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    Duh I Feel So Embarrassed!

    It has been pretty slow in my club lately, and the nights it wasn't slow I just had very bad timing with guys. So I was pretty desperate to make money.

    Last night I finally nabbed a customer, and he was a multiple hour guy who spends a lot of $$$- so there was an incentive to stay with him. Management loves him and he has been coming to my club for a decade.

    He kept buying me drinks, would get upset when I would nurse then, and would actually take a sip to make sure there was alcohol in there.

    I had 3 drinks, and felt fine. So me and 3 other girls went into the room.

    Next thing I know I am up in the dressing room being changed into my clothes by the House Mom.

    Apparently I passed out, and threw up, and got my period all at the same time.

    I am mortified, and cannot stop thinking about it. This is the first time that I have ever passed out, or lost control due to alcohol in about 5-6 years.

    Every time that I think about going back to work, I cringe because I feel so stupid that I ruined a big $$$ room for myself, and messed with my reputation among management,customers, and girls.

    I know those girls will talk, and I feel disgusted to even show my face at the club.

    The funny thing is February 1st was supposed to be my last day working as a dancer, but due to the slowness this past month I did not have enough money saved up.

    I just feel very low, and I cant believe that I acted so stupidly.... well my period I could not control.

    Any advice on how to get past this? I am actually pondering about going to a different club. Yes I am a bit uptight.

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    Show up like nothing happened. Apologize if anyone mentions it. That's the standard procedure for the clubs I've worked in.

    That being said...

    Personally, I'm a little concerned.

    If you're a sensible drinker and you had some insane whack-a-do moment where all hell breaks loose and you black out... I'd worry that you were possibly drugged.

    I don't know if you have any memory of anything hinky happening but I'd think a bit about it. Seriously. Any funny flavors in your beverages? Anyone touching your drink? Anything weird like that.... that is very unusual.

    I'm just looking out for you. It's a very strange scenario.



    But yeah, again, if it is just an overabundance of booze, lay the embarrassment aside and move past it.
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    Oh My!I am sorry that happened too you,I wish I could cheer you up.

    About 3 years ago I was called out of a vip suit to the bathroom,the manager whispered too me that it was a 'Emergency".They had my friend(who I out of all the dancers there I was the closest with) sprawled out in the shower with her school girl skirt and thigh high boots...She was so drunk she barfed,then crapped on the customer and then passed out...Not joking.

    I know it is a total bummer but try to remember you are not the first girl to use a customer as a human kotex,and it will blow over.If you can try to take a week off to relax and get your mind right then Talk to management too apologize,they most likely will tell you that you are cut off or cut down on drinking on your shift.

    The girls will talk but try too ignore it if they bring it up,trust me something else will pop up to divert their attention.

    The Customer will probably either ignore you or the situation all together.Can you believe the guy that was lovingly named by us girls"Kotex Karl" came back the next week and spent a ton of cash on me(No I did not poop on him either)He after a period of time did do a dance with my friend but he refused to buy her drinks.

    Things will get better don't worry, and if you feel like you cannot show face just switch clubs,your regulars will find you.

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    Like the other ladies have said, dancers get drunk and embarrass themselves on a fairly consistent basis in strip clubs - you're not the first and you certainly won't be the last. Just go back to the club and make your money so you can quit. If you're really bothered, go to a different club, but if you're planning on being done with dancing as soon as you save up a bit more money, it's not like you'll have to deal with the people at this club for much longer.

    And like Sophia pointed out, it's very possible you were drugged. Always be careful with your drinks and don't let customers pressure you into drinking more than you're comfortable with.

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    Its not a big deal in the minds of the club. but you should never let someone pressure you into drinking. if you are, then dump the drink, get fake drinks and chug them, or share your drinks with other dancers. if there were multiple girls at the table it wouldnt be hard to dump some on the floor when hes not looking.

    anyway, your club shouldnt mind. it happens all the time.

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    Haha i used a customer (i remember he was wearing a sweater vest, which somehow makes it even funnier) as a human tampon once accidentally... i wasnt drunk i just wasnt expecting my period for like another week. It happens. And haters are gonna hate and girls are gonna talk shit regardless. Just go to work, dont sit in the dressing room so you wont hear anything, and dont drink until you get to your savings quota then you dont have to deal with the shit talking girls and asshole customers pressing you to drink too much or possibly drugging you again.

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    It sounds like this guy was trying to take advantage of you. Tasting your drinks to make sure there was alcohol in them? Are you serious?! You said he's been going there for 10 years, he obviously knows his way around the club.

    I wouldn't feel bad because everyone has embarrassing things happen, but I would set your boundaries for yourself so in the future something like this won't happen again.
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    Rite! Try to take advantage of a stripper... get vaginal blood on your khakis. Total karma... just sucks you had to get embarassed in the process of Karma carrying out its dirty work...

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    Sounds like you were drugged to me too. I was once, similar things ensued.

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    Now that I think of it,maybe you were drugged.

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    Yep, I agree..three drinks really shouldn't do that much..although getting/having/near period time can make you drunk faster. The fact that he was pushing you, puts up a red flag. I don't think it'ls your fault, just go back (as was said) & be careful!


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    I think he drugged you. I hate controlling customers like that. Go get a urine test. How can you even be sure he didnt take advantage of you?

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    I also think he drugged you. If you felt fine one minute then that happened the next-that's not how alcohol usually works unless you drink MEGA fast. You usually feel a bit giddy or notice you feel a bit affected. Then if you drink more you notice you feel a bit worse.
    I would call the club manager, sure apologise for what happened, then say what you think caused it. He may be a big spender but personally I would avoid him in future-and yes why taste someones drink to make sure there's alcohol wtf?! This may sound daft but was he dropping drugs from his mouth, into your drink perhaps?
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    Default Re: I Feel So Embarrassed!

    Own it, who cares. If you're still uncomfortable, go work at a different club.

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    ere probably drugged. It definitely sounds like it. Whether by that guy or by one of the girls who works there or someone else. Since this is causing you so much distress, you're probably better off working at another club for awhile anyway. Or maybe just doing this club once a week or every so often?

    If a girl or som
    eone makes a comment about it, you should just be like "if you were unknowingly drugged, that would have happened to you too" and they'll shut up. If they don't shut up after that, who cares, they'll look like an idiot.

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    I wonder why that guy was pressuring you into drinking and making sure there was alcohol in it. That alone would freaked me out. My guess he's a multiple hour guy because he drugs girls and do illegal things back in VIP...of course the club loves him...they love his money.

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    A very similar thing happend to me! I feel you on being embarrassed, it was all i could think of days later as well! Before I went to work one night I drank a few shots and drinks then when I got there a custy kept buying me shots and I felt fine but next thing I know I woke up in the dressing room with my head in my lap and apparently had been going off on my ex bf all night which I dont remember. I HAVE blacked out before so I know this happends to me when I drink too much too fast which is what I think happened but not sure,I remember NOTHING so after sleeping in the back for a good 3-4 hours I took my happy ass right back out on the floor ready to work not knowing what happened to me, lol. The manager came over and told me I had to leave cause I had to be carried to the back off the floor! lol. I mustve fell over, passed out and had to be physically picked up and carried plus I have no idea what I did still to this day (not sure i wanna know)so I refused to go back, I found a different club the next weekend. I couldnt walk around that place with confidence ever again. Sorry girl but if I was you id find another club, screw that this will mess with your confidence and therefore your $$.

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    Eek. The other night I had to help a dancer put her pants on -- OUTSIDE. She had left the club with a hoodie and no pants or shoes. Wasted. Just walked out, trying to catch a cab.

    Another time I saw a girl's tampon fall out on stage.

    Another time, I saw a girl puking in a trash can from the stage.

    Another time, I saw a girl fall on her head doing a suicide drop from a tall pole.

    ^^^^ I saw all of these girls at work again, making money, doing their thing.

    It's a strip club! Girls do dumb shit! People forget. It'll be OK.

    EDIT: OH I forgot the best one! Also, recently, a customer gave a girl who works in my club (not a dancer) the keys to his Cadillac so she could drive them home (they were friends). She went to pull it around and fucking ran into the side of the building. No one was allowed to leave until like 4:00 in the morning because our exit was blocked. She still works there. xD

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    Assuming you just had a lot to drink then I wouldn't worry about it. It always seems worse in your head, and you are def not the first or the last to get too drunk. Did he pay you for the time you spent together? I feel like guys that like to drink and party hard expect things to get a little rough. You don't know what kind of condition this guy was in when he left, maybe he just wanted someone to get just as shitfaced as himself. Obviously, no one should make a habit of drinking like that, and especially not in an unsafe club. But it sounds like people looked after you and you went down quietly. Your club will understand if you drank too much because you spent hours with a guy who is known for drinking lots. Just go back in and act like nothing happened, if anyone says anything rude just brush it off don't let them embarrass you. For peace of mind drug test yourself, and if you were drugged then act accordingly. I'd casually ask the staff that loves this guy if he always drinks a lot and they'll probably tell you some stories or at least verify if he's usually a party animal.

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    I agree that it sounds like you got drugged. Three drinks isn't a lot, imo, espescially watered down strip club cocktails. Maybe enough to get you nice and tipsy but blackout? I don't think so... Something similar happened to me and some friends one night a couple years ago, these guys bought us drinks at a bar, one or two, and the next thing I know I'm puking my guts out on the curb outside a shawarma restaurant and the police are trying to question me because one of my friends was raped and I remembered nothing of the last three hours...my friend got tested for drugs when she went to the hospital and apparently nothing, but I have always wondered about that night. If we could have been drugged with something that would have passed through our system in 3-4 hours. It usually takes me till around 7-8 drinks to be drunk anywhere near the point where I might black out. Your situation is just as suspiscious. If you ever see this customer again (you mentioned he's really loved by mgmt.) WATCH OUT. If he ever talks to you again or ever offers you another drink be careful...

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    Def sounds like this custie drugged you. I'd be more concerned or outraged this custie and/or other girls drugged your drinks and possibly took advantage then getting my monthly.

    And there's def some nefarious asshat custies that make it it their mission to do things like this. Seriously you'd been there 5-6 years and hadn't ever had an issue with drinks and just after 3 passed out?!?

    There's some sneaky drugs out there besides GHB and roof, there's also Scopolamine(Hyacine) which like a twilight/zombie truth serum drug (don't ask me how I know this). In Columbia dancers usually use it on customers instead of vice versa, they call it borrochero. Shit Scopolamine is even in Visene eye drops.

    But yeah, I'd probably not want to go back to that club because sounds like you got drugged. Management probably knows that assclowns doing it too. Never ever let a custie touch your drink for ANY reason. No sipping, no ice cubes (cuz they could sneak in that too), if unattened drink then dump it.

    Sorry it happened to you and that your ok, but maybe time to try another club, especially if it's slow anyways.

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    i agree with everyone, it definitely sounds like he drugged you! what a creep. honestly, if it will make you feel better find a new club, but remember how many strange/embarassing/off kilter things you see working in a strip club.....this is not going to be the worst your co-workers have ever seen! many a stripper has blacked out on the job - a lot of girls won't even give it a second thought.

    be careful, always watch your drink like a hawk!! and never give in to customer's pressure....if you can bullshit them out of their money, you can bullshit your way out of drinking!!

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    You could have been drugged buy like someone mentioned drinking fast=blackout. It has happened to me A LOT. Just feel ok about someone being there to take you away from the creep before he could do anything. If he has been going for ten years he probably directly targets girls he hasn't met to see if he can push their boundaries. Yuck.

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    So did I, but I don't even drink alcohol : ( Someone slipped it into my cranberry juice and I didn't even notice

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    I'm sorry that happened to you At least it didn't happen on stage, in front of everyone. One of my friends tried dancing once, and let's just say after a few nights she realized she wasn't cut out for it. The management gave her a couple "courage drinks" before she went onstage to audition, and when she got onstage (mind you, it was her first time ever dancing on a stage at a strip club) she threw up on the stage. They didn't make her leave, so consequently the second time she was on stage that night she started throwing up again and had to rush off stage, while puking.

    Embarrassing things happen to everyone. You'll be okay!

    As for the dude who led up to all this, if you only had three drinks than it does sound like perhaps you were slipped something. Something similar happened to me once. I was sitting with a customer and had a few drinks, and next thing I know I'm in the dressing room inebriated to the point where I was barely conscious (couldn't talk or walk) while the DJ and housemom helped me throwup into a trash can. Luckily the DJ carried me downstairs into the dressing room before anything emabarassing happened, but to go from being fine one minute to drunk out of my mind the next was pretty scary. I've drank wayyy more than that before and have never been close to as fucked up as I was then. I spent the rest of the shift mostly passed out in the corner of the dressing room with a blanket and pillow given to me by the housemom, hugging a trash can. I only woke up a few times, and that was to puke into the trash can. At about 2am when the club closed, I was finally conscious... I woke up, stood up, and asked the DJ what the hell happened. He filled me in and gave me his two cents that it seemed like I may have been drugged.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MissSassyPickles View Post
    It sounds like this guy was trying to take advantage of you. Tasting your drinks to make sure there was alcohol in them? Are you serious?! You said he's been going there for 10 years, he obviously knows his way around the club.

    I wouldn't feel bad because everyone has embarrassing things happen, but I would set your boundaries for yourself so in the future something like this won't happen again.
    this sounds like something I went through a long time ago. my boyfriend, kid you not, my boyfriend went on about how he had fixed me a soda. it was a store brand soda that he knew I didn't like. he got really aggravated when I didn't want it. I finally drank it, and he got aggravated when I didn't drink it fast enough too. I woke up later in my room, wondering where the past 3 hours had gone.

    this was back when the date rape drug was considered to be just a rumor. I think you were drugged as well.

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