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    I've been dancing for 3+ years and I've always been one to tell the customers that I'm single regardless of if I am or not. But I just got engaged and I definitely won't be removing my ring to go to work. So for those of you in relationships, do you fess up? And does it hurt your money?

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    I've used the "yea I'm single" line plenty of times but I've also thrown out "I'm not single at the moment but it will probably end soon cause he's a loser". Gives the guys an idea that you'll be on the market soon and they suddenly think they have a chance.

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    It's a catch 22
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    I lost a lot of money wearing my wedding ring. I don't wear it anymore. I had gentlemen telling me multiple times a day that it "ruined the fantasy". Also, I would rather say that I'm single than call my husband a loser. I just can't bring myself to badmouth him, I'd just rather not mention him at all.

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    Yeah I would never be able to act like the girl that dates a jerk but I don't think I could take the ring off!

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    I would be worried about bringing a wedding ring/engagement ring to a strip club. I never wear real or expensive anything when I work and for a reason.

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    I tell everyone I'm single, but every once in awhile it gets out that I have a boyfriend which doesn't really seem to affect my money in a huge way. I would never even consider wearing a ring to work. I would be way to afraid I would lose it. Also I feel like it might scare guys away at first glance. The only thing wearing your ring to work can lead to is negative possibilities.

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    Not taking the ring off because it means too much to you is like choosing to dance to hip-hop in a room full of old white dudes. It will only hurt your money, and no one benefits from you making those decisions. It might be a symbolic thing for you, but financially speaking, it's just a bit silly.

    When I was burning out, I'd do the dumbest shit just because it meant something to me: I'd confess to customers that I'm asexual, dance to hip-hop in a room full of 50-year-old white guys, would be far too sarcastic, talk about my education with blue-collar workers, etc. That resulted in me feeling more burned out (because doing stupid things like that made it harder to sell dances) and making less money. Maximize your time in this industry as if you're a professional athlete, and don't do anything that might get between you and $$$!

    I see you've been dancing for awhile so I'm not trying to demean your experience. I trust you'll make the decision that's right for you and your situation (seriously). Just making sure that others looking through this thread are exposed to a variety of opinions.

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    I never take my ring off and it does not hurt my money one bit. All of my regulars know I'm married and if anything they are more attracted to me & the "slutty wife" fantasy. If you think they try hard to get you when youre single just think of how much harder they try to get you to cheat, its the same game. In my experience, if a guy likes me, he likes me and will spend $ regardless of my relationship status.

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    I have a boyfriend but always tell the guys that I'm single.

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    I am married and I keep my ring, except when doing polework. If you do polework, I don't recommend you keeping the ring while working the pole. If someone ask, I just say it used to belong to my grandma or something like that. I usually tell customers that I'm "seeing someone" or that I have a FwB. Those are the best lines (some of the other lines above, like the "I'm going to dump my bf" is good too).

    If I say I'm single they say something like "so, how come such a cute/pretty/hot/beautiful girl like you is single?" and if I say the truth (married with a baby) they say things like "oh, but does he knows? If I was him I wouldn't let you do this", "what a loser, I'd be taking care of you so you don't have to do this".





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    Quote Originally Posted by charlie61 View Post
    Not taking the ring off because it means too much to you is like choosing to dance to hip-hop in a room full of old white dudes. It will only hurt your money, and no one benefits from you making those decisions. It might be a symbolic thing for you, but financially speaking, it's just a bit silly.

    When I was burning out, I'd do the dumbest shit just because it meant something to me: I'd confess to customers that I'm asexual, dance to hip-hop in a room full of 50-year-old white guys, would be far too sarcastic, talk about my education with blue-collar workers, etc. That resulted in me feeling more burned out (because doing stupid things like that made it harder to sell dances) and making less money. Maximize your time in this industry as if you're a professional athlete, and don't do anything that might get between you and $$$!

    I see you've been dancing for awhile so I'm not trying to demean your experience. I trust you'll make the decision that's right for you and your situation (seriously). Just making sure that others looking through this thread are exposed to a variety of opinions.
    I wish I could have seen this go down! Ha the look on their faces must have been "priceless" lol.

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    Default Re: Are you always single?

    of course I am always single...no guy wants to hear about your fabulous relationship. can't you wear your ring on a different finger and if asked, say you just love beautiful jewelry?

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    Thanks for the advice although I already knew the general answer would be to take it off (which I understand we are trying to sell a fantasy here) it's just so new and exciting and I don't want to ever take it off! But for the sake of the ring too it will probably last longer not wearing it at work the pole is brutal on jewelry! Some really great opinions though thank you.

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    And also; I understand that most people see this as a no brainer but everything this ring symbolizes means so much to me and taking it off makes me feel like I'm cheapening it. But my fiancé even gave me the same advice haha

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    Can you wear it on a chain around your neck? I have always seen wearing a ring like this as one that is cherished due to some sort of special connection. That way you always have a token of him close to your heart, it doesn't get wrecked by the pole, and you can, like suggested above, say it belonged to someone important to you, if you must explain it at all.
    All bar one of my regulars know I am in a relationship, all of them wish I weren't and are kinda hanging on to take me on a date someday, but I have the ultimate excuse why I can't... They're all still there, waiting for the day I am single...
    Random guys I'm sure I wont see again, I tell I am dating one of the other dancers, and the situation is "open", as I am into both guys and girls. That gives them hope and often segways into a double show if she's there. We of course have a million stories to tell about each other, know the in's and out's of each others lives on a daily basis, and can back that up and be convincing, too. Come to think of it, we should be dating... lol.

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    Yeah I have a girl at my work that I do that with lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    I wish I could have seen this go down! Ha the look on their faces must have been "priceless" lol.
    The sick part was I'd actually do it to challenge myself. I'd tell guys that I'm asexual and then sell them dances. Why would I intentionally make life more difficult for myself? *sigh*

    One of the dumbest things I did at my dive was to name myself "Charlie." I was way more interested in challenging gender roles than in making killer money for my first year...ridiculous.

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    Shawnastarr, if it is a symbolic thing, think of it as you are respecting your husband by taking it off (: Every time you take it off you should be thinking "I'm doing this because I value this ring and our relationship". IMO it will be a more special thing if you leave it out of those environments. Anyways, congrats on the engagement!

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    Aw thank you! I like that way of thinking

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    Imade the most money when I was married and wore my ring. I think it was the law of attraction...I attracted customers who wanted dances from someone who wasn't going to try to mess up things with his wife. He could come in, spend money, have fun and go home without any drama of makeup on the collar, glitter in his hair, or late nite text messages.
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    I tell them I'm in a committed long term relationship with Benjamin Franklin
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    I used to always tell customers I was single, but for some reason once I started dating my current boyfriend I just couldn't lie about it anymore. So now, if they ask (which honestly isn't that often), I tell them that I do have a boyfriend. It hasn't affected my money even a little bit. I notice that the boyfriend thing comes up sometimes, but it's not always phrased in an out-and-out question. I get a lot of, "Your boyfriend is a lucky guy!" or, "I hope your boyfriend treats you like gold!" and I never bite by saying, "Oh, he does!" I just smile, kiss them on the cheek, and say something like, "That's so sweet!"

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    No, cause I don't want to be hit on.


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    that's the best answer i've heard tempest, lol!

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