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    Reminder The Tone of your Voice

    Is your tone of voice and body language keeping you from closing a sale?

    We place so much importance on WHAT to say when we should equally be aware of HOW to say it.

    Personal example:
    Most of my spending customers are between an 18-32 age bracket. This puzzled me for years and I just hit on an explanation! I truly believe that older customers can tell I don't like them. And I am quite repulsed by men who are 40+ at work!! It subconsciously comes through in my hustle in very subtle yet make-or-break ways. The tone of my voice and my body language are dead give aways that I am not at all interested in older customers. I cannot fake liking them and they really seem to pick up on it which made me think, Wow this is something to keep in check whilst hustling! I mean, I use the same phrases and hooks but I noticed how my voice changes around customers who give skeevy vibes. My voice quickens and stays very monotone and sounds very "insincere sales-persony." Like the annoying Victoria's Secret sales girls who keep bugging you with their rehearsed pleasant attitudes. My body is turned away from them as well, legs crossed, body more sitting more upright and ridged as if I'm preparing to flee at any given moment. Its just so unnatural for me to fake niceness and interest around men whom make me uncomfortable. (There are always a few exceptions, but most older guys are so creepy, married, handsy, and demand extra shit in my area that it's tainted them from my perspective.)

    Around younger customers I'm much more relaxed. My body is facing them, I'm at a closer proximity, I'm comfortable touching their arm, I'm engaging in their personal space. My voice for one thing will fluctuate in range and pace giving a very natural, conversational quality to it. Much less than that of a rigid sales pitch. I can still stay all business and focus on closing a sale but the sound of my voice (ranging from gentle whisper-soft, to bubbly energetic 'I might have just done a line!' party! party!) makes a big difference in closing that sale.

    It sounds so trivial but its the fine details that differentiate a good hustle from an excellent one!

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    I think your voice in and of itself has a huge impact.

    My friend sounds like a little girl (well, not really, but think Marilyn Monroe or Paris Hilton) and has huge doe eyes, and I swear she can get any man in the club to give her absolutely anything. I think guys take me much more seriously due to my voice, whereas she can pull off the entitled, princess thing. So jealous.

    Maybe I'll start working on my sex kitten/pornstar voice. I've noticed that most webcam models sound virtually the same.. gonna emulate that.




    ...or not.

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    Default Re: The Tone of your Voice

    i have the opposite problem, i cannot stand lil immature boys below the age of 30 usually lol whereas old guys love me and i make my money off them..and at first i thought it was because young guys usually like big boobs, blond hair,pornstar look that i do not have..but maybe its because i really don't like them and it comes out, i rarely even hustle them. good point,maybe ill start trying..a lot of times they give money away more easily with less experience! haha

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    Default Re: The Tone of your Voice

    I am the same exact way! I need to keep myself in check too.

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    Default Re: The Tone of your Voice

    there was a study a few years ago where a bunch of men had to rate the attractiveness of women based on sound clips of their voices. the higher voices were voted as more attractive.

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    Default Re: The Tone of your Voice

    i like older men. I've been complimented on my voice, some say its lower than average, though when i hear myself recorded, i think of myself as average, or higher than average. Maybe I use a lower tone when trying to seduce men.

    Charlotte- i wonder if those men interviewed were mostly older, mostly younger, or both?

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    Default Re: The Tone of your Voice

    Quote Originally Posted by charlotte. View Post
    there was a study a few years ago where a bunch of men had to rate the attractiveness of women based on sound clips of their voices. the higher voices were voted as more attractive.
    good to know
    xoxo rox$ie

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    Default Re: The Tone of your Voice

    I have a very deep raspy monotonic voice at times lol. Im very introverted and just talking drains me at times. I noticed on cam when I use sound in free chat I get less people vs when I turn off audio I get more pvts. So voice does really play a part. I wish I had the energy to sound like all cute and girly bc I tried it and the guys ate it up but i dont so oh well

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