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    Quote Originally Posted by Melodie View Post
    I feel ya. Recently my boyfriends sister found out about what we do, and we got the whole "You could do so much with your live you're so talented and smart, you could do anything you want to!!" she was crying and so upset.
    I hate that people think that this is such a shameful thing to do, and I hate that people assume you're doing it out of desperation, and not that it's something you WANT to do!
    I don't even understand it. Like, my brain literally cannot process that statement. Money, flexibility, fun. And you don't even have to do it forever. Are people crazy?

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    I hope didn't offend you! I think it's fine, I myself have some issues (w/all sex stuff) I don't see ANYTHING wrong w/it! I have a friend who's made one too many sideways remarks about my camming, etc. Previously phone sex, "I wouldn't do that"..yeah she had no probs. 'borrowing' $ I made though


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    Because there's a lot of stigmas that come with being in the adult industry. People ASSummed that we don't have much going, couldn't make it through college so we have to sort to this shameful type of work.
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    I don't even understand it. Like, my brain literally cannot process that statement. Money, flexibility, fun. And you don't even have to do it forever. Are people crazy?

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    Oh no, BB! I wasn't talking about you. I was talking about people who believe what we do is sinful.
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    I hope didn't offend you! I think it's fine, I myself have some issues (w/all sex stuff) I don't see ANYTHING wrong w/it! I have a friend who's made one too many sideways remarks about my camming, etc. Previously phone sex, "I wouldn't do that"..yeah she had no probs. 'borrowing' $ I made though

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    Marina, I just had to deal with a similar issue myself and made a thread about it. Everyone was so supportive and gave such insightful responses it really made me feel better. Having a community like this makes all the difference. Congratulations on telling your sister, that was very brave and although you may not feel great right now, you'll start feeling better as time goes on as well as a great sense of relief. It's much less stressful living life in the open. I know this isn't a possibility for everyone but I'm really glad you did it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    Because there's a lot of stigmas that come with being in the adult industry. People ASSummed that we don't have much going, couldn't make it through college so we have to sort to this shameful type of work.
    But it makes no sense because that's a 1990s stereotype. Pre-internet. Pre-lets-give-everyone-a-student-loan. Like, so much has changed, it does not make sense why that idea still exists.

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    When we die and find out the scientologists were right all along, the whole Jesus thing shouldn't sting too much.
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    By the way. Jesus accepted hookers
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    Good job girl and so sorry you are having a rough time.

    Keep your head up girl..

    but on another note - Jesus wouldn't want you to sell your body?? Then tell Jesus he's a double standard SOB because he was banging a prostitute named Mary Magdalene...

    Sorry but I HATE when people say that shit - God gets it. He understands and isn't gonna crucify you for making better for yourself. After all, people used to kill people then to survive. People split the seas. People split babies and God was cool with their BS.

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    Oh you know I just had to try and make you smile!


    What I really wanted to say was

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    Now WHO'S been makin my Marina cry?!?!!

    -Yo-Hold-My-Poodle-xD-white-chicks-29349572-500-200.gif


    In all seriousness,you are my hero lady.I get butterflies even when I fantasize about coming out to anyone,Id probably straight throw the fuck up if I actually tried to tell them.

    All of us here love you sooo much,youre like one of famous few SW class clowns and you bring so much laughter,smiles and joy to soo many ladies and will continue to long after youre gone from here when future ladies happen upon the site,so dont ever forget that.Did you know youre a fuckin ROCKSTAR?!? Have I told you that lately?? Not only have you found the courage and strength to be true to yourself and be one FIERCE transsexual woman,but you just mustered up the bawls to finally tell your sister - gawdamn, you must be Robo-bitch!!!

    I live in a very conservative,christian state so I can def relate to the fear of their reactions - Its so hard to make some people understand that not all people are just laid back,open minded and totally cool with the sex industry.Its still a taboo,because society and most mainstream religions say so,so most people are unfortunately brainwashed by them.They never pull the wool off of their eyes and begin to actually SEE,they never question that THEIR beliefs may be wrong or that society and religion as a whole may be completely ass backwards about MANY things.I used to hate these people (once I finally broke the mold and refused to be one of them any longer) but over time I came to realize that its really not their fault and I just feel pity for them now.Just certain beliefs and stigmas have been pounded relentlessly into their heads their entire lives,and anyone who disagrees and goes against them is typically ostrasized,condemned and considered evil or unclean.I just consider them to be brainwashed their entire lives by a VERY formidable and powerful cult,and we just happen to be one of the lucky few that have woke up and escaped.Theyre just sheeple...

    Im not sure how youre sister reacted when you initially decided to live as/become the fabulous woman that you are today,but Im going to take it as a good sign that she is still talking to you and that you still consider her a cool person who you thought would be accepting of your camming "secret".You,more than any of us, know how most people like that feel about the LGBT community.So if she was accepting/ok with you becoming the wonderful woman that has always been in you, then hopefully she will come around and accept you camming as well.She may have just been taken aback, or even thinking it was like "the cherry on top" (again,Im not sure how she feels/felt about you being transsexual).

    I love when ppl give the whole "youre better than that,Jesus hates whoars" bullshit..Theyve been conditioned to be soo judgmental of everything that doesnt fit into their ideal cookie cutter mold,and so anything outside of that becomes embarrassing and shameful to them.Its slightly comparable to the whole BBW thing I hear every so often - inevitably some skinny chick always comes along and says "Ewwwwy! Oh uh wait I meant,what about your health? Im concerned about your health,its just soooo unhealthy to be overweight!" When in reality,I know good and damn well she could give a SHIT about my health,she just thinks its gross,embarrassing,and that Im a fat pig that needs to learn some self control lol..

    Just because we live our lives differently does NOT mean we live them wrong.Sis may be a lil embarrassed by your news as well-Just pat her on the head like a small child and KNOW that you are not a jugdemental brainwashed sheeple but that you are a rarity - its easier to accept that theyre going to always been judgemental,immature and critical when you realize theyre just freshman in high school and youve already made it to Grad School.

    Im not saying that its RIGHT for them to think this way,or that I think they should continue to,just merely stating how I see it.How I believe everyone should act/feel is a subject for a whooole nother thread lol

    I wish I were there with you in person to hold your hand and cry with you Marina,and to say all of this and much more to your face.Just know Im here,I love you and Im hurtin for you,just like everyone else <3

    *dammit,stupid gif's messed up on me tonight.FAIL! ugh,do i really have to go find them all again?!
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    Quote Originally Posted by goreantx View Post
    When we die and find out the scientologists were right all along, the whole Jesus thing shouldn't sting too much.
    You are my hero. And soulmate probably.

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    I am so touched.

    Quote Originally Posted by VoluptiousBriadda View Post
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    Oh you know I just had to try and make you smile!


    What I really wanted to say was

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    Now WHO'S been makin my Marina cry?!?!!

    -Yo-Hold-My-Poodle-xD-white-chicks-29349572-500-200.gif


    In all seriousness,you are my hero lady.I get butterflies even when I fantasize about coming out to anyone,Id probably straight throw the fuck up if I actually tried to tell them.

    All of us here love you sooo much,youre like one of famous few SW class clowns and you bring so much laughter,smiles and joy to soo many ladies and will continue to long after youre gone from here when future ladies happen upon the site,so dont ever forget that.Did you know youre a fuckin ROCKSTAR?!? Have I told you that lately?? Not only have you found the courage and strength to be true to yourself and be one FIERCE transsexual woman,but you just mustered up the bawls to finally tell your sister - gawdamn, you must be Robo-bitch!!!

    I live in a very conservative,christian state so I can def relate to the fear of their reactions - Its so hard to make some people understand that not all people are just laid back,open minded and totally cool with the sex industry.Its still a taboo,because society and most mainstream religions say so,so most people are unfortunately brainwashed by them.They never pull the wool off of their eyes and begin to actually SEE,they never question that THEIR beliefs may be wrong or that society and religion as a whole may be completely ass backwards about MANY things.I used to hate these people (once I finally broke the mold and refused to be one of them any longer) but over time I came to realize that its really not their fault and I just feel pity for them now.Just certain beliefs and stigmas have been pounded relentlessly into their heads their entire lives,and anyone who disagrees and goes against them is typically ostrasized,condemned and considered evil or unclean.I just consider them to be brainwashed their entire lives by a VERY formidable and powerful cult,and we just happen to be one of the lucky few that have woke up and escaped.Theyre just sheeple...

    Im not sure how youre sister reacted when you initially decided to live as/become the fabulous woman that you are today,but Im going to take it as a good sign that she is still talking to you and that you still consider her a cool person who you thought would be accepting of your camming "secret".You,more than any of us, know how most people like that feel about the LGBT community.So if she was accepting/ok with you becoming the wonderful woman that has always been in you, then hopefully she will come around and accept you camming as well.She may have just been taken aback, or even thinking it was like "the cherry on top" (again,Im not sure how she feels/felt about you being transsexual).

    I love when ppl give the whole "youre better than that,Jesus hates whoars" bullshit..Theyve been conditioned to be soo judgmental of everything that doesnt fit into their ideal cookie cutter mold,and so anything outside of that becomes embarrassing and shameful to them.Its slightly comparable to the whole BBW thing I hear every so often - inevitably some skinny chick always comes along and says "Ewwwwy! Oh uh wait I meant,what about your health? Im concerned about your health,its just soooo unhealthy to be overweight!" When in reality,I know good and damn well she could give a SHIT about my health,she just thinks its gross,embarrassing,and that Im a fat pig that needs to learn some self control lol..

    Just because we live our lives differently does NOT mean we live them wrong.Sis may be a lil embarrassed by your news as well-Just pat her on the head like a small child and KNOW that you are not a jugdemental brainwashed sheeple but that you are a rarity - its easier to accept that theyre going to always been judgemental,immature and critical when you realize theyre just freshman in high school and youve already made it to Grad School.

    Im not saying that its RIGHT for them to think this way,or that I think they should continue to,just merely stating how I see it.How I believe everyone should act/feel is a subject for a whooole nother thread lol

    I wish I were there with you in person to hold your hand and cry with you Marina,and to say all of this and much more to your face.Just know Im here,I love you and Im hurtin for you,just like everyone else <3

    *dammit,stupid gif's messed up on me tonight.FAIL! ugh,do i really have to go find them all again?!

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    I wasn't sure if I should PM this to Marina but since people are bringing up the whole religion says it's wrong thing, I thought I'd share my thoughts with everyone. Before I was baptized into the Mormon church about a year ago I was told that I would not be able to join unless and until I quit camming. I was devastated and cried my eyes out. In my mind, camming is not wrong. To ask me to give up my livelihood doing something I enjoy that allows me to take care of myself was such a huge blow but I did it anyway because I really wanted to be a member. I also gave up drinking and all of the other things I was supposed to give up. Let me just tell you, I was MISERABLE! The church told me they would take care of me financially until I could find a job but I was not having that, I think the tithing the church brings in should go to families and people who actually need it, not able bodied people like me who are actually capable of making money for themselves. So I went through my savings pretty fast (which I sincerely regret), I started writing more but was making maybe $3-4/hour if I was lucky. Are you kidding me? I can't live off of that! So I was running out of money and started experiencing a lot of anxiety, and though people would tell me about job leads I couldn't imagine commuting two hours One Way to a job just to make minimum wage. Maybe I am spoiled. People could tell that I was very unhappy. Writing my butt off was not only not earning me what I needed to, but I had no time to enjoy things in life because I was always working and never getting ahead. I decided to go back to camming and drinking.

    Church members were outraged at my decision. I didn't tell them about my drinking, but I did tell them I'm going to be doing non-nude camming and fetish clips. They thought it was some huge travesty but I asked them to tell me WHY. And they couldn't. WHY is it wrong to make and sell a video of me painting my toenails? WHY is it wrong to get paid to cam with a lonely guy tell me about his job and traveling and things like that? WHY is it that if I eat a meal at a restaurant it's totally okay, but if I record myself eating a meal and make money from that clip that's wrong now? Where is the line? I spoke with other members, missionaries, even my bishop and NO ONE could tell me WHY it's wrong. "It just is." Sorry but I do not accept that. There are members in my ward who are fondling and massaging each other during church service, who then go home and make out and dry hump. I have not had intercourse with, kissed, or even held another person's hand (other than a hand shake) in a year and a half. And *I* am the one without morals? Woah woah woah!

    After resuming camming and drinking, members who would talk to me at church or come to my house to visit remarked about how much happier I am. Hah, if they only knew why! I am back to doing nude camming as well as non-nude, they don't know that but they are happy for me that I am satisfied with life again. There is a very popular quote from scripture which is also a hymn, it says, "Men are that they might have joy." I think that's what it comes down to. I think that one of the big goals in life is to make yourself and others happy and not hurt yourself or others. So what's the problem with camming, again?

    My ex and I disagreed on a lot of things but one thing he always said that I like is, NO ONE knows what God wants. You can look to scripture and find things that you're not supposed to do but nowhere does it say that God wants you to do this or that. The possible exception being to love thy neighbor as you love thyself. Nowhere in the scripture does it say, "Thou shalt not get naked on the internet for money." I mean, come on. Classic religious texts were written well before the age of computers (obviously), so there is no indication either way whether webcamming would be considered good, bad, or neutral. The religious leaders who tell you camming is wrong are giving you their personal opinion on it, they are telling you what they *think* God would think about it, but no one knows. Look at the source if you don't believe me. Whether or not one believes the Torah, New Testament, Qur'an, The Book of Mormon, etc. are divinely inspired or not, NOT ONE of those holy books says ANYthing about camming. NOT ONE of those holy books says that camming is wrong. A person might believe that God thinks this or that about it but NO ONE knows, and that means no one has the right to judge.

    I'll get off my soapbox now

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    Sorry about that Marina. But you have to do what is right for you. I could not live without my cam job. It gives me the freedom. People should not be the judge of other people. I give you a big virtual hug!

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    Nothing cuts deeper into your heart as somone you grew up along side as family not loving you unconditionally. I am so sorry. I can't even imagine the pain you are currently feeling. It was so unfair for your sister to say those things to you.

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    I'm so sorry to hear that you are going through this. Especially after you showed such courage in coming out to her, you got stepped on because of it. It's always a slap in the face to realize that people who you thought would support you and love you are actually horribly judgmental and look at you differently after you tell them something personal. And yet, I've found, over time, that certain people who I don't expect to support me at all, often surprise me in coming around. Hmm... just seems hit or miss in knowing who will react to certain things in what way, and it's a gamble to tell anyone anything super personal - It was so brave of you to take that risk for the chance at being closer to your sister.

    She's still your sister, and I'm sure she still loves you and will come around in her own way eventually. The things she said were hurtful, but not entirely out of the ordinary arguments for people who are uncomfortable with sex work, especially if they are religious (not that that's an excuse). Just seems like she was shocked and let her prejudices come spilling out of her mouth. Hopefully, she will soon realize what a bold move it was for you and how much you must love her to open up to her like that, and she will appreciate it and try to understand you better. Until then, all of us are here for you 100%!
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    Hey marina i feel sad about what happen to you i experienced it too not only from my sister but for some friends and former classmates (religous ones) lolz

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    I just want to thank all of you again for showing me so much love and support. You have no idea how much it means to me.

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    Marina, I respect you a lot. I'm sorry your sister couldn't accept it ... unfortunately, no matter how open-minded our families are, I think the majority aren't going to be happy/accepting of it. Even if they're accepting of sex-work in general, most people don't want it to be their own family, which I understand, but it sucks. *hugs* (I wish I could give you a real hug). I'm proud of you.

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    I wasn't sure if I should PM this to Marina but since people are bringing up the whole religion says it's wrong thing, I thought I'd share my thoughts with everyone. Before I was baptized into the Mormon church about a year ago I was told that I would not be able to join unless and until I quit camming. I was devastated and cried my eyes out. In my mind, camming is not wrong. To ask me to give up my livelihood doing something I enjoy that allows me to take care of myself was such a huge blow but I did it anyway because I really wanted to be a member. I also gave up drinking and all of the other things I was supposed to give up. Let me just tell you, I was MISERABLE! The church told me they would take care of me financially until I could find a job but I was not having that, I think the tithing the church brings in should go to families and people who actually need it, not able bodied people like me who are actually capable of making money for themselves. So I went through my savings pretty fast (which I sincerely regret), I started writing more but was making maybe $3-4/hour if I was lucky. Are you kidding me? I can't live off of that! So I was running out of money and started experiencing a lot of anxiety, and though people would tell me about job leads I couldn't imagine commuting two hours One Way to a job just to make minimum wage. Maybe I am spoiled. People could tell that I was very unhappy. Writing my butt off was not only not earning me what I needed to, but I had no time to enjoy things in life because I was always working and never getting ahead. I decided to go back to camming and drinking.

    Church members were outraged at my decision. I didn't tell them about my drinking, but I did tell them I'm going to be doing non-nude camming and fetish clips. They thought it was some huge travesty but I asked them to tell me WHY. And they couldn't. WHY is it wrong to make and sell a video of me painting my toenails? WHY is it wrong to get paid to cam with a lonely guy tell me about his job and traveling and things like that? WHY is it that if I eat a meal at a restaurant it's totally okay, but if I record myself eating a meal and make money from that clip that's wrong now? Where is the line? I spoke with other members, missionaries, even my bishop and NO ONE could tell me WHY it's wrong. "It just is." Sorry but I do not accept that. There are members in my ward who are fondling and massaging each other during church service, who then go home and make out and dry hump. I have not had intercourse with, kissed, or even held another person's hand (other than a hand shake) in a year and a half. And *I* am the one without morals? Woah woah woah!

    After resuming camming and drinking, members who would talk to me at church or come to my house to visit remarked about how much happier I am. Hah, if they only knew why! I am back to doing nude camming as well as non-nude, they don't know that but they are happy for me that I am satisfied with life again. There is a very popular quote from scripture which is also a hymn, it says, "Men are that they might have joy." I think that's what it comes down to. I think that one of the big goals in life is to make yourself and others happy and not hurt yourself or others. So what's the problem with camming, again?

    My ex and I disagreed on a lot of things but one thing he always said that I like is, NO ONE knows what God wants. You can look to scripture and find things that you're not supposed to do but nowhere does it say that God wants you to do this or that. The possible exception being to love thy neighbor as you love thyself. Nowhere in the scripture does it say, "Thou shalt not get naked on the internet for money." I mean, come on. Classic religious texts were written well before the age of computers (obviously), so there is no indication either way whether webcamming would be considered good, bad, or neutral. The religious leaders who tell you camming is wrong are giving you their personal opinion on it, they are telling you what they *think* God would think about it, but no one knows. Look at the source if you don't believe me. Whether or not one believes the Torah, New Testament, Qur'an, The Book of Mormon, etc. are divinely inspired or not, NOT ONE of those holy books says ANYthing about camming. NOT ONE of those holy books says that camming is wrong. A person might believe that God thinks this or that about it but NO ONE knows, and that means no one has the right to judge.

    I'll get off my soapbox now
    Courtney, if your church isn't going to love and support you unconditionally, I don't see why you'd want to be apart of it.

    Back in my home-state, the Mormon church was always harassing me ... phone calls, texts, e-mails, visits to my house ... apparently, I was in their "records" for being a member. Now that I've moved, they've left me alone ... finally.

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    Sammii, you are so sweet, thank you! You are so right! Just like when people say, they don't a problem with gay people, strippers, etc... but what they really mean is they don't have a problem with it as long as it's not in their house or family members.
    Quote Originally Posted by sammii View Post
    Marina, I respect you a lot. I'm sorry your sister couldn't accept it ... unfortunately, no matter how open-minded our families are, I think the majority aren't going to be happy/accepting of it. Even if they're accepting of sex-work in general, most people don't want it to be their own family, which I understand, but it sucks. *hugs* (I wish I could give you a real hug). I'm proud of you.


    Courtney, if your church isn't going to love and support you unconditionally, I don't see why you'd want to be apart of it.

    Back in my home-state, the Mormon church was always harassing me ... phone calls, texts, e-mails, visits to my house ... apparently, I was in their "records" for being a member. Now that I've moved, they've left me alone ... finally.

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    I'd be terrified if my brother ever found out what I do, but then again he complained about my prom dress (that had, GASP, spaghetti straps!). But if he DID find out, after the initial guaranteed anger I'm sure he'd chill- just as your sister will, I'm sure. Everyone else has already said awesome things that I couldn't of said better, I think my thank button is tired hehe

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    Back in my home-state, the Mormon church was always harassing me ... phone calls, texts, e-mails, visits to my house ... apparently, I was in their "records" for being a member. Now that I've moved, they've left me alone ... finally.
    I'm pretty sure I'm in their books somewhere with a caption that says DO NOT TALK TO THIS WOMAN. They stopped by my Dad's house when I was visiting, and I debated them into questioning the church(think they left later). He had many angry phone calls for awhile.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BluJ View Post
    I'd be terrified if my brother ever found out what I do, but then again he complained about my prom dress (that had, GASP, spaghetti straps!). But if he DID find out, after the initial guaranteed anger I'm sure he'd chill- just as your sister will, I'm sure. Everyone else has already said awesome things that I couldn't of said better, I think my thank button is tired hehe



    I'm pretty sure I'm in their books somewhere with a caption that says DO NOT TALK TO THIS WOMAN. They stopped by my Dad's house when I was visiting, and I debated them into questioning the church(think they left later). He had many angry phone calls for awhile.

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    Sending an e-hug your way. My sister reacted much the same way (She recently converted to Islam and is very very militant about it). I just told her that I still love her, but she doesn't have to agree with everything I do. I don't talk to her very often anymore (because she tends to lecture me about morals, etc), which is sad, but I know we still love each other, and that's the important thing. "You're so much better than this," is something she often says to me, but I just try to keep my cool and remember that we're very different people. Some people just aren't as accepting as others.
    No more then U can accept everything she does or believes in...

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