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    Being so new, I'm really trying to clearly set my boundaries when it comes to contact. Our LDs are bikini only so I don't allow any touching where my costume is covering (I do wear tiny bottoms not a thong, I don't mind if they touch the cheek area that's exposed). I've always been uncomfortable with guys touching me sexually (I don't hook up w strangers, even when I'm out partying like in Vegas w my girlfriends), but because I know this is a job, the rubbing of my arms/legs/midsection hasn't been incredibly bothersome. The thing is, I see all the other girls in the dance booths HEAVILY grinding/nuzzling w customers, sticking their boobs in their face, etc. I even saw (isolated incident) a girl actually making out w one the other night. Is this a normal level of contact for a bikini only club?? I'm not too worried about extras occurring as I know our management is pretty strict about it (there are cameras everywhere and they've sent a girl home for rubbing a guy's crotch on the outside of his jeans w her hand), but I'd like some reassurance that I can still make decent money w LDs without outright dry humping during the first song even when all the girls seem to be doing it and my customer sees that happening. Also, I've had a couple instances where a customer's given a little kiss on my midsection; I personally don't mind it but only if they're like 3-4 dances in -- how am I supposed to verbalize that to them? Advice please! Thank you!

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    Whether or not you can make money offering minimal contact depends greatly on your city and club. If you feel comfortable posting that, maybe a dancer can chime in. If not, well, are you making money you're happy with right now? You are new and there is still a learning curve to get your hustle down pat, but if you're making a very small amount of money, especially compared to other girls (don't go around asking how much they're making, but you can usually tell when someone is going to the back often to do dances and get a ballpark idea of what the other girls are making), then maybe your boundaries just don't work for that club. That doesn't mean you should be more flexible with them or allow more contact, just understand that it's going to be harder for you to compete and make money in a club where higher contact than you're comfortable giving is the norm.

    It's hard to verbalize changing levels in contact based on how much a customer is spending. Your best bet would be to try selling blocks of time or charging more for a "naughtier" dance and letting customers know how much more contact they're getting with those options.

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    Agreed it all depends on what you personally want to do and the club you are working at, you dont have to do alot of touching you can focus on the dancing and follow your own style at the bikini club, I don't work at a bikini club so im not sure how things are since im used to topless and a thong or a full show lapdance with alot of grinding and rubbing and contact with the customer and them being allowed to touch to a certain extent and so forth, just have your own style, if the other girls do something else that should not bother you just be your own dancer! hope it all works out for you

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    You can stick to what you are comfortable with and just know that the other girls who are dry humping in the same position for the whole song or numerous songs, or putting their mouth on or putting their hand on his d*() are probably not happy about what they are doing. They are just afraid of not making $. They are not thinking about their mental health and they won't last long. They will either get arrested or so messed up in the head that they simply can't work anymore. If girls are prostituting in the club and management is allowing that, then you are in a really bad place and need to find a new club.

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    I personally don't have an issue with boobs in the face because I keep my hands on my boobs so they can't do the lobster claw grab. That is what I call defensive dancing. I also grind but not in the same position for an extended period. I also call that defensive dancing because guys will grab all over in a no contact dance. No contact dancing is dangerous in my opinion. If I am at a distance bending a rapist can easily stick his hands in my g string. If I am putting my bootie up against him I have control over him which is how it needs to be.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sasee View Post
    No contact dancing is dangerous in my opinion. If I am at a distance bending a rapist can easily stick his hands in my g string. If I am putting my bootie up against him I have control over him which is how it needs to be.
    I totally disagree. Dancing gets dangerous when the dancer isn't constantly aware of her customer and his movements and isn't dancing defensively, not when she's far away from him. The only way a customer could "easily" stick his hands in a dancer's gstring os if she's got her back to him and is checking herself out in a mirror instead of focusing on what he's doing. I'd argue that high contact is more dangerous because you're closer to the customer: it's less of a reach and it's easier for them to hold you down and try to get away with more. No matter what the contact levels, dancers have to pay attention to what's going on and keep an eye on wandering hands and tongues at all times.

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    thanks ladies -- i'm trying to develop a style that's best for me, that makes the custie feel like the dance was worth his money, but also comfortably avoiding his boner. hahaha. i had a guy the other night that made me REALLY uncomfortable even though I was dancing with him in basically the same fashion that I do with everyone else. I think it was because he was huge (6'7") and i'm really small (5'1"; 110 lbs) and so his junk was so obviously palpable even with jeans on. I do a bit of face to face grinding on the lap but not for the entire song, and he kept grabbing my waist and pushing me hard down into his lap. I tried to be nice and tell him to take it easy but he kept doing it so I just lost all enthusiasm, said I was really wiped out and didn't do another song. I wish I had been more assertive.

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    I have a 2 strikes & you're out rule. YOU are the entertainer. YOU set the rules. Don't let ANYONE do anything that you don't want them doing. Tell them the rules before the dance, ex: "You can respectfully touch me anywhere besides the bikini area" if they push that boundary once, you let them know that that is unacceptable. If they do it again it's over. You don't owe them anymore time. Because in a way it's almost 3 strikes. You set the initial rules- they break it. You give them another chance. They break it. You tell them they broke the rules and give them another chance. They break it. Peace out, bitch. No more chances for your ass.

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    Default Re: newb -- contact during LD

    I immensely dislike contact from strangers. I nvr allow boob touching, but I will allow them to touch legs, thighs, back, shoulders, those sorts of places, just so I know where their hands are at all times. As for boobs in the face, as sm1 else said I always have my own hands on them, & I get abt an inch away from the customer's face - I work in a decent club, but I am one of the very few girls there that doesn't allow boob touching, so this has the double benefit of teasing & limiting his field of vision to minimise his view of what other girls are allowing.

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