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    Hey girls I have a customer who comes in 2x a week when i work and buys 4 straight hours with me at the VIP. He spends about 1500 so I usually make 900 off him alone after the club gets their share. When we are in the VIP he lets me relax and we just talk. You can understand why I have to make him happy so I sleep over his house once a week, wake up, chat a bit and go home. We don't have sex and I'm too disgusted to even cuddle him so I pretend to hate cuddling so he can leave me alone.
    im to the point that I can't stand being around him. He talks too much and goes over specific detailsI hate his voice and he makes me feel disgusted. I know he spends a lot of Money but it doesn't stop me from feeling like I want to run away from him. The feeling of relieve I get when I leave his house and go home is priceless. While the feeling I get when I pull into his driveway is unbearable.
    I feel bad because he's so lonely.
    please give me some advice on how to tolerate him. I'm tired of feeling like this every week. I turn to u ladies for help.
    I have to see him Friday he wants to celebrate valentines I'm not looking toward to hanging out with him.

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    Does he pay you for these sleepovers? If not, that $900 you get from him for 4 hours in VIP is really more like $900 for 12+ hours of your company per week. Not worth it if you describe the visits as "unbearable" and are relieved to leave.

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    Well he comes 2x a week so I make a total of 1800 off him
    And I sleep over 1x week

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    why are you sleeping over, you're a stripper not a escort? and if you are sleeping over you should be getting paid for it

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    I'm a stripper def not an escort. Like I said before we do not have sex nor we we even cuddle.
    I sleep over because he spends over 2gs on me a week. That's 8gs a month off one guy alone.
    However seeing what u ladies have wrote makes me realize its not worth it. Problem is he pretty much expects it now.

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    If your comfortable enough to sleep over his place why are you not making him pay for the sleep over instead of club time? I mean yeah I think you took it too far by the sleep overs even if its no sex but c'mon you're using up your time both in and out of the club.... Why not make that full amount out the club rather than have the club take x amount?

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    Well stripping stays in the club or private parties it shouldnt include sleeping over, that is definitely a boundary being overstepped. I would just tell him you don't feel comfortable sleeping at his house anymore, I understand that you will be losing money but is it worth it for your sanity?

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    [QUOTE=Cheyennedaisy;2454497]Well stripping stays in the club or private parties it shouldnt include sleeping over, that is definitely a boundary being oversteppe

    Yeah, it's prob not that easy -how doea she explain th
    at to him now that she's already been sleeping over???
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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    Do you want to stop seeing him altogether or just stop the sleepovers? If you don't mind the possibility of losing him I'd agree it's best to just say you are not comfortable staying over anymore. Just in those words, you don't have to go around it with reasons.

    If you want a nice reason you just CAN'T stay over any more but only see him in the club, maybe some managers heard you were staying there and it could get you in big trouble? Or you now have some other important commitments and doing much outside of club time is not practical anymore? Or someone close to you is falling out with you over it (i guess you couldn't say bf, but maybe a mother or sister is really worried- it does sound bad to someone outside of the adult industry), so you want to make up with them by only seeing your customers in the club.

    Hope this helps, I don't have much experience with this.

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    Do you want to stop seeing him altogether or just stop the sleepovers? If you don't mind the possibility of losing him I'd agree it's best to just say you are not comfortable staying over anymore. Just in those words, you don't have to go around it with reasons.

    If you want a nice reason you just CAN'T stay over any more but only see him in the club, maybe some managers heard you were staying there and it could get you in big trouble? Or you now have some other important commitments and doing much outside of club time is not practical anymore? Or someone close to you is falling out with you over it (i guess you couldn't say bf, but maybe a mother or sister is really worried- it does sound bad to someone outside of the adult industry), so you want to make up with them by only seeing your customers in the club.

    Hope this helps, I don't have much experience with this.

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    You shouldn't feel bad that he spends that much money. It's his call to spend that much, and he prob has the money and loads of it, so never feel guilty about it. You shouldn't ever feel guilted into spending that extra time with him at his house either. I would never sleep over a customer's house. I know how you feel about feeling so disgusted and repulsed by a high spending regular. I've been there and done that. I used to have a very high spending reg (3k/week) that was extremely annoying. His breath was disgusting, his skin was oily, I couldn't stand the things he said, about his life, I didn't care about his boring stories. When he was gone I was kind of relieved actually. It's a horrible feeling. I don't make as much money without him but I am sure of a hell lot happier! These guys don't last either, they eventually run out of money, or patience, whichever comes first. If you don't make money off him you'll make money off other guys, who might be more pleasurable and tolerable. So don't ever think you need to rely on this one guy for money.
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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    I have had many customers like this and anytime they wanted to spend any amount of time with me I made them pay however I never have/never will sleep over a customers house.

    That just opens a bunch of doors to other things he might/eventually is going to expect...I would suggest you talk with him and tell him to pay you more money to sleep over since it is a big sacrifice.

    And if he doesn't want to pay up then try to ween yourself out of sleeping over at his house. I mean he has to understand you have a life outside of this and that you are taking time away from not only yourself but your family, etc.

    Good luck to you but may I suggest if something like this ever comes up never get too close to your customers. Like my mother used to say give em' an inch and they want a mile...

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    If it has already gotten to a point where you are disgusted then just stop it and bear the financial consequences. If you withdraw the sleepovers there is a good chance the money will fade out, so it depends on how much you want/need the money.

    I agree with one of the other posters above: why give the club money when you can be getting 3k a week instead of less than 2 because that is what he is paying anyway. Would it be more tolerable if you just took the whole thing outside the club and earned 3k a week? What you are doing now is working overtime for free and that may be contributing to your frustration.

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    Default Re: Tolerated a very high spender.

    I really appreciate the responses. I texted my customer that I won't be sleeping over Saturday and he suggested I sleep over Friday instead but I held my ground. The best part is that he is still coming in Saturday but even if he wasn't I would not care. It's just not worth it. Too time consuming.
    You girls are very inspirational!
    Thank you again!

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