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    Default I need help with body language

    I have a basic understanding of body language mainly confidence vs. nervousness. I've been doing a lot of research and watching YouTube videos and it turns out MOST of communication is nonverbal (about 55% aid is just body language and the tone of your voice makes up a huge chunk)

    I've spent so much time over my dancing career fussing about what words to say and not what my BODY is saying. I observe the other girls and take note of the ones who look closed off with their arms folded or walk around looking lost and then the others who strut around holding a drink like its a trophy with big fake smiles to give myself clues about what not to do. I always walk normally with my arms at my sides and try not to look closed off or overly fake but I could use some help

    anyone have body language tips to seem confident and genuine? Or how to make a guy think you like him? What works to sell dances and what should dancers avoid doing in terms of body language?

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    Default Re: I need help with body language

    Make eye contact and wear a coy smile while you're walking through the club. When you sit with a client, mirror their body language. Be open (ie. not folding your arms or turning your body away from the client) and geared towards him (angle your body to him, keep a hand on his leg or the back of his neck, etc.). Use your hands to do sensual little things like play with his hair, run your fingers up and down his arm, etc., that get him in the mood for dances. Sustain that contact throughout your entire hustle and not just when you're popping the question.

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    Default Re: I need help with body language

    I just walk around with my tits out.
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    Default Re: I need help with body language

    look up "power postures" here in hustle hut! that'll make you look more confident. to be sexy, i always play with my hair, caress myself lightly , eye contact, smile, boobs out, waist in..also playfully touching the custy ( not like crotch grab, or anything dirty) always helps!

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    Default Re: I need help with body language

    Power Postures

    ^Here's the thread Simone mentioned! Other than what she talks about in that video though, like Shanna mentioned -- mirroring is HUGE and a completely subtle way to build trust when you're sitting with someone one-on-one.

    When I walk through the club, I am never too "strutty" or run-way esque. We aren't allowed to carry out drinks around (mostly just a rule to sell more drinks, because when we leave a customer we leave our drink behind), so both of my hands are free when I walk around the club. If I have a customer waiting for me, I ALWAYS take the long way to him -- make a circle around the bar, lightly touch peoples' shoulders or waists and say "excuse me," giving them a big smile over my shoulder as I walk by. The biggest thing is to always be interacting with people, unless of course they have a dancer in their lap or something. This accomplishes a few things:

    1. Whoever you've just interacted with has built a quick, short connection with you. He'll recognize you on stage and will be more liable to come tip.
    2. He's noticed you, and then you walked away! This ignites the masculine predatory side of him, which is hard to do in a strip club because MOST of the time you're the one introducing yourself to customers.
    3. If he doesn't chase you on stage, he'll recognize you when you DO come introduce yourself.
    4. Looking busy by interacting with all of these men is something that will NEVER go unnoticed by other customers. Even if you're not selling dances to them, you're not one of the girls wasting hours with one customer, smoking a cigarette at the bar or hiding in the dressing room. You're being seen constantly when you're on the clock and that's intriguing.

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