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    Hi everyone!
    So as some of you may have seen, I started dancing about 2 weeks ago. I finally broke the news to my boyfriend (no bueno). Now I need to come clean to my mom. I have to tell her because I live with her (currently saving to move out) and she watches my son while I'm at work. I had a vanilla job but I quit my last day is wednesday so I can start dancing more & have a set schedule. I feel like she is catching on (a few months ago she saw I search I did on my computer while she was using it on strip clubs). She asked me about it I just made up some story. Well I think she can tell from my different hours and just because she knows me so well. My mom is %1000 anti strip clubs and is also very protective and doesn't want anyone seeing her baby naked(even tho I'm 21) lol. She is dropping all these hints like she knows, and I have to come clean before my last day (or maybe on my last day lol) of my vanilla job, so she won't come by or call the other place I quit or in case of an emergency or anything she can know how to reach me for safety. Really I think she knows but when I tell her it's true it's gonna break her heart I feel so bad, but I know this is my life and I need to do what I want to do.
    Sorry for that long rant lol, but what I'm getting at is how did you tell your parents? I would love to hear some of your experiences and/or advice

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    I didn't tell my parents because I knew they wouldn't approve and it would just cause drama and strain our relationship. Of course, I wasn't living with them - or even in the same city - when I started. Best of luck, and be ready to have to "quit" if you have to keep living under your mother's roof.

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    Good luck-you know her and we don't, It may be a good thing that she suspects as she's prepared herself a little already. Concentrate on emphasising the club rules, and how you just doing it for the money so you and your son can have a better life...
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    ^This.

    Also, is she the type that would confront you about it, or the type that would convince herself to live in denial?

    My mother and stepdad know. I could NEVER even tell my real dad I work at a night club without him getting suspicious. My grandma, however, I've lived with twice in the last five years that I've been stripping, inbetween leases/boyfrieds/whatnot, and while I'm pretty sure she's found concrete proof on multiple occasions (I'm not that good at being sneaky), I think she'd rather pretend like she doesn't know. We're both better off for it.

    Maybe you can tell half truths. Like, you're a cocktail waitress there or something, and just leave it at that (I would never suggest the same for your BF, but for your mother that's a different story!). Stress the good pay, how you want to provide for your child and not have to depend on her, and like sugar said, try and explain the rules and that it's a lot different than most people think!
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    I'm 30 and have been independent for my parents for years-but my Mother still says my Dad (I've not told him and he turns a blind eye but he knows) and my Sister, are worried about the sleaziness and the drugs etc etc.
    I've never sold sex and never touched a drug in my life... Go figure...
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    Summerbres suggestion of telling her your cocktailing might not be so bad. Generally-does she trust & respect you? That will make it or break it. emphasize that its not like what shes seen in movies & demonstrate that youre mature & responsible enough to handle it. Let her know that this is not something she needs to worry about (though of course she will.)
    My advice is guesswork, ive never told my folks, but im 27 & have been on my own since 18. I live in a differentstate & they know im happy & healthy and thats enough.

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    My mom knows I work in a strip club but we go with saying I'm a bartender.... Deep down I'm sure she knows I'm really a dancer. Lol

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    Also- youve been doing it 2 Weeks? By the time you tell her you can point out that youve already been doing it a little while & your doing fine. Try to take more of a reassuring tone, that youre taking Care of your life & can handle it. Good luck!

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