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TMI to post here
Last edited by lol1337a; 02-02-2013 at 05:54 PM. Reason: tmi





There's no point staying at one club when you can make more $ at another, especially if the club has changed for the worse (i.e. taking a larger cut from your dances etc). “The grass is always greener…”-but sometimes, it really is.
To avoid "burning bridges", I'd suggest just doing as trial/one shift at another club. That way, you won’t need to quit your current job. Plus, you can try out the other club and decide whether or not you want to make the switch.
If you are the top earner at this club, it's for a reason-so, you will most likely be one of the top earners at your next club too.
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As soon as the money goes down or the club makes it harder to make money (ie. taking a bigger cut of dances), I'm out.
Does your contract stipulate you can't work at any other clubs? If not, I don't see why you think this bridge is going to be burned. Girls come and go from clubs all the time and it's rarely a big deal. As long as you don't give them a piece of your mind or flame out, you'll probably be welcome back - especially if you're a top earner and the club takes a cut of that.
I agree with OJ's suggestion of having trial shifts at other clubs. If there's scheduling, cut down your shifts to the minimum required and take the time to try out a couple of other clubs to see how their income potential is right now. I've often worked at 2 clubs at a time because certain shifts were more lucrative in one than the other and I just liked the change of scenery. I burned no bridges at either club by doing this.
You seem to be stuck in this mindset of club loyalty akin to employee loyalty in the vanilla world. Even if the club is family owned, they understand the industry and the nature of dancers to go where the money is, so they will doubtfully get butthurt over your departure and never let you return.




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Last edited by lol1337a; 02-02-2013 at 06:10 PM.



You owe it to yourself to go where the money is. I know what it is like to be very attached to one club, and feel very comfortable in that environment so trying a new club is scary! It sucks to be the new girl and not know anyone or the club regulars, rules, norms, etc. However, by doing what OliveJardin said, and just trying a shift or two at a different club, it is very non-committal so you can just tell yourself that if you hate it, you won't go back, but if you make a ton of money there, you will keep it open as an option. I would suggest keeping this on the DL though, as you don't want word getting around to the management of your current club. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if you saw a few girls from there working at other clubs too, if they just recently upped the fees. When you get to the new club, just stay confident, don't be afraid to ask questions to clarify how things work or what you are/aren't allowed to do, and for the most part just keep to yourself. You know what it's like to be the queen bee somewhere, so you know how the addition of a new girl makes everyone else feel as well. They will warm up to you, just worry about making your money.
Despite the exclusivity stipulated on your contract, I'm sure you could get away with it as long as you told no one, at least to give you the chance to try out a shift or two elsewhere to determine if it's worth burning the bridge.




this is kind of off topic but the club i work at owns 2 other clubs. they are 20 minutes from each other and all very similar (relatively upscale suburban). she rotates clubs every month that way she is always the "new" girl. i don't think the "new girl" swagg thing really works for me but it works for her since shes always a fresh face. by the time shes lost her new girl effect she just goes to the next club.





hmm i wonder if we work together! my club is the same way, 3 of them, 20/30 min apart in mass. i find one of them to be great, the other two are shit..took me a year to find the right one and really settle down and not be the "new girl". i find at one of them new girls are treated very badly and pretty much run outta there if they make money..the girls get jealous and nasty. one of the main reasons i don't like the idea of switching clubs is that. its so good to feel comfortable and have friends and regs finally. so i see where you're coming from OP. but in the end, we do it for the money so its worth a shot!




The club I picked out might be the nice one where they run you out if you make money. A dancer followed me and my first VIP customer upstairs pleading for him to take her instead, and when he didn't, she turned around and swore up and down that we're cool. Reassuring. Any advice if this turns out to be an ongoing problem?





I would take aperfectseal's advise & keep to yourself. My earnings, my experience of the nite, if any of the girls asks abt these kinds of things I just give them the vaguest answers possible.
Occasionally I've had a customer comment on an awkward situation where he wanted to take me to VIP but was essentially being camped by another girl & didn't quite have the heart to turn her away. Customers will take note of another girl being unprofessional, as that girl was towards you. Just remind him discreetly that he is the customer, & as such he needn't feel obligated to go w/ a girl he's really not all that interested in.
It's not your fault if a customer fancies you over sm1 else. I think that unless you're getting threatened, or outright cornered in the dressing room, you shouldn't be putting too much energy towards this fear of being run out.
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