Hi all. I have been lurking here for about 2 years. I never joined because I didn't think I could contribute anything of substance, but this situation is an emergency! I have been an escort for just over a year, I am 22 and my home-base is in the Midwest. All has been well for about 11 months. Until about a month ago when my fiance's parents found out about my private incall location. Instead of making this one big paragraph, I'll provide background info and make this short and sweet and easy to read thus making giving me advice easier.
Background:
We have been together since meeting at a community college when we were 18. We began living together at age 20. We are both 22. Been living together 2 years now. We started by making home grown videos and camming, and that has worked out well but of course is no money like what I am pulling in now. We are team with this- he is my driver and my security and it is so much better than being alone. We have walkie talkies which I keep mine close to me at all times both incall and out call. When I am not working, he does odd jobs and is in a school now for a very hot and profitable market right now (I'll spill it: UAV pilot). Once he is done with this and accepts a permanent position, I'll up my rates thus lowering my influx of appointments. His parents are both from Texas and are very traditional.
What went wrong:
I am not greedy when it comes to working too much or compromising screening. I tend to be greedy when it comes to buying things, even things I need. I am an excessive saver, and I understand a go-phone should have been part of my basic equipment. I was greedy for the first few months by using one of my boyfriend's phones (he has a flip phone and a smart phone) The flip phone should have been in his name, from 2 years ago when he moved out but it turns out it was never switched to his name and remained in his mom's name. I was too greedy to even get a trac-phone and didn't like google voice. So I used his flip phone for about 2 months. I have posted a total of 3 back-page ads total all in the first 2 months of escorting. And I didn't spell out my phone number either. That was my single biggest mistake.. OH AND..
IMPORTANT..
Did you know that if y ou post on backpage there is a good chance that you will be on Massagetroll(dot)com or Escortsxxx(dot)com ????? It is as if the backpage ad is immediately placed on those websites and many more, and your photos will be on there with the logo 'escortsxxx' stamped on it!! Even if you delete your backpage ad that will still be on those horrid sites. They are affiliated with iHookup(dot)com and I emailed them to get my crap down and they sure didn't. So I am on there permanently. Every guy who has called my number from those websites have been scum.
Back to problem:
So his mom one day googled that flip phone number because she was wondering how we had a 3 bedroom house and 2 vehicles (which of course is none of her business considering he is 22 and not lived with her for nearly 3 years). And those trash websites that backpage apparently sells to popped up.....
So she calls him crying saying,'You are living with a prostitute how can you live with that,' and all that heart-breaking stuff trying to make me feel like a piece of garbage. I think it is hilarious because I am more of a dinner companion and personal consultant than an escort considering I book a lot of multi-hours and they nearly always include an outing or something.
Here is where it gets horrible:
About 3 weeks after she found out, we are pulling back into our drive-way at about 7 p.m and his family's car comes up and blocks us in the driveway. His mom, dad, step-dad, step-mom, and aunt and uncle step out and block our doors. His Dad (who he decided to cut out of his life about 4 years ago) said,'You are talking with us or we will have to contact the authorities' and they ordered me to go inside cause they have to talk to him. Most ladies would go ape shit and be like,' uhhh this is my house get off my property who do you think you are?!' but I decided the best thing to do was play it cool. I stayed outside and they were saying they saw the ad saw my fake name then googled the name then found eros, etc. And basically were telling my man to leave me right in front of my face at my own freaking house! My boyfriend was telling them that he really does not care that I do what I do and we are a team and we have goals other than this and that female lawyers do this...but you know what it is like with traditional baby-boomers. They were talking about the mafia and drug dealers trying to associate that life style with me of course. They said to him they would rather put us both in jail than see him get killed trying to defend me. I told them..I screen and I am $400 an hour and $900 for 3 hours. I definitely am not seeing Cuban drug dealers.
They found my private incall by reading the review boards.
I have worked so hard. I have been so tedious. My incall is an upscale condo and there is an elevator in the building. I knew that would be most discreet, and I only see about 5 clients a week there. I pay $600 a month for it so I am definitely investing in my brand to be as upscale and professional as possible. I would say I make about 70% of my income touring though because I am scared shitless of his parents. So now I don't use my incall much and have to bust my ass even harder by travelling, additional advertising, more planning; aka gonna have a stroke.
See, I've built myself up to this trying so hard, all the screening, all the discretion and now it comes to this.
THEY EVEN ARE CHECKING when I update my stuff. My boyfriend lied to them saying I quit, because what is he supposed to say. So today his mom called and said,'Her website is still up and she updated her pictures on Indys.'
Oh my freaking god.
So the way I see it, there are a few options:
1) Leave him and his family. But I am so astounded. We are on our own. They pay none of our bills. We are completely independent. He has tried to become more distant from his family but especially his mom has been gripping more than ever and it seems they are targeting me saying that I am the reason for all the conflict. His dad also said he wants to tell my family! He has no right, wtf???!!!
2) Get married. Bf wants to wait because he said he wants to buy my ring with his own money not money given to me by men. But if we went ahead and got married, can that make his parents stop?
3) Re-invent myself. Drop my old persona and change my name. The best way to do that would be to go on the boards and such like,'Hey my name is blah blah, formerly blah blah, see my old reviews!' but then my old persona would still come up on google. The best way to become a new persona would probably be to make a new name then go with an agency a few months then take my new name I worked with at the agency independent
4) Delete my website and only advertise on the 2 places they do not know about. (p411 and date-check, as far as I know they have not found my profiles there). Then I will lose major business and may come off as paranoid to the guys.
5) Leave the adult industry and go back to my vanilla career (associates degree) even though I am not related to them and do not have to follow their orders.
Obviously what I am worried about..
This has the potential to get nasty. If I were them, I would be building a portfolio against me. I would be printing out all the ads and each time a new review is made I would print that. Do they have a case? If they call LE and say,'I have print-outs from the internet, I know where she lives, I know where she takes appointments.' Or would LE think this is more a family dispute? I will say I live in a small town about an hour from a big town, and cops will either not look into me, or they will be so bored they will listen to his family and come get me. His dad is watching everything I do, they knew I updated my website and Indy's pictures yesterday!!!!!! His dad blames me for the fact that his son doesn't want him in his life. It has nothing to do with me.
What do I do? I understand his parents not wanting their son to be with a 'sex worker' but any parent would say that if they found out about me..I don't want to leave him and I don't want his parents to try to get me in trouble. They mainly just think I am going to give him diseases (I get STD checked and throat swab every 3 weeks) or get him killed (I screen thoroughly and have a moderately high rate).
HELP! I want to love him in peace!



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