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    Angry encountered a paying captian-save-a-hoe, annoyed

    I need help on dealing with an incredibly needy client, or a captian save-a-hoe whatever.
    The problem is he is my absolute favourite regular. He has generated me enough income in a week and a half that I haven't had to put up a new ad recently. Pretty sweet, eh? It was at first, except now he wants to date me. He's even told his mom about me, except he left out the whole "shes an escort ma" bit. He wants to save me from myself and take me away from this life. Its not like i'm miserable doing this, the money is getting me out of a pretty bad financial state.

    I'm completely independant escort with a boyfriend who drives me to my outcalls, and is my security. I was camming for abit before this, but than my laptop broke. To save myself from eviction I started escorting. I told my regular that this is how I got into escorting since he asked and he even gave me a laptop so i can stop doing this. Too bad the money is too great in this job to stop right at this moment.
    He is a very sweet guy but I honestly have no intentions on dating him, i dont want to mix business with dating and I'm so in love with my boyfriend for being so open, and there for me.
    Ive started to become annoyed because he always tries convince me to date him every session, but he still pays me.
    he keeps talking about how he'll keep doing this until one day he gets that chance to see me without paying.

    he works out of town, so i only see him every few weeks but i see him every other day when he is here.
    do i keep seeing him and put up with the headache? I have led him on and told him let me think about until he gets back, and that i need to get to a better place. That seems to works for now. He relentlessly tries to hang out for free until I stop messaging him back via text so he gives up and says ok i want an hour, or 2 and pays.
    or do i cut him off?

    sorry if there has been multiple questions on this, or if i posted this in the wrong place. i've tried to search...

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    Default Re: encountered a paying captian-save-a-hoe, annoyed

    You have to CLEARLY set your boundaries and if he does not stop simply stop seeing him.

    The more you continue the worse it will get, and then you could have a possibly dangerous situation.

    Do not respond to his calls "just to talk" only speak to him when he is setting up an appointment, and no small talk. When he brings up dating, make it clear that it is never going to happen and that you are a professional. I don't know if you told him you have a bf but I wouldn't bring that up because then he might think that you would date him if you didn't have a bf.

    Again, boundaries boundaries! Make it crystal clear! I hope some other girls can chime in on this as well because it sounds like this guy has potential to turn into more of a problem.
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    Default Re: encountered a paying captian-save-a-hoe, annoyed

    The fact you had to create this thread, means you've had to think about him too much. Look for other customers and never stop putting ads up for one customer. All your eggs in one basket n' all.
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    Default Re: encountered a paying captian-save-a-hoe, annoyed

    There comes a point where a customer's money just isn't worth it anymore. It sounds like you're almost at that point with this guy. It sucks to lose the income, but think of how awesome it'll be to lose that headache.

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    Default Re: encountered a paying captian-save-a-hoe, annoyed

    Double your rate on him. Whichever way the problem resolves itself at that point, it's a win for you.

    Whenever I encountered these situations as a camgirl (I admit to having NO experience in other adult areas, but I can't imagine it'd be much different), the bottom line issue was "I'm not charging this guy enough to put up with his BS." When the price is right, trust me... you can deal with pretty much ANY nuisance customer. :-)

    Don't get stuck thinking you have to charge every single customer the same rate. Simply not true. When I had 'dates' with particularly annoying cam customers, I eventually learned to add the "asshole tax" to my regular rates. Never had a bad day after that. :-)

    (Obviously, if you smell a dangerous stalker in the making, different advice applies. Use your intuition on that. Best of luck.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jessica1001 View Post
    (Obviously, if you smell a dangerous stalker in the making, different advice applies. Use your intuition on that. Best of luck.)
    yeah, I'm worried about the leading him on part. I don't want her lighting a fuse she can't put out. There's other money out there. Put your ads back up and walk away as soon as you can.
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    Default Re: encountered a paying captian-save-a-hoe, annoyed

    [/QUOTE]
    Don't get stuck thinking you have to charge every single customer the same rate. Simply not true. When I had 'dates' with particularly annoying cam customers, I eventually learned to add the "asshole tax" to my regular rates. Never had a bad day after that. :-)
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    "Asshole tax"<----love it, lol.
    Also his whole dating and trying to save you thing might be his clever little way
    of trying to "get it for free". Trust me, I was dumb enough to hang out with one
    of these types before because he was younger and "cared so much", and yeah, just because he took me out on a date all of a sudden I was supposed to give it up for free all night!! Oh, and I found out he was married. Go figure, lol.

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    Default Re: encountered a paying captian-save-a-hoe, annoyed

    The Asshole Tax!! I love it! Why didn't I think of that? A-W-E-S-O-M-E! I have to start doing that! Yeah............Seriously though, guys say I'm "sweeter" than most girls and try that junk with me too- until I set them straight! Watch out- this guy could start trying to stalk you. Be careful, it sounds like you have already gotten a good amount of cash out of him and need to look for other clients now. If you drastically cut your time with him OR just cut him off completely for a bit- he should get the point and start behaving at appointments. If he starts calling and calling and calling though- at that point, red flags should come up and you need to block him for good!

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