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    i have a fair amount of regulars who come in, and most know that's what they are..but i have this one older guy, very sweet and soft-spoken who comes in every week to see me. we talk, and he gets 100 to 200 dollars in dances and then leaves. this has been going on for maybe 2 or 3 months. i slipped up in conversation yesterday and referred to him as a 'regular" and he said " wow, i dont think i've ever been anyone's regular before!" and I'm usually very good at reading people but i dont know whether i insulted him or whether he's pleased about it, i really could not gauge his response. you'd think i'd know this by now lol, but is it generally insulting to call customers that to their faces? i hope i didn't fuck up because i really do actually like him as a person and on a slow weekday he helps me out quite a bit!

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    Maybe in his mind, all sc regulars are nasty, ugly losers with no friends or something. So when you said that, he was all, "Oh noeess, I'm that guy!" But I've definitely called my regulars my regulars to their face. I say it affectionately and they seem to dig on it.

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    Hmmmm....
    I agree with Kaninchen, in that I don't know what he was thinking... maybe just maybe he thinks regular=pathetic?
    But in my opinion, it's not insulting at all. I mean there's a few places I go to I'm pretty sure I'm a "regular" at.

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    yea, thats what i was afraid he was thinking, i mean i didn't say it in a mean way at all .well i guess ill see how bad i offended him next week if he doesn't come back in :/

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    Oh you know what? Try telling him he's "not like other regulars" but in less obvious terms. The next time you see him you could point to another girl and say something like, "I'm so lucky you love coming to see me. Her regular is this boring/ugly/halitosis-having/no-money loser. But you're wonderful! Blah blah blah" so he feels less insecure about being there all the time. Although, I don't know why he would consider himself anything but a regular if he's dropping $100-200 on you weekly but he may need some reassuring about it.

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    I never call my guys 'regulars'.... Hell, I won't even call them 'customers'. It seems discourteous and cold to me.

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    I would never use the term regular in front of a customer. if I am talking about something that involves customers, ill refer to them as "the guys that come in here." I dont call customers customers and def not regulars.

    That being said, you're probably fine. He'll get over it.

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    thanks guys, you live n learn i guess..yea, hope i wasn't too off-putting, but i think he'll get over it, and i won't be doing that again..

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Addison View Post
    I never call my guys 'regulars'.... Hell, I won't even call them 'customers'. It seems discourteous and cold to me.
    ^I agree. But, things do slip out (hopefully he wasn't insulted and will continue being your reg' )

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    next week clear it up with him.
    I'd go the extra mile for regulars - he he !

    I'd do this. Even if he doesn't come to you (I doubt that) - walk to him and say
    "I was thinkin about last week. I referred to you as my regular. I'm very sorry if this came off as disrespectful. You are a nice person. You see me regularly and hence you are are special to me. There - I feel better now"

    But say it only if you mean it. Then enjoy rest of the evening with this special person !
    A man is forgiving too ! (else, heck he's not worth it)

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    thanks, yeah , i guess ill know tuesday! and he is a really nice guy, and i feel wicked bad if i sounded cold..

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    If you do the whole apologizing thing, it'll make it seem like a bigger deal than it really is. He's probably not even thinking about it anymore, so I think it's better not to bring it up again. Just forget about it and resume as normal

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    Quote Originally Posted by Addison View Post
    If you do the whole apologizing thing, it'll make it seem like a bigger deal than it really is. He's probably not even thinking about it anymore, so I think it's better not to bring it up again. Just forget about it and resume as normal
    ^^^Totally agree. Just leave it alone.

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    Default Re: is it insulting to call somebody a "regular"?

    yeah thumbs up for the letting it go idea, that might be akward to talk about it so I'm not gonna mention it unless he brings it up , thanks ladies =)

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