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    So I met this guy at my old job (he was a customer). We ended up exchanging number, and having a one night stand (who cares if it's not morally ideal). .Before it happened he took me out to a few bars around town. The next time was the day when I got back from Thanksgiving Break. He took me to see a movie I wanted to see, to an Italian restaurant, and walk around town. We hung out all night. . I've had one night stands in the past (and none of them have ever took me out, let alone pay for EVERYTHING). We did random things like play pool, (on our downtown walk we were walking past a restaurant and talked about drinks. I was like I never had one, and he said let's get one). I even offered to pay. I like him, but I don't know. Everytime we would hang out for at least 6 or 7 hours. Tonight he wants to go to this other restaurant/bar after he gets out of the gym (he called and asked today like all times). He has not brought up dating or anything elseMaybe he likes me? Maybe not?

    Even though we talked for like a week or so before meeting, the fact that it was in a strip club...uhhh...yeah ladies let me know your input. At least it's not bad news this time.
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    Default Re: New Guy...Still Iffy On This.

    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaCM View Post
    So I met this guy at my old job (he was a customer). We ended up exchanging number, and having a one night stand (who cares if it's not morally ideal). .Before it happened he took me out to a few bars around town. The next time was the day when I got back from Thanksgiving Break. He took me to see a movie I wanted to see, to an Italian restaurant, and walk around town. We hung out all night. . I've had one night stands in the past (and none of them have ever took me out, let alone pay for EVERYTHING). We did random things like play pool, (on our downtown walk we were walking past a restaurant and talked about drinks. I was like I never had one, and he said let's get one). I even offered to pay. I like him, but I don't know. Everytime we would hang out for at least 6 or 7 hours. Tonight he wants to go to this other restaurant/bar after he gets out of the gym (he called and asked today like all times). He has not brought up dating or anything elseMaybe he likes me? Maybe not?

    Even though we talked for like a week or so before meeting, the fact that it was in a strip club...uhhh...yeah ladies let me know your input. At least it's not bad news this time.
    It's always interesting to me how many of you ladies hold it against a guy who goes to strip clubs you work in. Just sayin'...

    He sounds like a perfectly nice guy with good intentions, but hey, he did go to a strip club so, hey, gotta be something wrong with him.

    I say give the poor bastard a chance!

    A rare as my visits to an SC was before I was a member of SW, reading SW as a guy forever convinced me to avoid them unless I had a specific reason to visit one.

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    Default Re: New Guy...Still Iffy On This.

    I don't think it's a question of whether or not he likes you... Obviously he does.

    I don't get what the problem is. One of the longest/most intimate relationships I've had was with a former customer (though it's over now, we lived together for two years). I think it's a general rule for most girls working at an SC not to date customers, but occasionally rules just have to be broken if there's a real connection.

    If you're trying to date the guy, forget about the fact that you met him at the club and date like you would with any other dude.

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    Default Re: New Guy...Still Iffy On This.

    i met my current boyfriend in my club a year ago. he is the sweetest, cutest, most loyal man i've EVER dated..treats me like an queen and i consider myself lucky to have him. so yeah, just because you met in a club doesn't mean he's a "loser". but then again he wasn't really a regular there.

    my former boyfriend who i met in the club when if first started was a regular there..i found out later he went there every night, dated 3 girls who worked there before me; it ended when he cheated on me with my co-worked and best friend loser rich kid who just wanted to brag to his prep school buddies about how many strippers he banged the summer after college. o well. so yeah i've been wary of guys who i meet at the club, but they aren't always douches !
    thats just my personal observation tho, and there are always exceptions

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    Default Re: New Guy...Still Iffy On This.

    The only girL ive genuinely liked in years of dating is a dancer i met at a club.

    He doesnt have to mention dating, you kind of already are, so just let things take their flow.

    Even if it doesnt develop into something serious, and even if he turns out to be an ass or only after sex, it wont be because of where you met. It happens a whole lot with nondancers as well.

    For now, enjoy his company and give him a chance, and get those thoughts out of your head. Why assume the worst when theres nothing bad even?

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    Idk like tonight we went to the bar and I tried to pay for my own drink and food, tried to hand the bartender my money and he was like "Babe what are you doing? I got it." I mean damn. I was like I didn't have a problem paying he was like "Lol, maybe after a few weeks you can buy me a beer, but I got this now." Then he dropped me off so he can get proper rest for wok. Yeah well I don't even really like guys calling me that if it's not official. He asked if I wanted to go to the club (dance) with him on Saturday. I said yeah. He is always referencing stuff we can do. I still think I'm in the friend zone. Like he didn't try to bring up dating or anything, so screw it (even though it's still early). I always refer to myself as single in convo, but don't want to bring it up - because I'm NOT tryna be crush by hearing him say "I just see you as a friend" as in the past. He is fun to hang with though.

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    ****************************Something interesting...I said I'm not dressing up tonight but when we go out on Saturday I will. He said he will know tommorow for sure if he can still do it. Casually I asked, what do you usually do on weekends. He said bars, occasionally clubs, or help his dad do handy work. Should he not have known if it was for sure (unless an emergency before asking me)? Idk maybe he is talking to other girls on the side or girlfriend and has to see if he has time to sneak around or fit me in?

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    Default Re: New Guy...Still Iffy On This.

    Quote Originally Posted by JessicaCM View Post
    Idk maybe he is talking to other girls on the side or girlfriend and has to see if he has time to sneak around or fit me in?
    Or he is doing handy stuff with his Dad all day.

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