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    So I have this issue where I'll be chatting with someone in free chat for a couple or more minutes and build this friendly rapport with them, and then they'll want to take me to private and it's really hard for me to switch to a sexy persona and on rare occasion I'll even opt out of privates sadly enough cuz I just can't get into the mood fast enough. I guess one way to avoid this issue is to try to play the flirty seductress at all times, so that the transition between free chat and private will be easier. But like today for example I was having a really friendly and humorous conversation with a reg in free chat and then he clicked private and I was all awkward and just couldn't get into it. Anyone else have this problem?

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    me! I hate when regs become friendly in free then go private. The shows are harder for some reason

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    It can definitely make things more difficult. If I am having a nice convo with someone, I try to make sure that I am still being really flirty, and then I take things a little slower once we get into pvt...
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    Yes, definitely. It's one of the many reasons I won't work free chat sites and am a domme lol.

    I despise when guys ask me if they can buy 30min - 1 hr of time and then say they just want to "talk" or "get to know me" - it makes me so uncomfortable. ESPECIALLY because half the time they will be really awkward about it like ask you a question about your life, something completely non sexual, then ask you to take your panties off or finger yourself etc. SO WEIRD. I can't stand it.

    I used to have this reg who would be like "I just wanna hang out and talk to you! You're so smart and nice, I want to respect you! You know I don't just care about all that SEX STUFF." (soooooo f'ng obnoxious, like srsly, don't act like I don't know that my job relies on the fact that people need to satisfy their sexual urges...) but then he'd have 5 min out of 30 left and ask me if he could see my pussy and cum really quick!!!! Like are you KIDDING Me????

    Those were the old days though. Now if someone wants to "chat" they are gonna pay to chat, and if they want a sex show, they will send MORE cash for another 30 min lol. If they can't separate the two worlds of chit chatting and sexy time I usually avoid them next time lol. I know I'm losing money but it's not usually worth the anxiety it causes me to deal with their awkwardness. That kinda behavior can put me in a funk... Like this one time a guy like that was like grunting and moaning into his mic, jerking off, telling me to touch myself, then he goes "so what did you have for dinner tonight?" ....................... OMG. Out of all the freaks out there, these guys are my least favorite lol.

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    I had that problem for the first 2 or 3 months I was camming until I changed my perspective. I just think of it as. Exactly the same as getting picked up at a club or bar, sure the guy might be funny or whatever but the whole time I still know what he's really after
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    Honestly it doesn't bother me. I have a few regs who have been with me for years sometimes the pay me to talk about Star Trek, sometimes they pay me to watch them fuck their ass with a cucumber. I have a limit to how much I feel for someone who pays for my time. Not that I don't genuinely like a few of them but it's still business, money is exchanged.
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    I get like this too... if a guy has been tooooo friendly and we are talking and joking around, it makes it awkward for me. I'm more into the wham-bam-thank you-ma'am guys lol That's why I try not to get into too much conversation before private.
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    I used to be like that sometimes, but now I don't chat like that in free chat. It pisses me off that these guys are getting attention for free, and now I get a lot more "getting to know you" talking shows. I just act like I'm really busy in free chat and can't keep up with the conversation, hinting that for my time and personal attention, that is what *private* is for. In indy shows, I will just be like "Oh my god hun, I am getting blown UP on here! I must get going, please let me know if you'd like to book a show! I had so much fun last time, I look forward to talking to you! Muah!" or whatever.

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    I dont think you can just swich to the flirty mode in a second , but you can start to make 1-2 flirty jokes or sexy witty lines to make the tranzition. I love it when guys get friendly and they can get a joke .

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    Honestly I can not stand when guys take or try to take up my time in freechat. In the beginning I was ok with it but that stopped once I realized that I was losing money. I also realized that some men pay for conversation. If you want to take up my time then you can pay for it. As soon as I get asked why do you do this?, how long have you done this?, do you enjoy this?, Is this your only job, what music do you like?, what do you like to do for fun? or hear them say I'd like to get to know you better before pvt....my radar goes off. I instantly know that there going to try an talk my ear off for 10-20mins and 95% of the time they have no intention of going pvt or giving gold.

    I think it's very rude for guys to try to an get personal when they know this is our work. I could be talking to other ppl that actually want to pay for my time. I've blocked alot of regulars that have chatted me up in freechat and stopped going pvt. I played it cool at first. They'd came in chat and leave or they'd say hi or I wanted to wish you a great and then leave. At first I thought it was sweet but then it started to upset me. I finally told them that I didn't like it when they stopped by just to say "hi". Shit at least give me some gold if your going to do that. Some kept doing it so I blocked them. I felt guilty at first but now I just click the button without a single thought. Your wonderful gesture and epic conversation skills don't pay my bills or feed me Sir.

    To OP give the convo a time limit. After a certain amount of questions/time I ask if they want to go pvt and if they so no I politely kick them out. All that time your taking to talk in freechat could be $$ in your account.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blovely View Post
    Honestly I can not stand when guys take or try to take up my time in freechat. In the beginning I was ok with it but that stopped once I realized that I was losing money. I also realized that some men pay for conversation. If you want to take up my time then you can pay for it. As soon as I get asked why do you do this?, how long have you done this?, do you enjoy this?, Is this your only job, what music do you like?, what do you like to do for fun? or hear them say I'd like to get to know you better before pvt....my radar goes off. I instantly know that there going to try an talk my ear off for 10-20mins and 95% of the time they have no intention of going pvt or giving gold.

    I think it's very rude for guys to try to an get personal when they know this is our work. I could be talking to other ppl that actually want to pay for my time. I've blocked alot of regulars that have chatted me up in freechat and stopped going pvt. I played it cool at first. They'd came in chat and leave or they'd say hi or I wanted to wish you a great and then leave. At first I thought it was sweet but then it started to upset me. I finally told them that I didn't like it when they stopped by just to say "hi". Shit at least give me some gold if your going to do that. Some kept doing it so I blocked them. I felt guilty at first but now I just click the button without a single thought. Your wonderful gesture and epic conversation skills don't pay my bills or feed me Sir.

    To OP give the convo a time limit. After a certain amount of questions/time I ask if they want to go pvt and if they so no I politely kick them out. All that time your taking to talk in freechat could be $$ in your account.
    YES!!!! FUCK LONG CONVOS IN FREE CHAT!! TIME IS MONEY!!

    Sorry to get all caps but it hurts my heart to hear that some of you turn down privates for this reason! I realize I'm new-ish, but this doesn't make sense to me. Charge them, stall, and stall some more... If you are that awesome at conversation then fucking charge for it! We are here to make money. We HAVE to talk to them enough to GET A PVT. Don't turn one down, just start the pvt with conversation and let things progress (slowly haha) and make them pay up for your time. I have been blocking 'nice' guys on skype that chat me up in a nice way but never buy a show. Many of the talkers don't ever buy shows so if your talker are buying (be happy that they want to pay), then by all means give them a show- even if it's more talking.

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    I never have a problem taking guys money It doesn't take me long to switch into the proper persona once they go private.

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    I put on the sultry sweet girl act so that they know I mean business from the moment I log on til' I log off. I stay flirtin'!

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