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    Duh Was I out of line?

    Last night at work during the afternoon around five, I arrived at work with a friend and we waited at the bar for work to pick up. Next to us in bottle service was one guy with three girls. A song came on that he enjoyed and he began singing and dancing, and saw me and my friend and invited us over. Poured us drinks, and didn't hesitate to give us both $100 right as we sat down to join him. I was soon called to stage and he leaned over to me and said "Please come back when you're off stage." I smiled, did my stage set, and went back to the bottle service. As soon as I was done, my friend went up, and the three original girls began to start whispering and throwing dirty looks. I could tell that they didn't necessarily want the extra company. But the man who tipped me $100 and asked my to stay wins in this case. They continued to snicker, and two of the girls rudely told him to scoot over so they could have him between them and away from me.

    I just smiled, sipped my drink and pretended to have a good time as usual. One of the girls, whom is fairly new because I have been working at my current club for 2 years and never seen before, made a rude comment towards me and my friend. She said, loud enough to where I could hear, "I thought you said you didn't want and caddy bitches over here?" Obviously this was an insult directed towards me.. So I thought about it for a second, and the vodka shots decided that I should confront her.

    I leaned in toward the group that I had so rudely been pushed out of, looked at the new girl and said "Excuse me, I know that you three were here first, and I am in no way trying to knock your hustle, but it is never, EVER, okay to call another girl a CADDY BITCH. We are sisters here, and we are in a very classy club, that is never okay!" The new girl was quick to say "OH, NO!!! NO THAT WASN'T DIRECTED TOWARDS YOU!!" Okay, whatever, yes it was...

    The customer got upset because of the drama that had been started, stormed out, and soon came back in, and I just left the area to avoid any further drama. The club manager pulled me aside later and asked me what happened and I explained myself. I know I should have probably just shrugged it off, but I have done my time in my club and I don't deserve to be talked to like that! What would you have done in this situation? Do you think these are grounds for firing? (starting drama at work?)

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    Default Re: Was I out of line?

    It sounds like both of you were out of line. You're right in thinking that you don't deserve to be talked to like that, but by confronting the girl, especially in front of a paying customer, all you're accomplishing is making yourself look bad. Drama is just part of the cost of working in a strip club, and unless it gets extreme (violent, running people out of the club, harassment, etc.) then it's rarely a fireable offence.

    If I were in that situation, I'd just bite my tongue, pretend I hadn't heard anything, and act sweet as pie to both the bitchy girl and the customer. Some girls thrive off drama, so avoiding it will bother them way more than mouthing off, which essentially gives them what they want: getting you away from the customer.

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    If I were you and the other two girls just zoomed in on him, I'd be watching the customer closely at that point. Assess the situation: Did he hear/ see what just happened? How did he react? Is he still likely to spend on me?
    Dances, room, drinks, or give more big tips just for sitting? Will he want a dance or room with multiple girls, with me as one of them? Would the money be worth the challenge of working with girls who are visibly hostile towards me?

    I don't necessarily think those are grounds for firing. I think it is immature of that dancer to talk like that, and I assume that she won't last much longer acting that way. She'll have to learn and grow up, or she'll just get in bigger fights/ continue to make herself look catty and mean in front of paying customers.
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    I definitely don't think it's grounds to get fired, but next time I'd ignore her, not because you should let other girls talk to you like that, but because it sounds like you could have made a killing off that guy if you played your cards right...Don't beat yourself up about it, infact good for you for standing up to her, I'm too scared to start shit at work haha, just next time maybe a better time would be in the dressing room or another space more private and away from the paying customers.

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    Default Re: Was I out of line?

    I would of just mentioned it to her later not in front of the customer, but i understand how it feels when girls do that.
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    Default Re: Was I out of line?

    ^ Kaylee watch out they will fire you for NO reason at that club! Take it from someone with 5 years experience with that place!

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    Also pm me I'd like to to know if this girls name was Bridgette!?!

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