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    Default Depression & going back to dancing

    So, I am planning to go back soon. I've been camming, somewhat, not so great, eh it's more my older equipment than me. I decided on dancing, since I need the $ & have done it before..I have this horrible depression about a lot of things.. been reading a lot on here, HH, Newb sections More than nervous, anxious, I just don't know Not much that can be done/said.
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    Default Re: Depression & going back to dancing

    Go to a doctor and get meds. There are lots of programs available to lower income/no insurance patients! You may have to jump through a few hoops, but it's worth it!

    Also, be sure to socialize (even if it's just with us), it'll make you feel better! <3

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    Yeah, thank you. I need to get in therapy, for Post traumatic stress disorder as well. I am isolated too, which I hate. In the meantime..


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    Default Re: Depression & going back to dancing

    im sorry *hugs* im going through another bout of awful depression as well. idk if its the winter or being isolated in a state where i dont know anyone. i think dancing would be good tho! it always seems to get me out of my depression, at least its social and itll get you moving and get those endorphins pumping into your body! and the extra money will help too! i agree with trying to get on some meds and find somebody to really talk to. good luck babe!!

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    Default Re: Depression & going back to dancing

    Och whirlerz I feel for you. I had severe depression i'd now class as mild and I'm planning on returning to dancing in a few months when my weights off. There's so many fears I have about it. What if I can't cope?
    Well if you can cope with depression you can cope with anything!
    I can't offer much advice but I really hope you have a good experience going back and know all of us at SW are behind you whether you need advice or just to vent.

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    I know how that feels, I have been not working for 2 weeks now and am trying to steel up to go back in tomorrow.

    Depression sucks because it's so hard to pinpoint the cause and how to fix it :/ I've found that having another hobby with a goal of some kind is really helpful - I recently got a horse who has a lot of bad habits and patchy training, and working with him towards rodeo competition cheers me up a lot, I feel 10x better after I go work with him for an hour. A new hobby might also help you un-isolate a little bit, even if it's just to make small talk to other people (and NOT be about strip club related things/pre-dance-selling talk!)

    Good luck -hugs-
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    Thanks again so much ladies! Yeah, plus I lost my lil' pet bunny, she's been gone a month now tomorrow, I'd get another one but right now I just can't. Ooh, I love Horses!


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    I know how you feel. I took the Plan B pill about 5 months ago and have been battling depression from all those hormone changes it caused me to have. Do things you love daily is my best advise. Keep us posted on how you feel. Much love to you.

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    I agree with everyone who said to seek therapy and maybe see your GP for some medication too, if you haven't already. There's no point going through something like alone when help is out there. Stripping instead of camming might be a good change for you though-getting out of the house, keeping busy, receiving positive attention and even the social aspect of it. But, the environment we work in can be very stressful at times and can aggravate the way you are feeling, so maybe just doing a few shifts at first to ease yourself back into it would be the way to go .

    I don’t mean to sound condescending, but be careful with drinking at work (which you probably won’t be doing if you’re on medication anyway). It’s easy to for a nerve calming drink at the start of the night to turn into a problem when you’re unstable. It’s also easy to self medicate with alcohol (it’s so easily accessible and free at our work places after all) when dealing with a stressful situation or to escape in our line of work .
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    Thanks, no I don't drink anyway so that's not a problem..


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    I'm seriously considering stripping for the same reasons Olive mentioned. As much as working at home is great, I feel it makes me more isolated.
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    ^absolutely, which is why i can't cam full-time. i NEED social interaction and just to get out of the house! maybe i do more than most people, but everyone does to some extent. i don't have a social life anymore really, so that's one thing i would go crazy without! plus i have a kid, im not into the partying scene work seems to be the only outlet for a lot of adults..not that it wouldn't be great to take a class or hobby with other like-minded people as well

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    Shoot, I wish I lived by some of you guys


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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Thanks, no I don't drink anyway so that's not a problem..
    ^ (again didn't mean to sound condesending at all-a freind of mine went through something similar and did, it just made things worse for herso I thought I'd mention it).
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    No, you're fine, hun np


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    I have battled depression my whole life. Def go to the doctor. I take Lexapro and valium and if i wasnt for valium I wouldn't make it in the door to work most nights. Not saying thats your answer but it helps me. Like some of the other girls said hobbies are good. I find just getting out of the house and doing something besides work wheter it be working out, taking my dogs to the park or shopping. Just talking to a stranger can help lift your mood for the rest of the day. Find something that your passionate about and do it. I hope this helps.
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    I'm sorry you've been feeling depressed Depression is one of the hardest things anyone can go through in life!!

    What if you spend some time really focusing on what you want out of life, and setting goals that make it more clear how stripping will help you attain those things? I know you were having problems with your living situation, based on previous posts -- Being back in the SC might help you get out of that because you'll be making more money! That should already help improving your quality of life. Often, the more goal-oriented and passionate someone is about the cause and effect of what they are undertaking, the happier they are in whatever they're doing -- be it stripping, college, or even just remembering to floss every day.
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    Aww, great words, so true, thanks hon! Goes along w/what I've been reading Power of Self-Confidence.


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    I have to add that sometimes when I've felt really down, and gone to work despite this-the girls, making money, feeling attractive have done wonders for perking me up!
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    I've been going to meetings (you know the kind I mean Whirlez ). Maybe something similar for you? like minded people who understand what you're going through, **
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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Like your Avatar, Flick! I enjoy your posts too.
    You know, something else, I think I mentioned I work a (part time, very part time ) vanilla job..it kinda fucks with my head. I mean, other jobs can, but damn when you drive far for crap $/hardly any shifts + get treated like garbage


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    ^ Serenity now baby!
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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    I find the best thing is to just keep busy but make it worthwhile things. Watching a movie for 2 hours will distract you but working out for 2 hours will give you endorphins, make you feel more confident, and get you closer to a goal as well as distracting you from depressed thoughts.

    Get some hobbies. It doesn't have to be anything amazing or difficult. Plant some flowers. Taking care of something and feeling "needed" in a way makes you feel more fulfilled. Do some DIY crafts at home. Sounds lame but there are a lot of tutorials online that show you how to make things that are actually pretty cool. I wasn't really into crafts until I found this easy way to make a lantern from a mason jar and a solar powered light and now I'm hooked. Dancing is great for depression I feel because it gives you the time and money to pursue meaningful things and you're not caught up trying to make ends meet all the time. Utilize your resources

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    XGigi is right. What is more important to you? Enrichment or distraction. Isolation is the enemy Whirlez. Don't go down that path again. Take a breath, pick p a phone and reach out to the support network. Get social even if you have to force yourself every step of the way- you know why. I can't fix this but somebody else can

    Lets hear a plan from you for the next couple of steps towards looking after yourself.....
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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    I've battled depression off and on my entire life. I refused to acknowledge it until it became unbearable. I've been prescribed quite a few antidepressants but I've found that wellbutrin works the best for me. I take it twice a day in the maximum dose for my weight. It's available generically, super cheap and for me at least, no sexual side effects. Many of the antidepressants kill my sex drive and ability to orgasm. I know, TMI. But it's an important part of my life and life never seems better than after a nice time in bed. It kind of put everything into perspective.

    I think someone posted above, warning against doctors that prescribe the newest drug and get a kickback from the drug companies. It happened to me, I was over prescibed at doctors office that rotates providers. Even though I questioned taking 3 antidepressants and xanax, I was assured that each drug acted independently and treated different facets of my depression. Well I certainly wasn't depressed, but I engaged in risky behavior, had blackouts and did some freaky things. Fortunately instead of walking out, my boyfriend took me to a different doctor who weaned me off everything to start all over. A nurse friend told me that I could have had a stroke. I guess I should have sued or something.

    So my point is to find a doctor you trust and follow his treatment of course, but be your own health advocate. Speak up if something doesn't seem right. Change doctors if you sense you are not being taken seriously or you don't get relief from depression. If a doctor is eager to hand out samples of a new drug, be careful because eventually you will have to pay for them and they can be expensive. An older drug available generically might be just as effective.

    For me, fresh air and taking one hour at a time, not worrying about tonight, tomorrow or next week because they will take care of themselves. I know it's hard to see any positives when you feel crappy, but it has made me more sensitive to people going thru rough times. My people skills are heightened but to nasty customers, I smile and say Fuck You under my breath.

    A good friend gave me this quote and I carry it in my wallet. I pull it out at least once a day and it lifts me up.

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    Best of everything to you. Baby, there's light at the end of the tunnel, just hold on. xxxooo
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