How do you stay encouraged throughout the night? I find it hard to whip myself back into a good mood when I haven't been making money all night.
How do you stay encouraged throughout the night? I find it hard to whip myself back into a good mood when I haven't been making money all night.
Well I work an 8 hour shift. So sometimes when I get tired I'll look at my watch & tell myself, in 2 hours you can ask to go home, but until then you have to keep hustling and asking for dances. Then by two hours I'll be like, well it's already midnight let me wait till 2. Then I make myself keep at it one more hour. At that point I know it's almost closing time.
Another thing I do is tell myself to just do my approach until I get 4 more dances. And I'll just focus on that. It takes my mind off the big goals (I want 500, 1000, whatever tonight). I just tell myself, I'll be happy if I can sell four more dances tonight. Then once I reach that, I think, well if I sell four more I'll be able to pay xxxx bill tomorrow (or buy whatever, or take my nephew wherever). So I just keep going around the room selling dances in chunks and being happy with whatever.
Keep in mind a strip club is a very unique money making environment. Just the other night I was ready to call it quits an hour before closing, I was totally premenstrual and mad at the world, my manager had already told me I could go, when suddenly some random customer I'd never seen before just grabbed me and asked me to get the last hour of the night vip. So yeah, just being on the floor and smiling, or at least not crying, makes almost anything possible at a strip club. Other jobs not so much.
The best way to stay encouraged though is to already be making money so read up on your hustle hut & make sure you're at the best club for you and rocking the best look for you.
Best wishes xo
I'm a huge fan of this tactic. I have my number that I want to make each shift, but I like to get to it with baby steps in increments of $100. That means I never feel pressured to sell more than 5 dances! Plus I feel accomplished several times throughout my shift, and that certainly helps boost my mood and keeps me smiling.
Otherwise, don't be afraid of taking breaks. Whenever the room isn't feeling me and I'm getting discouraged, I like to hide in the DR for a bit, chat with a friend, play on my phone, eat a snack, get changed, etc. This makes my mind off the (lack of) money and helps me recharge, especially with a new outfit for a fresh start.
Sometimes I like to ask if I can go on stage as well. I'm big on the eye contact during stage shows and it's very easy for me to sell dances afterwards, even to customers who said no or maybe later earlier on. Plus it's a nice productive distraction that gets me back in a sexy mood.
I smile a lot, even if I feel like crying!It sounds daft but it's hard to be sad when you're smiling and it attracts people to you-happier,, more positive customers-that want to buy dances off you because you're smiling and happy!Or even if not that, they cheer you up, buy you a drink, give you some nice conversation or make you laugh, and the more positive girls/staff who do the same which in turn cheers you up!
I also do the stage show thing-I go on for other girls who don't like it!





I made a video on this a few years ago http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=He7VoeMa-kw
I always kept a mini vision board in my locker to remind me of why I was there. As for the exact STEPS I did in order to stay In what I call The SuperStripper Zone, that's in my program.
Like Missy Krissy said, it's a sales environment where often the easiest money is made in the last hour (and sometimes in the last 10-20 mins)
Rebecca Avalon





I know when to back off, regroup and try again another day.
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest





This's a great thread thanks
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt
i repeat to myself, "Those girls must be crazy if they think they can beat ME Honey boo-boo child!"
But seriously... I do try to keep myself in a good mood by talking to myself and telling jokes, keeping light-hearted...
-Try thinking mathematically, less emotional. I tell myself that i'm more and more likely get a Yes, after I've already gotten so many rejections.
-I look forward to the hour before closing, because i figure that's when we'll be the busiest and I'll HAVE TO make some money.
-I think about any good things that came out of going in to work that day, even if it's something like.. getting exercise, or practicing on the pole, or some guy who was interesting, even if he didn't buy a dance, or how glad I am that I'm not working afternoon shift at a packed cafe, or cleaning toilets at a movie theater.





I just look down at my tits![]()
"Fake tits are like Kevlar. They don't guarantee your chances of survival but they sure as hell improve it."
Tempest
Hey, I was recently in your predicament, and it really started affecting my money more and more (domino effect) So, I got on here and I learned a few things. I'm mostly a lurker.
Sometimes the best cure for long term funk is to take a break for yourself. Spa day, maybe you like to bake, garden etc Whatever brings you peace- do it more. Youtube positive affirmations and work out on the regular. good for you and your mental well being.
For short term, like while at work, which I think is what you are focusing on, I remind myself that I can do anything when I set my mind to it, I think positive, and strong thoughts "I reach my goals with ease when I'm having fun" Then proceed to really try and get into the scene at the club. When It's slow I get into an energetic discussion with customers, It keeps me distracted from earlier and then the customer feels more connected to you, easier to sell to him.
Another thing I'll do is turn around for a little bit of my set on stage and dance with myself in the mirror, caress my body, soak in how pretty i look under the lights, maybe toss my hair in a more flattering direction... The guys love it, and while you are boosting your confidence you can look at the guys in the mirror and see who is most awed x) I know these sound a little silly but they really help me.
As long as you are having a good time, confidant, and sociable the money will come to you. Getting discouraged and sitting at the bar on your phone, or head in hand won't fix things-only snowball them worse. So go change your outfit and come back hustlin' girl you got this.
Ive been dealing with the same problem & missykrissy & sad made 2 points that have been really working for me-
-we do have a very unique work environment & the erratic earnings are both a blessing and a curse. While theres always gonna be shitty nights if your in the biz you know there are enough good ones to compensate. Remind yourself of this! You realy just dont know how the night will end or who might walk in. like misskrissys experience I was in a club of douchebags last night & had been dealing with annoying people for hours. I surveyed the place saw no potential and took a breather to draw in a sketchbook cause I love doing that. I looked up, saw a new guy & devided, hell, I im here anyway. after hanging out a long time with him he ended up getting a VIP, was super sweet & cool and actually put me in a better mood! (and gave a fantastic relaxing backrub without tryin to grope)
-this also connects with what sad mentioned-energetic conversations help customers open up. I think because I was in a fuck all state of mind I actually did relax & the guy didnt feel hustled. In a way I didnt even have to hustle him, I actuslly did enjoy hanging out with him. He told me hed gotten a dance from another girl & she suggested VIP but was dull and not present. Live in the moment. Try to find customers you have something in common with. Let yourself rwlax and have a good time, if you actually are it will show.
there's always tomorrow if i'm not having a good night. and who knows, someone could walk in and make my day at any given point![]()
never attribute to malice what is adequately explained by stupidity.
I totally agree with the smiling bit ... I can't tell you how many times I've been approached by some random customer because I'm smiling and I look like I'm having a good time in a sea of misery ... You know how dancers tend to put that sour face on after awhile of not making money ... I also try not to every sit by myself on the floor ... I've noticed that customers avoid talking to girls that lone wolf it on the floor and sit around because they think there must be something wrong with them (they're in a bad mood, drama, fucked up breath haha I don't know). I also try to think in dance amounts, not dollar amounts ... It's easier to motivate yourself to sell dances when you think "I've only got to sell 10 more to reach my goal!" instead of "Shit, I've still got $600 to go" ... I like to tell customers how much the champagne room is in dance dollars too - it's an easier initial blow to tell them 28 dance dollars than $670 and it also ensures that you get the right amount of dance dollars for you to clear your hour amount ...

Okay so this solution only works in clubs where the atmosphere in the dressing room isn't icky or hostile, and you don't mind sort of standing out. If you're just trying to keep your head down, then this is not a good option. But on nights where I'm not feeling sexy, or in touch with my body, or my game's not on and i can't think of the right thing to say to people, or i just feel *off* somehow-- it really helps me to do some stretching/yoga type stuff in the dressing room. I'm usually too embarrassed to do like, warrior 2 in the dressing room, (or happy baby--lmao) but just sitting on a towel somewhere and doing some neck rolls, or forward folds, or butterfly poses, helps me get back into my body and feel grounded. And when I'm approaching customers from that place, feeling really in touch with my body, it's easier for me to feel sexy and strong, and take control of the interaction naturally.





^ Yes, i have to second this. that last line feeling in touch with your body is key. When I come home into my body and relax- everything flows. I sometimes do a moving meditation to connect me to my womb space/womanly centre.
Also, check out the thread on 'Power Postures- Amy Cuddy'.





Know when to call it a day and get the fuck out. That's what I did. I then busted my ass at the gym. I can't shit rainbows and pull money out of my ass. A bad night is a bad night. They happen. There is no magical word that will make them miraculously vanish.
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