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    Default I really miss being an escort. What to do?

    Hi ladies, I'm new here and first of all you all seem amazing! Anyway, I was an escort for a little over a year in 2011 and I absolutely loved it. I loved meeting all the new people, travelling, the sex, having my own schedule, money of course, pretty much everything.

    Unfortunately I got busted because of some stupid mistakes that I made. I wish I could go back but I'm scared. I have other projects that I'm working on for money that have nothing to do with adult work.

    Since I really miss being a sex worker I've been considering webcam work, selling panties, ebanned, etc. but it's not the same for me! Same goes with stripping (I'm also not very coordinated lol) and porn (gentlemen that seek escorts are much more polite than pornstars IMO!).

    I live in a different state now then when I was escorting so I feel like I've gotten a bit of a "fresh start" but just not sure where to go. Even if I won the lottery tomorrow I would still miss escorting, but I am so petrified of LE now that I feel like it's not an option.

    Anyway, thanks for listening and please share if you have had a similar experience (with any kind of adult work).

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    Default Re: I really miss being an escort. What to do?

    I dont know what the legal ramifications would be, like what it would mean for you if you were to get busted again..also I know that getting busted tends to change a lady in a way...it could be a good thing though since it would make you more cautious. So all that aside...

    Since you are in a different state and have a chance for a fresh start, I dont know, I would go for it. Just be extra careful, use what you learned to avoid getting busted again and screen like a bitch. Do a bunch of research, join up on local boards for your area and network with other ladies to keep up to date on any strange going ons and warnings for your locale. And the usual, if you have a bad or off feeling about a date, even if they come clean in screening,trust your gut and dont go.

    BTW of all the things Ive done in the industry (only 2 I havnt done is porn and dancing lol but pro domme/pso/cam and now this) I love escorting the most. I still get burnt out like with anything else I do, but at least I make more than I did with any other job, and can afford to take a break for a couple weeks...or up to a couple months even and decompress, which is a big deal for me to be able to do. I would miss it so much if I had to stop, so I can understand where youre coming from with wanting to keep doing it
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    Default Re: I really miss being an escort. What to do?

    Yeah it has definitely changed me. I am still on probation for another year so I don't know if I should wait until that's over. I think I have to research what the consequences for me would be, and even perhaps get a legal consultation of some kind.

    Is there a good place to research local boards or would it just be getting to Google it for my specific city? I know there are some people posting about there city in various threads here so maybe that would be a good place to start.

    I'm also considering whether an agency would be a good place for me to start as well (I was independent before).

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    Default Re: I really miss being an escort. What to do?

    If you want to do it legally and are able to relocate, there are some counties in Nevada where brothels are legal.I'm not sure what the law is regarding escorts.

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    Default Re: I really miss being an escort. What to do?

    Yeah I'm a little familiar with Nevada but I'm not sure if I'd want to live there just to escort. From what I know I would have to be in a brothel and I also like the idea of being independent (although I have considered being with an agency). I thought about even flying there and working for a week and going back, something like that, but I wasn't sure if it would be worth it.

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    Default Re: I really miss being an escort. What to do?

    Yeah, my understanding of the legal prostitution in NV is its only in certain counties (clark county where Vegas is, is not one of them) and they are all out in the middle of nowhere, so unless you work in a brothel you wouldnt get any biz anyway...neverminding the licencing fees are way too high for an indi to bear. Sucks.

    I flirt with the idea of working in a brothel, but all the rules and regularions and the loss of freedom thing freak me out, plus the negotiation thing...just lots of little nuances that I would have a hard time with coming from being an independent. Some ladies love it though and can deal with it no prob. Esp since you are on probation still..maybe its worth a shot, to make sure you can do what you like, but keep your nose totally clean in the meantime you know?

    I think most are 2 weeks btw, because of the costs of getting you tested, your card and some license or something, not sure lol just that with all the cost and process involved that you have to go through everytime you start your stint, I heard that 2wks is the min. Cant help you with whether or not it would be worth it..Ive heard so much varying info on that...
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    Default Re: I really miss being an escort. What to do?

    I escorted for about a year and a half. I got fed up with the risks (the possibilities of contracting HIV, getting murdered, getting arrested, etc were really stressful for me) so I switched to stripping. I miss the ease of escorting as well as the utter independence, but I also enjoy the regularity and safety of stripping. Dancing makes me physically tired but escorting made me mentally exhausted, so stripping has turned out to be a much better fit for me and my comfort level. Kudos to you for being tough enough to rock escorting.

    Have you tried stripping? You might like it. You say you're not coordinated but it's not like you have to be a ballerina. I hope you find something that works for you! There's no work like sex work, and I definitely know what it's like to miss it.

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    WOW I didn't realize there was THAT much regulation around it! Of course I wish brothels were just completely legal everywhere then I wouldn't mind jumping through hoops to get approved Yeah I would definitely not like the feeling that it is more of a traditional 9-5 job then being independent or even in an agency. I have even considered going overseas to a country where prostitution was semi-legal, but I wouldn't even know how to begin with that, but if Nevada would be that much work to get into then maybe I should look into going overseas because that would be awesome!

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    Yeah I know what you mean about escorting being mentally exhausting, it's one of those things where you always have to keep your guard up or your safety could be compromised. Yeah, I don't know if I'm the performer type (besides 1 on 1 LOL!) But don't you find stripping to be mentally exhausting at times to in the sense that you have to be "on" and "performing" the entire time as well as safety wise (as in someone following you to your car or stalking or something like that)?

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    I don't worry about my safety while leaving the club because our bouncers walk us out, plus most clubs have their property pretty well covered with security cameras (think about all the cash they handle, you know?) which I think acts as a good crime deterrent. I also specifically chose a club in a low-key, low-crime area. As for stalking, I have a story down pat about where I live, what kind of car I drive, what I do off the clock, etc. People I know have come into my club AND I've seen customers outside the club (omg, at the grocery store of all places) and I've yet to be recognized! So I feel very safe, both physically and as far as keeping my identity secure.

    Something I didn't actually know about stripping before I started it was that as an independent contractor, you are your own boss and you control how much and how hard you work. Initially, I definitely worried that I'd be forced to give smelly weirdos endless lapdances like some poor little sweatshop stripper, lol. If I'm at work and I start to feel sleepy or like I need a break, I march my ass back to the dressing room and chill out with a book. No one can stop me. I'm an introvert and I do get mentally worn down, especially on busy nights. But like I said, I just take a break for however long I feel I need until I'm ready to hustle again.

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    Sounds like you when about it the smart way. It seems like where you choose to work is a big factor. I can't believe they didn't recognize you! I guess it makes sense because when I wasn't escorting I would pretty much wear no makeup and conservative clothes. I do like idea of a profession that isn't in a legal gray area. I also didn't realize how much independence you have in dancing. I knew that it was flexible and things like that but I was under the impression that you still had someone wanting you to work specific hours or certain nights. I haven't researched it at all really so I'm sure there's plenty of threads explaining everything that I could look into

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    ^Just want to chime in on that- in that i've done stripping and escorting, and still flip flop with them. The location/club/state has to do with the no-schedule, or making you work certain hours or certain days. NJ is stripper hell. Schedules, "must work" certain days, complete and utter bullcrap, as you still pay housefees and get all freedom taken away. Now there are plenty clubs I've now found (farther away, but still do able) that are no schedule, come, go, do whatever you want. I'd definitely never work in a schedule club again, because with school schedule, I never know if i'll 100% for sure be able to make it in a certain night.

    I think if you're still on probation, you should probably wait with the legal-situations, unless you go to nevada etc. I'm assuming, though don't know for sure, if you do get caught again, jail time is what would happen, and nothing is worth that. <3

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    sorry double post

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    Quote Originally Posted by sunshine16 View Post
    ^Just want to chime in on that- in that i've done stripping and escorting, and still flip flop with them. The location/club/state has to do with the no-schedule, or making you work certain hours or certain days. NJ is stripper hell. Schedules, "must work" certain days, complete and utter bullcrap, as you still pay housefees and get all freedom taken away. Now there are plenty clubs I've now found (farther away, but still do able) that are no schedule, come, go, do whatever you want. I'd definitely never work in a schedule club again, because with school schedule, I never know if i'll 100% for sure be able to make it in a certain night.
    Is that the state's law that decides those things or that particular club?

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    Particular club. It just so happens the entire state (at least my experiences with north and central Nj ) were awful.

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    I would suggest moving to another state or country where it's a little more legal, if you can.

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    Default Re: I really miss being an escort. What to do?

    Quote Originally Posted by funnymoney View Post
    I would suggest moving to another state or country where it's a little more legal, if you can.
    I am in a different state now, and I wouldn't say one place is "less legal" than others from what I know but I do know that Arizona is not a good place to be an escort as far as LE is concerned. Of course Nevada is always an option but idk if I'd want to go there and work in a brothel!

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