like a stripper and in the club I get "WHY are you working here...? I m sure you can get a better job!" all the time. I tend to avoid socializing with "normal" people because I hate lying about what I do but being judged is becoming boring... I doubt the way society looks at us will ever change though, people LOVE to judge, and to be fair: a lot of strippers do fit the stereotype in one way or another. I think many of us ARE different, we are free spirits who love the freedom this job gives us. And we give up being accepted by society because who cares?! People can judge me all they want but I prefer my life to theirs.

    I know a girl who tried dancing for a few mths and that is her BIGGEST secret in life, she absolutely loved it but now she is tied down at a job she hates and when we speak she always says how jealous she is of me and how she wishes she could just dance instead...when I ask why doesnt she just do it the answer is that she cant tell anyone. Noone would understand etc etc.... So I think to myself: how can all these people be your friends if they will judge you like that?! People who dont accept me for who I am are not my friends...I wouldnt want them in my life anyway!

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    Quote Originally Posted by djezcheeze View Post
    I didn't mean to downgrade anyone who "just dances" right now dancing is pretty much my only income, but i think people look at me in a better light because I have an ultimate goal to not dance eventually.
    Do you think most girls DON'T have an ultimate goal of doing something other than dancing?
    I mean, it sounds like you downplay the fact that you dance when you tell people about yourself, because you identify as a DJ.. that's kind of like if I were to tell people I'm a chef... it's not making me any money at the moment but I sure as shit graduated cooking school. I could tell people I'm a model because I've had photoshoots.
    Not only that, but as someone else mentioned your sampling of "people" looking at you "in a better light" are your friends. People who don't have any personal relation to you could give two shits about your goal to not dance eventually, and may not even believe you.

    I'm a full time student and I'm proud of myself for working as hard as I do at school AND dancing. I am in NO way ashamed to be a dancer, and I am unapologetic about my source of income. I am a performer and I thoroughly enjoy performing, I look forward to going into work to perform and make money doing it. Yes, it makes it difficult to relate to quite a few people and it does discourage me from making new friends, especially male ones.

    Anyhow, I'd say it IS a big deal to be in the adult industry, if only for the simple reason that most people are NOT in the adult industry.

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    I am very open about the fact that I am a stripper. I just meant that most people can see you as a real person if you have hobbies, interests, goals etc. I know girls at my club who meet the typical stripper stereotype criteria of dancing being their life, unstable relationships, drug and alcohol issues, etc. Whenever anyone asks what I do i tell them that I'm an exotic dancer and a dj because I am both. The one I'm just starting out to make a little money on, but can't support myself completely with. I didn't mean to offend anyone. I also work with some amazing career strippers who constantly bank and I admire them, but I'm not willing to put forth the effort to be that good because I really don't want to be doing this more than another year. I do agree with the previous posters that the media does have a lot to do with how people view strippers. Every time I see movies with "strippers" in it i get pissed off because I'm like that's so not true. I think I might just be lucky with my friends too in that they aren't the judging type. I'm also extremely open and don't try to hide anything about myself.

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    ^ I am a career stripper..I dont constantly bank...I have one or two people who look out for me but no big following..As Ive aged that dies off... "but I think people look at me in a better light because I have an ultimate goal not to dance eventually" is really offensive. U r feeding into what 'most people' think who condemn dancers and think they can 'do better' with their lives rather than to dance. So these people r looking at career dancers like me in a 'bad light' and ur offending girls like me..I agree with Chefkitty's post...We all have other goals other than to dance for the next 50 years...U think ur better than those girls who stay n the industry just bc ur a dj/and/or have other things going for u..I think it is the way u came across thats rubbed people like me the wrong way...Its hard to leave this industry bc even with a college degree in hand many people like me will end up starting out with low paying jobs...That makes for a rough existence....And why so many girls end up dancing alot longer than they would like to be.

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    Yeah...not feeding into it and definitely not trying to offend. I always talk to my boyfriend about the career strippers at my work and how I wish I could do that for as long as they have, but honestly my brain and my body couldn't handle it. I love dancing, I know I cant do it forever, so I'm planting seeds now. What I'm saying is I don't choose my job as my identity and that's what keeps people from judging me. I don't think it's healthy no matter what career you're in to be identified by that career. Even people at the bank ask me what i do and i say I'm an entertainer at a gentlemen's club. T hey are very nice to me whenever I come in. I have my own personality, hobbies, passions, etc. People like me because I'm fun to be around and don't take shit seriously. Maybe if us dancers weren't so "omg people see me negatively" people wouldn't see us negatively. I don't act like it's taboo or it's a big freaking secret. And if someone has a problem with it, well fuck them. It's definitely not me that gives dancers a bad name because everyone i know knows what I do and they don't judge me. I don't do anything illegal and it is a legitimate job.... unless you're sucking dick or fucking your clients, there's no reason to be so defensive. Seriously, everyone needs to chill the fuck out, get some daylight, or like a hobbie or something.

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    Yeah...not feeding into it and definitely not trying to offend. I always talk to my boyfriend about the career strippers at my work and how I wish I could do that for as long as they have, but honestly my brain and my body couldn't handle it. I love dancing, I know I cant do it forever, so I'm planting seeds now. What I'm saying is I don't choose my job as my identity and that's what keeps people from judging me. I don't think it's healthy no matter what career you're in to be identified by that career. Even people at the bank ask me what i do and i say I'm an entertainer at a gentlemen's club. T hey are very nice to me whenever I come in. I have my own personality, hobbies, passions, etc. People like me because I'm fun to be around and don't take shit seriously. Maybe if us dancers weren't so "omg people see me negatively" people wouldn't see us negatively. I don't act like it's taboo or it's a big freaking secret. And if someone has a problem with it, well fuck them. It's definitely not me that gives dancers a bad name because everyone i know knows what I do and they don't judge me. I don't do anything illegal and it is a legitimate job.... unless you're sucking dick or fucking your clients, there's no reason to be so defensive. Seriously, everyone needs to chill the fuck out, get some daylight, or like a hobbie or something.
    Everyone has hobbies...Virtually everyone gets daylight...I do when Im out running errands or mountain climbing or going to an opera or art exhibit or sewing... Every dancer has her own personality so idk where ur getting all of that..Every person on this planet has their own unique personality. Also just bc u assume these people dont judge u bc they 'act' nice to u, dont assume in some cases that isnt more than just a bunch of bullshit..After u walk away many of these people who u think of u as cool and a good person are oftentimes talking shit and making fun of u behind ur back and ud never know it. They just wont say it to ur face. When I was younger I used to think the same thing when I was more outgoing and lively and was just myself in front of people..As more time went by girls who were actually my so called friends informed me that people I thought were my friends bc they were nice to e and acted laid back about my job were really shit talking me when I wasnt around. The truth hurt. Ignorance is bliss sometimes when ur younger but as u get a little older u wise up and have to readjust. And the idea of if dancers werent so 'omg people see me negatively' that somehow that stigma would dissipate as if we brought it upon ourselves is complete bs. I dont believe that one bit. Most of society does view us negatively its just that many people outside of a bar choose to talk more shit behind closed doors. I personally focus on those few people I know who know me and like me for who I am and accept me whether Im a dancer, a lawyer, or I work at Walmart.

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    Also it doesnt really matter that YOU dont choose ur job as ur identity. If you dance for 2 years or for 20 the people who know this information will remember u and identify u as a dancer even if u became a lawyer or a judge after two years of dancing for example...People dont generally let that go. U cant prevent how others label you. And its hard to know what they r really thinking when most people talk the shit behind ur back while they act completely different to ur face.

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    none of my friends have ever said anything bad ( to my face, anyways) about me being a dancer, my boyfriend and his family are cool with it, but i read and hear ppl all the time who think of us as sex-crazed, drug addicted partiers who couldn't possibly be down to earth moms or just regular people, and have a myriad of mental problems to boot. i've had customers who say," wow you're just like a normal person!" in an astonished tone of voice. like wtf did you think, i popped outta my mom in a lycra g string and I'm not a human being like you are? yes, there are the few fucked up ones, but not every girl who dances was molested by their father or shoots up constantly like the media likes to portray ( not making light of ppl who were abused or anything). people love stereotypes. what it comes down to.

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    Cheeze, the people at the bank are nice to you because you are HANDING THEM MONEY. I had a feeling there was something a little off about how you view others' perception of you, and it makes sense now. I'm surprised to see such a naive statement coming from a dancer, since you should be familiar with the concept of being nice to people that give you money, because they're giving you money.
    Furthermore, being liked and "fun to be around" is distinctly different than being respected. Nobody will refer to you as their "stripper friend" to your face. The tellers at the bank will wait till you leave before giggling. "Ha, entertainer at a gentleman's club.. yeah right!! She's a stuh-rippper."

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    Yeah...I'm not naive. I know people say shit. and I don't really care what people say behind my back as long as I don't know it. I honestly don't give a shit. I don't hang out with girls mostly, I have very few close friends and the ones I have do respect me. I spend most of the time with my boyfriend and he and his family don't judge me. That's really all that's important to me. I don't feel like the people I know see me as some freak show. And I rarely hang out with other women...never trusted them and never will. I have two girl friends and one of them used to be a dancer and the other wishes she could be one. And I do have mental problems, but that's not why I dance. I don't use drugs or have been abused or anything like that, so I don't fit the stereotype. I'm more likely to keep my mental issues from my friends and people I know than what I do for a living. To me that is more embarrassing. And it's not like I plan on being a doctor or a lawyer someday... I'm planning on being in the nightlife industry, so who gives a shit if i danced naked for money. Most people are like oh ok whatever. I am not naive and I'm a very paranoid person and if I think nothing is being said behind my back by those who i trust then there probably isn't. People who i'm semi-friends with...sure, I'm sure they say things, but they still are decent to me and help me out and i help them out if they need it. And my friend who used to dance by the way...people don't really remember or even give a shit that she did. The people who do give a shit are ass holes in my opinion, so why associate with them anyway?

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    I'm a very paranoid person and if I think nothing is being said behind my back by those who i trust then there probably isn't.

    ***People who u r the closest to are sometimes the ones who judge the most. This is where u do seem to be a little naiive imho. Idk anyone whos family loved ones and friends all have never said an off handed comment about dancing or how they wished I had another career besides dancing. I always stick up for myself even to my own family, I dont give a fuck..If they dont want to support me they can fuck off, or Ill tell them exactly what I think of them and tell them off if necessary..

    And my friend who used to dance by the way...people don't really remember or even give a shit that she did. The people who do give a shit are ass holes in my opinion, so why associate with them anyway?
    ***Yea but do u really know that everyone this girl has ever come n contact with will never ever remember that this girl was a dancer? Prolly not.. U may not like being called naiive but I think u may be in a little bit of denial there. Its not so much 'so why associate with them anyway?' thats the issue..Its simply the fact that people do make negative comments or make fun of girls who dance..It happens, its not a concern of if u do or dont associate with people who make those statements, its a matter of whether its said by anyone at all in the world.

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