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    Im going to be new to stripping and im worried about men asking me if im married or have a boyfriend or anything ( I am actually married), I know I obviously would say "no I dont have a bf" or something along those lines, but what if a customer constantly asks to go out with you? like even if they insist "just as friends" going out to go do something or if they ask for my number, how do you respond to that?


    Ide like some feedback on this, I personally would be like "hell no you cant go out with me or have my number its a job" (lmao), but at the same time I dont want to piss off a customer and not get paid, especially if they constantly insist on it, how do any of you experienced strippers avoid this?

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    Default Re: Refusing to go out with customers...

    When it comes to the bf/husband question, I've generally told customers I've got a bf even tho I've nvr dated until recently, while I was dancing. I wear a ring on my left hand that customers sm times mistake for a wedding band, altho it's just a family ring. When they point to it I tell them that being from Poland I would wear a wedding set on my right hand instead. Easiest way for me to keep a story straight, as customers & dancers talk.

    As to the phone number requests, there were several great suggestions in Hustle Hut. One of these involves giving out a digit for each dance the customer buys from you. My spin on this is, as deep down I am quite a bitter and spiteful bitch, I give them the phone number of the slag my ex left me for.

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    I just use the club rules as an excuse. (even if it's not in the rules) "I'd be breaking the club rules if I did that..you wouldn't want me to lose my job would you?" For giving my number I use the same excuse. It's an easy way to get out of things (: I've had a small few say "Well the other girls did" I will just shrug my shoulders and smile and say "Well I'm just trying to be a good girl and follow the rules" And then normally at that point they move on or change the subject..

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    Default Re: Refusing to go out with customers...

    Quote Originally Posted by hollywood6 View Post
    I just use the club rules as an excuse. (even if it's not in the rules) "I'd be breaking the club rules if I did that..you wouldn't want me to lose my job would you?" For giving my number I use the same excuse. It's an easy way to get out of things (: I've had a small few say "Well the other girls did" I will just shrug my shoulders and smile and say "Well I'm just trying to be a good girl and follow the rules" And then normally at that point they move on or change the subject..
    Thats a good one to use, alot of guys will say other girls did to try and make you feel like its common and ok when its not, you have to remind them that just because you dance for them on stage and they get a lap dance with you after or whatever its not a dating meet up for singles, most guys will respect that but I have had alot of guys get really agressive and start to touch during lap dances, I try and let as much go as possible since they have been drinking but sometimes you have to draw the line no matter how much you dont want to piss off a customer you have to protect yourself also and if they want to act that way its their problem not yours..

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    You don't have to do anything that makes you uncomfortable. Sometimes, this mean losing out on (potential) money, but it's all about your personal boundaries. In my three years of dancing, I have never met with a customer OTC. My excuses vary from "we just met" to "I don't do that" dependi on the customer. Only recently did I start giving out my number to better keep in touch with regulars, and even that is only with big spenders. Before, I communicated strictly via email. All my customers think I'm single because that's just part of the fantasy.

    Basically, every dancer runs her business differently, and it's okay to just say no to your customers.

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    Default Re: Refusing to go out with customers...

    see if you can feel comfortable stating you're married. Something like - "I'm married - but we can have fun in here!". Be cheerful.
    Giving out cell phone # for texting - just size up the customer. Some want to know if you are going to be at the club before making the trip.

    You may lose customers. but they are worth losing. Many will respect your boundaries and adjust.
    Happy dancing !

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    Default Re: Refusing to go out with customers...

    Some custys will try to get you to agree to give them a number when they have spent very little money. I'm realizing that some customers are just used to low self esteem girls. I don't think we should have to pretend like we are anything more than what we are. We are just people who do lap dances. I don't want to talk to customers outside of work. That is crazy. If they are in the club and want dances great if not on to the next guy. I don't want to feel like I am being stalked. My personal life is no more their business than the personal life of the bouncer. Some of these guys are like the people who stalk famous people because they really identify with a character that they played in a movie. They are just actors playing a role. So are we. Guys like that are not dealing with a full deck of cards.

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