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    I'm sure we all get regulars that demand too much, get too needy, get all stalkery etc-- one or two or both or more!! I probably will post something like this again soon.


    I have a regular who feels we have this amazing connection- has sent me many gifts off of my wishlist (the last being a $180 necklace). He is consistently offering to help (even fly out to help me move over the weekend- don't worry I said I was not comfortable meeting a stranger). He hopes we become friends and meet in person because from the privates we have had we have such "amazing chemistry".


    I've been clear that I will pursue any meeting up in person if that ever becomes something I am interested in and for him not to bring it up again and he hasn't.


    But now he is e-mailing me tellling me when he's free to get on skype (I have never skyped with him but have with other loyal paying regulars who understand this is business and they pay to play) because he "wants me to open my gift" with him there. I have never agreed to skype with him. I had agreed to wait to open my gift until we were in private- not in unpaid for skype and I feel it is opening up a doorway for trouble as I feel he is alluding I should skype with him atleast to open the gift. I'm certain I will be the "bad guy" though in the scenario who has to leave after 10 minutes so he doesn't waste my time and thus he will keep saying we'll talk more later or something to that extent.


    Anyone have a good script to handle this regular so I don't lose him as a customer?


    I'm thinking just straight up telling him I only skype when it is paid for regardless of gifts and that I have limited time and I do not get on cam for free no matter how much we may get along. Anyone have any better ideas or ways of saying it? I'm certain this will feel like he is just a customer to me then, and I don't think he is just some freeloading guy, but I don't have time to be catering to whimsy for free. (And I feel if I start now he'll push for more)


    Or should I just skype with him since he is buying gifts etc.

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    Default Re: Needy Regulars

    Didn't I already read this somewhere?

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    Offer to make him a short video of you opening the gift. That's as far as I would go with that since, like you said, he'll probably want to turn it into a free show.

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    Yah- A mod suggested I delete it from another thread and make it one of it's own (I had asked her if I put it in the right place and I hadn't)

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    I understand where you are coming from. I have regulars who just get to into it and end up wanting more. Its hard..they are good spenders and you don't want to lose that money. Personally I would try to find a way away from that. I feel it will lead him into thinking he can always skype with you and into more then what there is. My first year of camming taught me only to well to watch myself with guys like that. I had a customer..a good spender and he was fun and interesting to chat with. I don't do phone and because I was afraid of losing his money I went ahead and called him. BIG mistake! Huge fight with my husband and I was so sorry. It turned into a huge mess with me just not camming anymore for over a year. When I came back he was still around and started in on all his calling on the phone and asking me about my husband. I blew him off and just did my show and told me I didn't want to talk about my personal life. He ended the show with a attitude saying.."well I guess I will be back when you can make time for me" It was stupid and I was relieved that he left me alone after that. I hope you can find a way to set boundaries and still keep him as a client. I pretty much let everyone know I'm not here to hook up..I don't want to call you on the phone. This is strickly chatting and thats it. It saves problems in the long run. I wish I knew what to say and still keep him as a client. I hope someone can help you more.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Adorkable View Post
    I'm thinking just straight up telling him I only skype when it is paid for regardless of gifts and that I have limited time and I do not get on cam for free no matter how much we may get along. Anyone have any better ideas or ways of saying it? I'm certain this will feel like he is just a customer to me then, and I don't think he is just some freeloading guy, but I don't have time to be catering to whimsy for free. (And I feel if I start now he'll push for more)
    I think this is a good idea. It's really, really important to set boundaries with these types of guys as early on as possible. In my experience, guys like this all need to be cut off eventually because they end up getting all butt hurt about the "relationship" not going how they want it to. Just be nice but FIRM with what you will and will not do. If he's a good regular, he will understand. If not, he is a waste of time and you will be better off in the long run without him.
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    I agree with the ladies, be sweet but remind him that it's pay for play only. A cute free 5 min or less vid of you opening it is more than good enough. I just got out of a long 5 year mess with a guy like this when I first started camming. Tons of money later and I still won't meet him. He knows I'm married and everything but I had to tell him last week that I couldn't meet up as he was trying to take things to another level.

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    I would probably just tell him that you can't skype for free. Making a clip is also a good idea...or you could offer to open in it your chat room with him there? Then everyone else can see how AMAZING and GENEROUS he is, he isn't having to pay to see it, but you aren't losing and potential time or money. You also have a built in excuse for not turning it into a free show - you can't do a show in free chat!
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    Quote Originally Posted by ManyRoses View Post
    I would probably just tell him that you can't skype for free. Making a clip is also a good idea...or you could offer to open in it your chat room with him there? Then everyone else can see how AMAZING and GENEROUS he is, he isn't having to pay to see it, but you aren't losing and potential time or money. You also have a built in excuse for not turning it into a free show - you can't do a show in free chat!
    Great idea, ManyRoses! I think it also might encourage other guys to buy her gifts because they want that special recognition too!

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    ^^^Yeeessss! Play them off each other! Make them vie for your attention! It'll make mr gift giver feel like a big shot, too!
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    Now that's what I'm talking about!

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    I've seen a domme that makes youtube videos of opening gifts and she has alot of views. I was going to suggest that but she was opening a shit load of gifts. I wouldn't go out of my way to do that for 1 customer plus you could possibly make some money off of his request. There are ladies (findommes) who actually make videos of themselves opening the gifts that they got from their slaves/customers and they sell them on clips4sale.

    I would've told him that I don't turn on my skype cam for free and if he'd like to see me open his gift then he can go pvt, pay for a skype show, or even get a custom video. If you do decide to open his gift for free then I think ManyRoses idea of opening it in freechat is great. I'd also say something slick like "customer name is so special. He brought me this gift off my amazon wishlist." Maybe even say the url of your wishlist.
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    ^^^ Remember, if you are on SM, you CANNOT say "wishlist", "amazon" or give out a link!

    My advice? Make your wishlist name and cam name the same, and add a profile pic to let people find you. Post the wishlist link to your twitter, facebook, blog, and website (if you have them). When you open the box, you may want to risk showing off the "amazon" label, or you may not - I might risk it, but SM could conceivably get pissy.

    For the record, if this guy is a GREAT regular, you can talk to him off site and say "hey I can't do this but..." and set up a script where HE posts your link, and then you type "sorry bb, we can't give that out here, I could get in trouble!". As long as he knows that you are going to type that, he won't mind (he'll feel like he is in on a secret with you!) and you have your defense should SM get pissy.
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    "I have a needy regular who is starting to piss me off and I don't know what to do with him. We chat on Skype so I can let him know when I'm going online and lately he has been offering me money to meet him for sex. Even though I said I would never meet someone from MFC and that I'm engaged and happy he still doesn't let it go. It's really starting to get annoying but its like for some reason he's thinks he is special or think's I'll change my mind just cause he knows he's my best tipper and then he says things like 'I always tip you good cause I want to meet you.' His tips alone make up over half of my MFC income so I don't know what to do. Should I just laugh it off like I usually do to keep the tips rolling in or ban him? Should I maybe tell him again I'm not interested and hope he doesn't bring it up again? Is it worth the risk losing half my income even though he really isn't doing me any harm, just basically irritating me?"

    I never play around with my customers like that. I have zero problem shutting down the needy ones, and I'm very open about being married. I figure my sanity is worth more than MFC tokens, so if you believe the same, next time he says he "tips you because he wants to meet you" ... you say this: "Okay enough. I will never meet you in person because I am engaged. If the only reason you tip me is because you want to manipulate me into something I said repeatedly that I will not do, then don't tip me anymore."

    If he stops tipping you, so be it. You will then have more time to focus on new regulars who don't want to manipulate you into doing things you don't want to. Only you can decide of it's worth the headache.
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    Your right, my sanity is definitely worth more than MFC tokens, can't wait to tell him. Thanks Kim

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    Yeah it's a tough scenario, my best tipper is starting to be needy, continually ask for more priveledges etc etc and such on. I do talk to him via pm when i'm camming, but he also participates in free chat so I feel that it's okay especially when some nights he's the only one alone who makes me hit goal. However, when he started talking about our great connection, how he wishes we were together in real life, how we are so great for each other... i continuously remind him that I am not going to meet anyone from online in real life. ever. and i'm sorry but I appreciate his friendship and everything he's done but I don't want to feel like I'm leading him on. He usually backs off and he is still a regular to this day. Sometimes it's annoying having to say this every few weeks to every few months, but I try to make it as unoffensive as possible. I figure I'll lose him one day but why not milk him while he's still around, without going out of my way to cater to him that is.

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    I've been getting this a lot, but in my case some of these guys haven't spent in money, but instead want to sit in your room and chat for long periods of time day in/ day out. I've even had some of them try to slip me their number so that we can 'talk some time', which is just a way for them to not have to spend money. I will tell them upfront that I am not up there to meet people, but if that doesn't work, I have no issue with blocking.

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    This is a good thread. Due to many men like this, I have changed my whole strategy on MFC. Now, should they want any privileges or content, they have to sign up for my monthly clubs. That helps me to tell them straight up "Nope, club members only!"

    I do have this one guy who is irritating me, I'm going to block him off pretty soon. He keeps asking me to skype and everything. I have no problems dropping men like that. They cause more problems in the long run and to be honest, so I suggest ladies to block off all men who ask you for your number/email/skype. My highest spenders NEVER ask me for any of those things.

    I figured that clubs will help me weed out one-time-spenders from the regular spenders. I hate it when guys spends a lot once and then expects all these things from you afterwards. My skypes are now reserved for monthly highest tippers and club raffles (plus the highest tipper has to tip more than the amount in the membership club). So yes, because of needy regulars, I have changed my whole policy. It's now a take-it-or-leave-it deal.

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    Needy regs think their own you. And that you owe them a favour. You need to make them understand from the beginning else it would alot of drama.
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