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    I quit dancing 6 months ago and plan on never going back( no offence to other ladies that do it, Its just not for me anymore). I moved back in with my parents after a break up and am currentl looking for a job..I can see myself getting a entry level position very soon but im currently selling fetish clips to get started on saving... My family have been nothing but supportive but I still feel a sense of shame of the fetish hustle. Im not getting nude in any of the clips and im not showing my full face in any of them. But Im scared of being found out by my family that has nothing but supportive of me.. They were so heart broken from me dancing And took me in when I left a bad situation with my ex with no judgement..Im very blessed to have them..But ever since I got back into selling clips I can see myself distancing myself from them. I hate having to hide anything from my family and friends for something that I personally think theres nothing wrong about. But I cant take disappointing them again.. there is a lot of $$ potential in clips and I can have my own place a lot sooner..I just wish I didn't have to keep a secret from them. My parents have been giving me money for me to go out because they know im having a hard time..I just started making clips again a few weeks ago so I haven't gotten my first check yet..I put the minmum payout to 2 grand so I wont get the check until I make that much..I feel so terrible that they are so kind and supportive but I know that they wont approve if I told them.. Is anyone else going through guilt for keeping your side hustle a secret?

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    Default Re: Keeping Selling clips a secret from my family and feeling guilty

    i can't say i've ever been through exactly that but i have been through other things that i know my family disapproves of and i've felt that guilt living with them like that..i know how you feel! i don't have much advice but *hugs*!! i think its great you have a source of income on your own, you're moving toward independence again and plans for the future! stay strong, you'll get through this!

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    Default Re: Keeping Selling clips a secret from my family and feeling guilty

    You feeling guilty about it (but keeping it a secret) is a whole lot better than the pain they will feel of betrayal and disappointment, if they find out.

    Just make sure you don't make any mistakes and get caught.

    This is like us guys with GFs or wives that occasionally feel a compulsion to visit the SC and buy dances. I go about once or twice every couple of months when I can no longer resist the urge and I feel guilty about it. (Though, I have justified it somewhat to myself by reasoning that it relieves the urge/itch to see another woman naked and saves me from full-blown adultery.)
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    ^^Maybe I'm wrong, but it's like it's taking everything in you not to cheat. I mean you only go to the strip club once or twice every few months because you just couldn't take it anymore, right?
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    Default Re: Keeping Selling clips a secret from my family and feeling guilty

    yeahh.. i think it's kind of a totally different situation than what the OP is talking about jack lol

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    Default Re: Keeping Selling clips a secret from my family and feeling guilty

    Quote Originally Posted by MommieLongLegs View Post
    ^^Maybe I'm wrong, but it's like it's taking everything in you not to cheat. I mean you only go to the strip club once or twice every few months because you just couldn't take it anymore, right?
    Yes, I've been with my GF forever, more than most marriages. In fact, some people would consider us married. I've never slept with anyone else, but the urge to seek sexual thrills/adventures with other women can feel irresistible. I won't go into the cliche about eating the same icecream for the rest of my life, but love does not kill all the urges. The SC is my way to manage my urges.

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    yeahh.. i think it's kind of a totally different situation than what the OP is talking about jack lol
    I did not say it was the same situation. My point was about keeping secrets and living a "double life" - whether the motivation is money for basic survival, money for petty trivial things, or a horny irresistable urge to see women naked, we find ourselves in that "double life" position and have to manage the guilt, covering our tracks, and facing a potentially disastrous outcome.

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    OP, I agree with simone87. I also think that if telling them will make you feel better, then do that, if you won't regret telling them. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!
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    ^ I'm not sure why you are so harsh, 80% of the guys in the SC that support dancers are like me. We are happily in a relationship or married, and believe in monogamy, but our brains are hardwired to seek adult entertainment once in a while for the novelty. It is only adult entertainment, right?

    Would you say the same thing to the married guy that occasionally wanks off to porn, fantasizing about banging a porn actress?

    With these standards, there won't be any men left to date or marry.

    Anyway, I'm done hijacking this thread... Back to the OP...
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    Thanks guys..

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    My dad almost disowned me when he found out I was dancing. He was so heartbroken and angry that he didn't talk to me for 3 months. He met me for dinner and told me "The only reason I am talking to you is because my therapist said I shouldn't disown you". No joke. (big surprise coming!!) the reason I was dancing at all was because he had given me a car and told me to put my stuff in it and leave on my 18th birthday. I love him to death & he's always struggled with psychological issues, so I feel compassion and still would never want to hurt him.

    I'm not saying your parents sound like my dad- but sometimes our comfort is not worth someone else's pain. If you choose to do your work knowing how it would make them feel, it is awful and it makes you feel guilty. But on the other hand, this is your life- not theirs. They cannot pay your bills forever, and you need to make your own decision. However, I believe that it would be wrong of you to make them suffer so you could have the comfort of not hiding. In my dad's case he would literally feel agony and I don't want to do that to him. Why should they suffer because you are uncomfortable because of something you choose to do? They shouldn't, so please spare them. This life is very unconventional, and most (conventional) people cannot handle it. There IS a reason we make so much money. It just comes at a different cost than a vanilla job. It can be lonely- but here is a forum with other women in the same situation. Be strong

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