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    Hi guys I do webcamming and well before my ex passed away he literally told everyone in our town I do webcamming, also before let's just say I used To be a slut like I slept around and well I just was young at the time and foolish I thought hey maybe guys would like me extremely regret it but it is in the past. My new boyfriend has been great but he confronted me about my past not in a bad way but feel disgusting Over my past and how guys said it to him about me webcamming calling me a dirty slut to him and that he should leave me. I felt so shit once he told me what he heard but he shockingly told me he said its my past and he feel in live with the girl I am now and that he thought webcamming Was cool juts just I feel so disgusting now over my sexual past and feel like never seeing him again I hate myself for feeling this way I dont Think I deserve any love

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    Default Re: new boyfriend found out about my past

    that was your past. i know its hard but you just have to move on because there is absolutely nothing you can to change it, you just have to start fresh..and it sounds like you have. your new boyfriend sounds very supportive of you and your job so id just turn a new page, don't let the past mess up what you have now. and don't let anyone tell you that you are a slut because you webcam..that's utter BS

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    You should be proud of yourself. You have found a way to make money and be your own boss doing something you love. And you are not a slut. Men sleep around as much as they can and nobody calls them a slut...it's not bad to love sex!!! In fact, I love it when a guy calls me a slut (but that's another story).

    Still, it's got to be hard to live in a small town and deal with all of that crap. Maybe someday you and your boyfriend can move someplace bigger. In the meantime, just remember that you have a loving and supportive boyfriend. Treasure that!
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    don't be ashamed, its ok to have sex, its ok to enjoy sex- your worth isn't tied to what you decide to do with your vagina, slut shaming is so archaic, outdated... BORING. men are such fucking hypocrites. however, if they ask, always lie. they can't handle the truth- even if they say they can, it's a lie. have as much sex as you like just keep quiet until thet stop being fucking idiots. its them, not you. do NOT be ashamed.

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    If he is cool about it, I don't see the problem. Personally, I find it very attractive that a woman is (or has been) sexually adventurous.

    What is not attractive is low self-esteem. Work on your self-esteem issues.

    Also, if you are being persecuted in this town because the people there are narrow-minded and hateful, then, it may be a good idea to move someplace more open-minded and positive.
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    Please don't feel ashamed. It's okay to have regrets, but never let anyone make you feel like a shitty person for having sex. As others mentioned, men are allowed to fuck as many women as they want, but if a woman enjoys casual sex too it's seen as a BAD thing (but who would the promiscuous men sleep with if there were no promiscuous women? If we didn't give it up, we'd be called frigid prudes. But if we want it, we're called sluts. We can't win!).

    Every human being on earth has sexual desires and it's nothing to be ashamed of. You said it was consensual and you always used protection. So what's there to feel bad about? Your new man sounds like a good guy, he accepts you. Now you need to work on accepting yourself!

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    Thanks for the replies starting to feel better now about things just was so stressed and felt dirty for awhile, I just really hope this year changes for the better at least I have someone who loves me for who I am ,probably the only person in the world who loves me now thanks everyone

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