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    Ok so I just started working about a week ago at a club called the PDL. I was hired on the spot the day I moved up here and managment is really nice but there's this girl who is testing my nerves and Im not sure if its the regular stripper cattiness or if she is out to get me.
    Case 1.It was a really slow wednesday (2people at the club slow) so I started talking to a guy who was sitting at the corner of the bar. He comes in about twice a week but rarely gets a dance. I got a sprite when i was talking to him but my outfit started to annoy me so I put my drink in front of my chair and went to change. As I was coming back Mia( dancer) threw away my drink and was talking to this guy. I was looking for another place to sit when someone else walked into the club and she yelled out to the guy to come sit with her effectively taking both guys at once. Then she turned her back on the first guy and talked to the new one, which is fine she got to him first.The person she had tooken from me was sitting at the edge of the bar so their was no way for me to sit and chat with him anymore. The new guy kept staring at me while they were talking so I made it a point to walk in front of him with extra hip swing.I was bored so i went into the dressing room and played with my phone. I was leaving when she came in and as I was walking to the bar I heard the DR door slam open and her hightailing it out of the DR. The guy she was sitting with called me over and asked me to sit down with him, and we started to talk. He tipped me everytime I said something that made him laugh but she started to see me getting money tied onto my bottoms and would come over everytime I got tipped expecting to be tipped as well. it wasn't so much the fact that she would come over but she would stand in front of me and turn her back on me cutting me out of the conversation, so it was hard to convince this guy to a dance when every three minutes she would come over and expect to be tipped to leave. Then she stole money out of my garter.. and I only made $60 that night. I understand that the stealing money is extreme but is the rest of her actions to be expected in the stripper industry?
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    No that's not normal, it's extremely childish. Stand up for yourself and tell the manager and watch your back cuz she sounds like a nut job. Do not let her walk all over you ever again. If that were me and she kept cutting in between you and the guy I would tell the guy to tell her to leave politely or move to another location where only you and him can sit. And after her stealing money I would of said "Oh that's OK, it was only $60, whoever stole my money needed it more than I do because she is not making any by working."

    From now on, just keep smiling and make your money, don't even get upset when someone gets catty- it will piss them off even more. Keep to yourself and smile like a MF. I actually feel sorry for her because of how pathetic she is.

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    That first situation wouldn't happen in my club. If you've left your drink with a customer and are gone for like a song or two, he's still yours to come back to. I know that's not necessarily the case everywhere and once you've left a customer he's fair game though. In future, I'd my leave customers just to go change your outfit. Offer them a dance so you can get out of it instead. You also mentioned he's a club regular who rarely gets dances - at my club, some girls will sit around with them when it's quiet and they're bored. They know they're not going to make money and it's not a big deal if another girl takes her seat if she goes away. It sounds like that might be the case with him, but in future, don't leave real customers in the middle of your hustle.

    Now, that second situation is bad, and you really do need to stand up for yourself and oh so kindly tell Mia that you and x are spending time together but you'll be happy to come find her when you two are done. Otherwise, she's going to keep getting away with this because you keep letting her do it. Don't let someone interrupt your time with a customer - especially a tipping one! This is your livelihood and you can't just depen on the customer to tell her to go away because most customers won't. They're shy, socially awkward, or just plain bad with confrontation. You need to get rid of her an stand your ground.

    It also sounds like you're in a very small club, where drama is rife and girls pull shit like that. Maybe try out a bigger club, though don't be surprised if you encounter cutthroat girls like that in the future - they may not be common but they're certainly not unheard of.

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    Default Re: Am I being to sensitive??

    Not going to comment on the situation, just wanted to say be careful leaving your drink with customers, even "regulars," especially being that you just started a week ago. You don't know these strange men.

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    I've had my run with girls who have done similar, usually they do it to girls who are newer and they feel they can get away with it with. You have to tell her off, but be polite about it or else a fight is going to start. I would tell management that she took your money, that is completely unacceptable. And if she's not leaving you and a customer alone maybe you could even use that to your advantage and say "want to go somewhere more private like the couch dance"

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    Default Re: Am I being to sensitive??

    Quote Originally Posted by Addison View Post
    Not going to comment on the situation, just wanted to say be careful leaving your drink with customers, even "regulars," especially being that you just started a week ago. You don't know these strange men.
    I only left it there as a spot holder I had no intention of returning to my drink and actually drinking it but thanks.

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    In my club there is no such thing as a spot saver.. if you get up the guy is free game.. they tell you that from the start.. However, if a guy invites you over to talk to him its because he is attracted to something about you..I've had guys yell for me with a girl sitting on there lap!! some girls will get pissy if you come over others will not.. I try to sell double dances when I find myself in that situation.. I would of just played her off & asked him if he wanted to go someone a little more private so you can enjoy each others company... also if you keep your money in a garter get a rubber band around it.. i know some people say it looks tacky but no one can just grab it without you realizing it! & if you knew she was grabbing it you should of spoken up.. I would def take JoJo's advice keep smiling.. & def take Addison's advice never ever EVER leave your drink alone.. unless of course you dont want the drink.!!

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    i suppose if you get up and leave a customer then he's fair game..although i think your customer should have said he was waiting for you. also i am always gracious enough to apologize and get up when another girl comes back, as are all the other girls in my club..i think its because you are new and she feels she can get away with it. or maybe its a cut throat club.
    the stealing thing is totally unacceptable. i guard my money with my life while at work lol, i'd tell management .and next time just don't leave your customer before getting your money

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    Don't leave your drink unattended. Ever. :S

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    You can't control other people's actions, only your own. In this business, you will run into girls who act inappropriately.

    As for keeping your money safe, here is the system I use http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=UmFQbubEU4U
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