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    Default Regular says he can't objectify me anymore

    Hey ladies,

    So, I have a problem. I have a regular who is actually a really awesome guy. Like, if we had met outside the club we could definitely be friends. We have really great conversations and have a lot of fun together in VIP. He spends money, is a total sweetheart and I really don't want to lose him. The other night, we were talking about astrology and out of nowhere he gives me this really weird look and says "FUCK". Im all..whats wrong? And he says "Its ruined. I like you too much and can't objectify you anymore. I was going to take you to vip but now i just can't..." I was blown away. We talked about it for awhile and he finally decided that if we both got tipsy enough to change the dynamic that he could take me to VIP and off we went. So, I need some ideas! I've never had this happen before and don't really know how to deal with it. HELP!

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    All regulars have a shelf life, and it sounds like this guy is nearing the end of his. During future visits, keep conversation sexy and tell him a naughty anecdote about something you did during the past week. It can be totally made up, but you want him to stop seeing you as a friend and as someone sexy instead. Doing shots together could help since he mentioned that, so make sure you get a waitress over to your table shortly after he arrives so you guys can get those.

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    Default Re: Regular says he can't objectify me anymore

    Have you ever read "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Greene? It's a thick book, and i haven't read it from end to end, but just browsing through the table-of-contents, outline, and a few pages from each chapter gave me a pretty good idea of it is about. You can apply the principles towards your targets as lovers, business partners (individual or company), audience/performer, or even just friends (the list goes on). I imagine that certain kinds of manipulative/abusive people intuitively understand how this works, without ever having read the book.

    One thing it mentions as a warning, is that after you seduce your target and they get hooked, there will be a slump after a while, when they get used to you and the magic wears off. You either cut them off swiftly, or re-initiate the seduction process (including things like sending mixed messages, causing slight pain, putting some distance between the two of you, etc)- otherwise you lose your power/control as the seducer.

    Anyways, I'm paraphrasing what I can remember, but I don't have the book with me... it might be worth checking out in your case. Hope this helps!
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    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    All regulars have a shelf life.
    ^This!

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    That guy sounds like a bitch!

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    He's playing you, girl. Don't let him think he is smarter than you. He's probably used that line on a ton of girls. He's just a wallet that's trying to close on you. Bring it back to sex. That's what keeps the line there. Sex appeal, money, sale. Get more flirty, cut the brain talk a bit. Say something like "Well that doesn't stop me from objectifying YOU " He thinks he is hot shit playing the whole "I actually value you as a person, fall in love with me so I can get free sex for a few months" Sooo pathetic..
    Yes, I'm real.

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    I just had to add that I can totally picture him standing in front of the mirror practicing his weird look.... I'm not saying that I hate men or anything, it just gets to me when they try and screw around with stripper's heads. That's our gig, geezz
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    Quote Originally Posted by onlythelonely View Post
    that guy sounds like a bitch!
    ^ ctfu
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    Quote Originally Posted by goreantx View Post
    I just had to add that I can totally picture him standing in front of the mirror practicing his weird look.... I'm not saying that I hate men or anything, it just gets to me when they try and screw around with stripper's heads. That's our gig, geezz
    ^ You all got me dying laughing over here..
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    hahahaha you guys are amazing. thanks so much!

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