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    Question Any advice to help cheer up a long distance friend?

    My friend that I have mentioned before has made a few changes in the past few months. She left her studio in her hometown in Russia and signed up with weekly pay, she went back to her natural hair color, and the big one is she just moved away from where she was born and went to the big city, having just found an apartment in Moscow. Took her a few days to find the apartment but at least now it is done. Anyhow, while we were messaging each other this morning, she mentioned that she had been crying earlier just from being lonely. I can understand it since she is still pretty young (24) and this is a roughly 4000km move for her, so her parents and friends aren't anywhere close by. I am in the US, so unfortunately I can't just go there and give her a hug or anything, and I don't want to just say any meaningless phrases to her, but I do want to help keep her in good spirits until she finds her groove in the new place.

    That being said, I feel I have never been great at this sort of thing. I know she is smart and beautiful and everything will turn out ok, but I don't know that saying that is going to make it any better. Maybe saying things like that actually sound bad or condescending or something? I just don't know. I guess I am looking for some advice on things I can say to her to help her keep her chin up. Things I have done in the past (but of course I don't know if they work because I am an idiot) would be like sending her flowers, or a card with something on it, or once I sang a song for and about her. We IM every day and skype now and then so plenty of opportunities to say something sweet to make her smile. I dunno, we aren't in any sort of relationship or anything, just a friendship and that is where it will stay forever, but I do care about what happens to her and want to help her feel good.

    Any advice? My biggest fear is saying things that I mean 100% sincerely, but they sound insincere because they are cliche or something. Sometimes I overthink things, so I might just be getting all up in my own head.

    Thanks!
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    Default Re: Any advice to help cheer up a long distance friend?

    i find that just listening helps the most, and really being there for somebody through the hard times..a good friend who will just listen and let you vent when you are down is hard to find

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    Default Re: Any advice to help cheer up a long distance friend?

    Thanks. That is pretty much all I have been doing so far, so it is nice to hear that will probably at least not make it any worse

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