I think this quote does a fantastic job of summing this up.
http://www.hookingupsmart.com/2013/0...-of-courtship/There’s more going on here than a shift in the culture. There is no universe in which asking someone out on a date does not mean setting aside a specific time for the two of you to become better acquainted. It’s a signal of intent to prioritize getting to know another person. In contrast, texting late in the evening to say “hey” or “sup” is a move, perhaps calculated, to seem just slightly more than indifferent. Often these throwaway texts imply that you’re doing someone a favor by acknowledging that they crossed your mind while you were out having sooooo much fun.
Dating is fine. Meeting up is fine. Both have their place. But meeting up is not dating, and this guy pulled a bait and switch. Pretty douchey.
I agree 1000%. We work in the equivalent of a social science laboratory and eat or starve on our ability to read where these guys are coming from. I've sometimes wished women in general could see how men act at the club, face how they actually operate and stop with the fairy tales, wishful thinking and Katherine Heigl movies. Then they could change how they view guys, change their expectations, and the way they date and even conduct their marriages. Stop with the fear of their own vagina, take responsibility for getting their orgasm instead of hoping Prince Charming will just work it out for them. This nonsense of blaming the women at the club for being temptresses would stop if they could face their husband's real M.O. (modus operandi) and their willful cluelessness, honestly. Ach, I'm on a rant. Anywho....





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) if they decided last minute that they were up for a little action after work.


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