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    So I've been dancing only a couple weeks now, and this situation happened that really annoyed me. I sat down w a customer (I've seen around the club before, apparently he's a big spender), had 2 beers with, and was having a friendly convo, mostly about him going on and on about his life, but A LOT about how much money he spends at strip clubs and how everyone "knows" him. He made it clear that he doesn't like to buy dances but just likes to chit chat and spend money on girls that he likes. He complimented me on how pretty he thought I was, and while I could've been working the room, I was pretty invested in this guy cause he's giving all these signals that he's gonna be spending. I get called to the stage and smile and say "That's me. Are you gonna catch my show?" he says "Yes of course." -- I expected him to go up and sit next to the stage and tip SOMETHING, this dude stays way far in the back where we were sitting and doesn't do shit. I thought that was a little rude but acted like it wasn't a big deal and went back to sit next to him, he was like "That was very good" but THEN another dancer goes up literally right after me and in the middle of her first song, he gets up and makes it rain like 50 singles on her while I'm sitting there like a fuckin idiot. I'm super heated @ this point, but I just stayed cool and said "You know I've been having a nice convo with you, thanks for the drinks, but you keep going on and on about how rich you are and you like to take care of the girls but you're not taking care of me @ all. I don't know if you did that to make me jealous but it was very rude, excuse me I have to go make some money." and he kind of stares @ me really offended, doesn't say a word, and I just got up and left. Like WTF was that???

    The bartender had also told me a story that happened w that guy where two dancers got fired because they got into some kind of shouting match with each other and he was in the middle of it. From what I take it, this dude gets his jollies off pitting girls against one another to vie for his money. Ugh. I mean what does he really want me to do?? BEG?? And then it makes me wonder how all these other girls managed to get him to spend on them, I guess I'll never know.

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    Default Re: chatting up customer for long period of time -- doesn't even tip my stage show

    Ignore the loser!

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    Default Re: chatting up customer for long period of time -- doesn't even tip my stage show

    I will from here on out, plus he's super ugly and doesn't have a neck.

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    I'm pretty new as well, but ime so far, the customers who tend to spend the most money are the ones who never bring up anything remotely related to it. They won't talk about how much $$ they make, and most of the time they won't even say what their job is. The ones who do talk about money seem to either be kinda cheap (at least in relation to how much of your time they expect to get for the amount of $$ they spend), or troublemakers. (I.e. they will mention after I bring up dances, "Actually, I don't get dances, I only like to go to VIP." and then after I try getting them into VIP, they're like, "*But* I only like VIP with girls who do (insert extra here.)")

    Probably best to treat him like a regular customer and leave after a couple songs if he hasn't compensated you for your time. *Then* if he really wants you to stay, he'll pay to make it happen. (Otherwise, he probably wasn't as interested as you thought!) Yeah, it's weird that some guys spend tons tipping certain girls and won't even give a dollar to others who are just as (or more) attractive, but eh......no point in wasting a ton of time trying to figure it out, imo.

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    ^that's what i was thinking too. i know he's loaded cause the bouncers have told me he was, but i just do not have the desire to hustle him further when there's other customers on the floor.

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    Customers like the guy mentioned like to have control over the girls. Believe it or not, some dancers would continue to go over to him over and over, hoping that at some point he would tip them like he tips the other girls. I would personally just ignore him from here on out, just to let him know that YOU are the one with the power, not him.

    Besides, you can't be THAT cool if you don't have a neck.

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    hahahaha agreed. i realize that letting customers feel like they are powerful is a part of the gig -- but geezus you don't have to outright make me feel like a fool for your amusement. fuck that guy.

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    Default Re: chatting up customer for long period of time -- doesn't even tip my stage show

    Quote Originally Posted by jadey23 View Post
    A LOT about how much money he spends at strip clubs and how everyone "knows" him.

    He made it clear that he doesn't like to buy dances but just likes to chit chat and spend money on girls that he likes.
    ^When a customer talks about "how much $ they spend..." it usually means he's a time waster. They think that you will wait around, with them, in the hope that they will spend all of the money they "usually" or "always" spend on you.

    Some guys do like to tip their favourites to sit and chat and if he is like this, he has probably comes in for a particular girl and is waiting for her. Customers like will often ONLY tip one or two girls for their time and ignore everyone else. Plus, you are new, so if he is a "big spender" at least you have built a rapport with him. But, I would say he's just a time waster!

    Your time is money, so next time someone boasts about their spending habits ask them for a show quickly/or a tip for your time and if they don't want to cough up “all of their money”-move on to hustle someone who will !
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    Default Re: chatting up customer for long period of time -- doesn't even tip my stage show

    Last year, I worked in a club that had a customer like that. He made it rain on me several times (and he did that with almost every girl as well), but all the "contact" I had with him was thanking him for his generosity at the end of my set. I never bothered to sit with him or anything like that for all the reasons you (OP) are listing. Girls would fight for his attention, etc.





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    Default Re: chatting up customer for long period of time -- doesn't even tip my stage show

    Quote Originally Posted by jadey23 View Post
    ... and doesn't have a neck.
    hahaha that really made me laugh.

    meh, the ones who go on about their money usually don't splash it around so much. they have their favourite girls who they do tip, but you have to impress them somehow (i don't know what they want though lol) to become one of those. Sometimes though people will give good vibes and still turn you down so, best not to spend far too long with any customer if there's others on the floor!

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    Default Re: chatting up customer for long period of time -- doesn't even tip my stage show

    Well you're new and we all have to learn about the various forms of timewasters somehow, it sucks. If a guy doesn't get dances from me I just move on. And if he says the actual words "I don't get dances" you better believe he's already talking to thin air before the last syllable is out of his mouth. I know there are girls who will sit with these guys for two hours (that's 25% of my shift) in the hopes that it will pay off), but IME, for every 1 time you get paid from one of these guys, 99 times you don't. And that adds up to a lot of time you could be dancing for other guys.

    Plus, seriously, I can't do this whole thing where I'm supposed to sit and talk with a guy in the hopes that he'll "take care of me." That basically means I'm giving up my time at work and some random guy will just decide IF and HOW MUCH I get paid. No way too much of a gamble. If you want me to sit and talk, slip me a few hundred dollar bills and ask me to sit and talk with you for a while. No head games.

    And btw, this guy sounds like a real cheapskate w the raining 50 bucks. I think 100 is the traditional norm.

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