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    Oi. It's the "genuine" hustle, unless she gave you her number, didn't take your money and said she wanted an OTC relationship, then she probably didn't mean it. If she DID do all of the aforementioned things, then why are you asking if she wants to date you? The reason girls are being so snarky is because customers like you are very frustrating. I often don't waste my time with guys that are attractive and "don't typically buy dances," because I find they're just trying to get as much as they can for free so they can stroke their ego. That being said, if you actually are hot, maybe she did want to fuck you? But why would we know the answer to that better than you would? You were there.

    But, to answer your question!! I don't normally ask a guy if he's married. Usually a ring is a good indicator...

    Also, to say she should be at "Scores or Hollywood," is kind of insulting and somewhat ignorant. It's like those guys that come into my club and enthusiastically fill me in on the world's best-kept secret: "You would make a LOT more money in Vegas!" Thank you kindly for assessing my income and assuming I don't make good money where I'm at.


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    ps. I imagine you as a british man in a tophat and monocle jabbering about the colonies. This is why you come off as egotistical.

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    Quote Originally Posted by High&Tight View Post
    To end this, I see how this works now. You get a bunch of people together that obviously have no life and hang out on message boards all day (waiting to pounce) have some kind of insight and experience on a particular subject, have subsequently developed some bizarre holier than thou complex (I know more than you and you're stupid) and bash you from the getgo for asking the very questions this thread is designed for. So far I've been insulted somehow or another in every reply (except for lopaw...thank you) trying to ask a simple question. Is is dumb? Is it naive? Maybe...but I dunno and I'm here asking a question I believe is legit in the right area and I'm pretty sure insulting someone for it is fairly pathetic.

    Thanks but no thanks for the responses. Go ahead and ban me...this is ridiculous.
    Ban you? That would be too easy. You asked a question, you got lots of answers that you don't agree with. Oh well, that's how it goes sometimes on the internet. If you don't like posting here you can simply stop posting and go away. The ladies here are being honest with you. This is not a club, they don't have to be nice to you.

    I'm not here to help fuel martyr complexes. When you give me a reason to ban you I will be happy to oblige. Until then maybe you can just try exercising your own right to not participate in something that you don't enjoy.
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    Quote Originally Posted by High&Tight View Post
    To end this, I see how this works now. You get a bunch of people together that obviously have no life and hang out on message boards all day (waiting to pounce) have some kind of insight and experience on a particular subject, have subsequently developed some bizarre holier than thou complex (I know more than you and you're stupid) and bash you from the getgo for asking the very questions this thread is designed for.
    Stop being so sensitive already. LOL.

    You are on a board with people who spend a shitload of time in strip clubs. What the girls have been trying to tell you is that the "are you married?" question, along with other words and actions designed to make you think that she likes you, are all Stripper Hustle 101. You didn't like the initial answers that you received, so you kept pushing the issue in the hopes of convincing the members on this board that YOU are different somehow. Of course you are.

    Unless she has already slept over your house or gone out with you on a civvie date, then the odds are good that this is a classic stringalong in the making. I understand that it all seemed real - some of these girls are very good at exactly that.

    Now feel free to provide additional information that may change the minds of the readers, but based upon what you've said so far it sounds like a fairly standard hustle to me. Sorry if this is not what you want to hear, but there it is.

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    Generally speaking, anything and everything a dancer says to a customer, particularly a new one, is designed to do exactly what this attempted to do....get your attention, get you spending, and keep you coming in spending. If there is more than that at play, she'll let it be known.
    "never trust a big butt and a smile"-- Bell Biv DeVoe

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    This thread has so many bizarre things I am not sure where to begin. OP, chances are she is not interested in you. Asking questions doesn't mean anything nor does her saying her "real name" (which might not even be real either, since many dancers have fake names they pretend are real). Then you mentioned something like you aren't planning to be a customer to which I would ask why are you in the club then, to date? good luck with that one. Yes dancers like love and relationships but generally not with customers. Yes it can happen but the odds are slim to none. Also, leading a man on is often part of the job to get money. I had several customers I never had an intention of dating yet pretended I did.

    I dated exactly one customer and it wasn't after meeting once. Rather it took months of getting to know him and then when I left the club telling him my info.

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    High & Tight,

    I have been where you are on multiple occasions when I was younger and more naive than I am now. There is a chance that your instincts are right. As some ladies have pointed out here, it has happened before. But, it is about as rare as the need for snow shoes in Florida. I learned a long time ago that there is likely a different explanation.

    After years of dedicated research involving many nights and thousands of dollars at strip clubs across the country, I keep two important rules to keep in mind within the strip club walls:

    Rule #1. She is a pro and her profession is to move the most money possible from your wallet to hers within the time frame of her choice, her own moral boundaries, and her willingness to endure putting up with a fat, balding loser like myself. Anything and everything she does is carefully orchestrated to achieve this goal. From the time I walk in the door, every dancer is trying to assess how much money I am likely to spend, how obnoxious I will be to dance for, and whether I am likely to be a one-time customer or have the potential to be a regular.

    Rule #2. If the situation seems to defy Rule #1, it is only because she is so far ahead of me that I do not recognize it; it turns out that there is only one rule.

    I am not trying to ridicule you or make fun of your perception of the situation. I was there many times in my younger days; man, did I think I was a stud! All of these beautiful strippers fawning all over me, begging me to have sex with them for free - all the while dragging money out of my wallet within the club knowing that they were feeding my ego to get it. It took me a decade of clubbing to learn better. I hope that you are a faster learner than I was!

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    Quote Originally Posted by slcdon View Post
    Rule #1. She is a pro and her profession is to move the most money possible from your wallet to hers within the time frame of her choice, her own moral boundaries, and her willingness to endure putting up with a fat, balding loser like myself. Anything and everything she does is carefully orchestrated to achieve this goal. From the time I walk in the door, every dancer is trying to assess how much money I am likely to spend, how obnoxious I will be to dance for, and whether I am likely to be a one-time customer or have the potential to be a regular.

    Rule #2. If the situation seems to defy Rule #1, it is only because she is so far ahead of me that I do not recognize it; it turns out that there is only one rule.

    Excellent post! I think I will print this out and carry it my wallet. I'll pull it out an read it the next time some smoking hot dancer comes close to convincing me I'm special and she's really interested in my old fugly ass. Some of these ladies are like Jedi Stripper Knights or something. lol!

    To the OP: Although rare, I don't think a young stud hooking up with a dancer is as rare as it is being made out to be in this topic.

    Even so, those type questions are very common and are meant to create the illusion of a connection. The fun part is working thru the initial hustle and going deeper getting to know the dancer.

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    What can I say that hasn't been said.....
    Well in a couple of your posts you say "She could disappear tomorrow" which implies that the two of you have some sort of carefree carpe diem relationship that simply remains ill-defined, like a couple of college kids.
    This is really delusional. You were a customer she met once at the strip club she works at. Unless you go back and spend spend spend, she's gone.

    Still, my advice is carpe diem and spend spend spend. Who cares if she genuinely likes you? Go back to the club and have fun!

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    Quote Originally Posted by High&Tight View Post
    but I know the difference between business and someone being real...this was very real.
    ^...that's what every man thinks, and that's why we make $ (we are all acting). We are ALL very genuine and real...we ALL genuinely and real-ly want you to spend money on us (and most adapt their hustle to suit their customers, in order to make this happen). Either she was new, just started her shift and wasn't "feeling it" yet, was tired, or it's just her hustle
    (personally, I avoid this question-why remind a customer of the person that they "should be at home with?". It breaks the fantasy IMO).

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    Quote Originally Posted by slcdon View Post
    Rule #2. If the situation seems to defy Rule #1, it is only because she is so far ahead of me that I do not recognize it; it turns out that there is only one rule.
    Nicely said, sir.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bem401 View Post
    Generally speaking, anything and everything a dancer says to a customer, particularly a new one, is designed to do exactly what this attempted to do....get your attention, get you spending, and keep you coming in spending. If there is more than that at play, she'll let it be known.
    Exactly. I've dated a number of dancers and I have NEVER had any doubt in my mind when it was pleasure vs. business. If a dancer is interested she wants you to know when you are not being played.

    As a general rule, if you have to log onto a website to ask total strangers if a dancer is interested in you as date bate she most likely isn't...
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    If a dancer is interested she wants you to know when you are not being played.
    Such a good quote.

    Feel like someone should gather these "Does she really like me?" quotes into a sticky.

    But then again... we'd lose the fun of threads like these

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    Classic stripper mind fuck most commonly referred to as a "hustle." Sometimes we will pull a double hustle; the Ultimate in mind manipulation. "Hey sexxay come plaaaay with me Wow I want you, you're ready aren't you, yada yada...(He's not buyin it Ok switch it off from sex kitten stripper voice/mode into girl next door 'this is really me' mode)...Oh that's not really me I just wanna spend time with you, you're special you seem like such a great guy, lets go to the VIP I really wanna get to know you..."

    Bottom line: Our manipulation knows no bounds. We will stop at nothing to get your money. This is psychological warfare at its finest.

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    ^^Stripper Inception!

    Fuckin' A. It's like a reality inside a reality inside a reality.

    I wonder if there's a fourth level? What comes after "this is really me?", assuming the poor soul still has paper in his wallet?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kessler View Post
    ^^Stripper Inception!

    Fuckin' A. It's like a reality inside a reality inside a reality.

    I wonder if there's a fourth level? What comes after "this is really me?",
    Six or seven years ago I had a Brazilian fav turned OTC friend who had a stage name, a fake real name and a real real name. After I got to know her and she trusted me she confessed that the real real name was actually another fake real name. I swear I was skeptical until I saw name # 4 on a letter from the INS in her apartment and even then the last name was different! Turned out she had a green-card husband that almost no one knew about...
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    She was definitely drunk. And she won't remember your name. Sorry

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kessler View Post
    ^^Stripper Inception!

    Fuckin' A. It's like a reality inside a reality inside a reality.

    I wonder if there's a fourth level? What comes after "this is really me?", assuming the poor soul still has paper in his wallet?
    Stripper Inception indeed.

    Until a dancer flat out initiates an OTC date and THEN follows through on it, chances are every gesture, every glance, every seemingly nervous giggle are planned, timed and executed solely for the purpose of deceiving a man into thinking he's picking up on subconscious clues that indicate she's into him. Smoke and mirrors people, smoke and mirrors.

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    I just stumbled upon this post and I had a similar question as the OP.
    Now that I see all the responses I do realize I am a insecure which is probably why I would visit a SC in the first place. Although I very seldomly go, probably about once every couple of years.

    In my last experience, a very pretty woman sat on my lap and starting chatting with me. Obviously this is standard procedure for dancers. After chatting for a bit, she started dancing and started licking my neck and grabbing my piece (she stuck her hands in my pants). She said "omg... I would fu** you right here if I could". I'm like...ok....lol, very nervous of course.
    She goes, want to go to the VIP? I'm like OK, how much is it? It's $75 for 30 minutes and her fee is separate. She didn't tell me her price, but I said let's go... paid the bouncer $75 and went into some isolated room with her.
    Needless to say, it all happened very quickly and by the time I knew it, we were having sex (with a condom of course)...
    After it was done, she asked for my number, called it, and said now you have my number call me whenever you want sexy... she didn't charge me anything and I even asked, she said don't worry about it...I gave her a $50 tip anyways.

    OK sooo... seriously? Like the subject of this thread, is this normal? Was she giving me a free trial so she can charge the shit out of me next time? hahaha... I haven't called her or anything and I don't plan to (I think.. )

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    Quote Originally Posted by illizit69 View Post
    Needless to say, it all happened very quickly and by the time I knew it, we were having sex (with a condom of course)...
    After it was done, she asked for my number, called it, and said now you have my number call me whenever you want sexy... she didn't charge me anything and I even asked, she said don't worry about it...I gave her a $50 tip anyways.

    OK sooo... seriously? Like the subject of this thread, is this normal? Was she giving me a free trial so she can charge the shit out of me next time? hahaha... I haven't called her or anything and I don't plan to (I think.. )
    Not only is it not normal but I doubt that it actually happened...
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    LMAO.. damn your troll radar is really good.

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    So is my Ban Hammer...

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    Sometimes it's just too easy....
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    yoda, I want you so bad it aches in the swimsuit area.
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    Sophia_Starina is a sensible stripper...Naked all the way.....
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