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    Default How do I charge these clowns aka SD's lol

    I've tried the SD thing but haven't actually landed one yet. I've gotten to go shopping a few times and most guys were willing to pay me on dates without me asking.

    There were also a ton of guys that were just using the SD angle with no intention of ever starting an arrangement but just to get a young woman to come out to meet him and grope her lol. (which has happened to me as well)

    To be honest these guys would have a snowball's chance in hell of scoring a date with a woman barely in her 20s unless they stormed a college campus at the risk of getting arrested and put a gun to a woman's head.

    Hot girls have options. That why I think these clowns need to pay. As another woman put it.
    "... if a man expects a woman like me to make a special effort for him, he needs to be able and willing to make it worth my while – otherwise I have plenty of satisfying options for occupying my time"

    I know it may take months to find a "real" SD. But in the meantime I want to charge these guys every time I go on a date with them. From now on I never want to go on a date for free.lol I may not land a "SD". But at least I could rack up money from these dates like some other girls I know do.

    That way I at least get something out of it. It takes gas money to get there, juggling of my school/work schedule, as well as time to look nice. I'm sick of doing all this for nothing. And besides I can easily get dates or pay for my own dinner or coffee. I get my time wasted and these old farts get a "free" date with a pretty girl that would usually never happen. My time is money. lol I even have that in my profile on the SD website I'm on. So these guys must know I'm expecting them to pay something. But we all know they're looking to get as much for as little as possible. If I don't open my mouth of course they'll be happy to pay me nothing.

    How do you ask for money for the first meeting in a nice way? I know you should ask/negotiate the amount before you meet. I have two potential SD's that want to meet me for lunch. They've asked me where I want to eat and what time. But along with my answer to those questions I also need to make it clear to them that I expect cash for our first meeting.

    How would you word that in a subtle way? Would you say "what are your thoughts of "helping" me for this first meeting? Or how about "I would like money for a tank full of gas?"

    Any help would be greatly appreciated. Sorry for the extremely long message lol

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    Default Re: How do I charge these clowns aka SD's lol

    I found something on another forum that described my situation perfectly. The exact same thing described below happens to me. This is why I want to charge for dates but how do I tactfully word it? I'm not desperate for money so if it offends the guy and he bounces I don't care. But I would like to know the way to best word it to get a positive response.



    I have been having a problem picking the right sugar daddies. I hadn’t want to date anyone married. I’m moving past that point now if it gets me the right SD. It seems that every sugar daddy I meet thinks we are going to have sex and thats part of the deal. I don’t want to give up but I’m getting so tired of men thinking I’m just like a prostitute or something. I have very classy, cute pictures, cute profile. I always have nice classy conversations and I’m cute and flirty but not sensual with anyone. What signs am I giving that this keeps happening? Also how do you talk about money on a first date? I usually don’t talk to much about money until we actually meet for our first date. Then at the end they usually give me a few hundred for gas and time. Recently I had a great date we had alot of fun. He was so impressed and I was everything he was looking for. Then at the end of the date he walked me to my car. Gave me a hug and kissed me goodbye. I know some SD don’t think they should pay for a first date so I let it go. Disappointed because I have bills that need to be paid but I liked him and it seemed we got along great. The next morning I got a text because we were going to go out once a week that he would get a hotel room near me next week.”what?” There was no talk at dinner about anything sexual. So when I asked him. He said he thought that it was a given. That that was a mutual beneficial relationship was. HELP!

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    Default Re: How do I charge these clowns aka SD's lol

    Before you meet with them, make it clear through messaging or text that you would like cash for the first meeting. Also first meeting is for discussing the arrangement.. This is when you make clear how frequently you would be willing to see them, what those dates would involve, and how much you are looking for as a monthly allowance. Also if you go on WhatsYourPrice or whatever that websites called, they pay to take you out on a date..so that also solves your dilemma about wanting to be paid for every first date.
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    Default Re: How do I charge these clowns aka SD's lol

    Thanks I guess there's no subtle way to say it. I'll have to think of the best way to word it.

    I think some are more successful at what's your price but for me it was a dead zone. The guys on there have even a worse attitude. Not all but the general feeling is one should be happy to get a free dinner (which any lady can pay for herself) and one should be happy with whatever offered. The SD route is much easier to line up dates instead of fighting it out on WYP although my objective is to land a SD not just dates. But also make it worth my while in the process.

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    Default Re: How do I charge these clowns aka SD's lol

    I just received a message in my inbox from someone who said upfront what he would be willing to give and for how many dates a month. Some of these guys are experienced and just know what's up without you having to pry it out of them, but until you meet one of these guys don't be afraid to be blunt. Arrangements are supposed to be no hassle, no bullshit relationships and you shouldn't have to beat around the bush to set something up.
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    Default Re: How do I charge these clowns aka SD's lol

    You already got some good advice but I would also suggust if you like the idea of being paid for dates try your hand at socail escorting? Its pretty much 'real' escorting where they just pay for your time and go on dates and outings and stuff.
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    Default Re: How do I charge these clowns aka SD's lol

    Yep, let em know girlie. You mean business and if they do as well get it up front on the date. Too many might assume they will get ass for "exchanging" of "gifts" and the ones who've been around the block might try and trick you so pretend like you know what you're doing

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    Quote Originally Posted by Enchanted_x3 View Post
    I have a sugar daddy and before him, I met quite a few potentials and asked them for a gift for our first meeting. I usually say something along the lines of, "would you mind bringing me a gift to show me you're serious?" Usually they comply. If they don't, they're probably cheap bastards. I look for anywhere from $100-$300 but I have gotten a brand new iPad Retina with a $100 Abercrombie gift card from one older gentleman. You have to make them know you're busy and your time is valuable, and you need to continue with that mentality to get the allowance you want. My SD gives me $5,000/month.
    I need to step it up.lol It's easier to be assertive online. With camming its very black & white/easy. But with SD's the guy thinks he has leverage too. Makes it more annoying. But I'm not even going to entertain that aspect. I'll just nix those guys. Probably timewasters or cheapos like you mentioned.

    I appreciate all the advice I'll just have to suck it up and "bark" I mean be extremely straightforward since going through rigmarole for nothing is not fun.lol

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