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    I moved to LA from Atlanta 5 months ago with dreams of becoming a director and actress. I realized that I didn't want anything to do with this industry REALLY QUICK. I have been unable to find work. I live in a house with bunkbeds and 36 people. I have hit rock bottom. I have no friends here and no one to talk to (and no phone if I did have someone to talk to.) My rent is due in 7 days and i am seriously in a panic state. I danced about a year in Atlanta. I NEED to start dancing here now, but I threw all my stuff away thinking I would never dance again. I am basically living in fear. I have no idea what to do next. I don't have one dollar to my name. I made a tent out of sheets around my bunk and I have been hiding in that. I'm posting this here because keeping a journal gives me no release and trying to talk to my family is PAINFUL. All they do is judge me or are bored by my problems. I am afraid I am going to have to resort to sleeping with some weirdo off of craigsist. I am so afraid. I know I sound like a baby, but please words of encouragment anyone?

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    Stay Strong..

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    This is a tough town to just survive in, let alone becoming uber-successful. Have you considered moving back home? Maybe you need to re-group and maybe make another attempt after you've made a solid plan. Sometimes it takes several attempts before things pan out.
    But if you want to dance here, you can certainly do that. I don't know what your style or look is, but there are clubs here to suit most any girl. But realize that LA is a dirty, high contact town, and there are many, many dancers here already competing for every cent that they can get.

    Good luck.

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    I know I won't make as much money as I made at home, but I at least need to make enough to get a plane ticket and get my license renewed so I can go back to my old club

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    Quote Originally Posted by lopaw View Post
    This is a tough town to just survive in, let alone becoming uber-successful.
    Good luck.
    I am in the midwest but would say this true just about anywhere today A friend of mine, a very talented musician, moved out there years ago..he told me they don't even pay the bar bands, sometimes they may get $ from cover charges but usually not..& most of them jumped at the chance just to play out there
    What's that saying, for every star there's a million broken dreams?


    MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP

    -Eartha Kitt

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    DollBaby - have you checked out any of the clubs? Can you borrow some dancing stuff from someone?

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    No. I haven't been to any yet. Do you think that's an option? Girls aren't usually that..........friendly.

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    If you can find an outfit and you've got transportation - why not? You don't need any special licensing or permits in LA (although I think that you do in OC). I don't know where you are located in LA or how far you're willing/able to travel to work, but there are tons of clubs here. You've got to do something to start getting back on your feet financially, so why not capitalize on doing something that you've done before? It just has to be long enough to get you the $$$ you need to get back home to regroup.

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    I know you're right. The shoes and the outfits are the only things holding me back.

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    you dont need any "outfits." a lot of the small nude clubs are really laid back. sometimes I wear a cami with regular panties. but any old braand panty set will be fine for your first day and after that you can buy a pair of proper stripper shoes.

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    Two things off the top of my head that may help. You can get paid to donate plasma (you won't get enough to buy stripper shoes but you will get enough to buy some cheap regular heels which can work in a pinch, plus a meal or two.) This will probably only work if you have a local ID. The other is, if worse comes to worse and you get kicked out of your house, there are a ton of hostels in Hollywood where you can stay for like 20some dollars per night. This will probably only work if your ID is from Georgia. Most importantly, you need to get in a club ASAP. Don't think about selling yourself to some random trick- even if you don't get arrested or beat up,etc.- turning one trick won't solve all your financial worries. Don't trust anyone who pops up saying they can help you make money. They will pop up because right now you're releasing desperation chemicals into the air unintentionally. Sharks smell blood in water. But do network smartly, starting with the 36 people in your house. Follow your gut instincts as to who's cool and who's not. Ask if you can borrow a few bucks to get on the bus, or a pair of heels. Also, a lot of clubs have a whole bunch of (somewhat nasty) discarded stripper shoes that new girls can fish through, so if I were you I'd call around and ask about auditioning first thing tomorrow.

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    I can't imagine a house with 36 people living in it. What do the neighbors think? What part of LA are you living in that the landlord can get away with letting 36 people live in the house?

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    It's a bad neighborhood so the neighbors don't care. South Central

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    ...and you have a computer with internet? Could you sell your computer?

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    I'm reluctant to do that because I don't have a phone

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    Left you PM. Let me know what you think.

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    webcam girl maybe? your orig post does make me feel for you... good luck!

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