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Last edited by shy1; 02-02-2014 at 04:30 PM.
Get out of the relationship with your current Dom? For starters.
As far as finding a male-pro Dom, no idea? Females dominate this industry and the paid market is majorly paying-men, not women. You're probably going to have a hard time finding one. Best bet is to find a local dungeon and ask if they know of any.



Yep And I live in the redneck riviera, thus making things a thousand times harder. I get extremely pissed at how the industry caters to men, while still acknowledging that that is where the money is. I was thinking of looking for someone who services mostly gay customers.



I hear that the pro-dommes here are mostly transvestites, which might be ideal, I just need to figure out how to find a good one.




I was just going to suggest hitting up a local gay kink-scene, to find a sort of "mentor". This could be negotiated as pay-for-play or otherwise but there are many Leather Daddy types that are actually pretty sympathetic to young women looking for positive, male influences. I'm not sure how rural you are but maybe get a Kink.com profile?
+1 on getting out of your current, unhealthy dynamic first, before you start negotiating something else. There are also lots of books and online resources about how to negotiate a healthy relationship to BDSM.
"SS=stripper shit, in the same spectrum as CS=customer shit, which is within the spectrum of SaS=sales shit, which is all contained in the universe of BS=bullshit." -- Jay Zeno (mod)
"Show me a hot chick and I'll show you someone who's tired of fucking her."





Where I am, the local adult bookstores carry a free publication (like a thin magazine really) with all kinds of listings dommes, escorts, etc. It also lists a few dungeons (I'm near a large city too). Now that I think of it, I believe there's some links in there, I can check for you? If there's any adult bookstores in your area, or in a reasonable distance, I'd also check there for starters.
MANY MEN WANTED TO LAY ME DOWN, BUT FEW WANTED TO LIFT ME UP
-Eartha Kitt




are locked into living in your current area for the rest of your life?
Ungoogle yourself:
Also, now offering phone sexins!
You could just try to find a non shitty dom.
"Well done. Here are the test results: You are a horrible person. I'm serious, that's what it says: 'A horrible person.' We weren't even testing for that."
As far as looking for other kinksters, try signing up to www.fetlife.com They have a group for every kink or fetish you can possible dream up and about a thousand you can't dream up. Should be able to find someone or an event near you on there.




+1 for fetlife.com as there are LOTS of pros on that site. Actually all of the pros I know, personally have fetlife accounts and use them to publicize their services or be "vouched" for, in the community, as a legit player.
"SS=stripper shit, in the same spectrum as CS=customer shit, which is within the spectrum of SaS=sales shit, which is all contained in the universe of BS=bullshit." -- Jay Zeno (mod)
"Show me a hot chick and I'll show you someone who's tired of fucking her."
They're out there and the numbers are growing. Fetlife is a great place for ANYONE that lives outside of the vanilla world in any capacity. Anyway, I Googled "Professional Male Dominant" and found...
Also, any Pro Femdomme worth her weight in salt should know at least ONE Pro Male Dom...good luck.
Just wanted to add my 2 cents... Fetlife is a great place.. and although this may be obvious, I cant emphasis enough that background check and screening is very very important !! It is worth paying the $100/year or whatever it may be for a subscription for those services. I even do thorough check on anyone wanting to be my sub/slave/pet, as well as pay for their testing at the local clinic.
You dont want to get out of a bad situation and end up in a worse one......
Fetlife is hit and miss in my opinion. More miss than hit. That's a risky proposition for some play, if the so called dom is not really one. There's a pretty well known one with proof at . You might have better luck with him.
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