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    Default How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    Ok, a few weeks ago I met a customer who I thought would be a solid regular. He bought lots of dances and we had a lot in common in terms of movie tastes, sports teams, etc. We exchanged numbers so we could keep in touch. He came in again a few days later and spent a decent amount of money again, and then came in again about a week after that. Then he was supposed to come see me but ended up canceling because he had a flight to catch to ATL for business. He said when he got back he'd bring me a gift to make it up to me.

    Apparently, the whole "bring me a gift" thing didn't really mean that; what he wants to do is take me out to lunch and then take me to Tiffany's to get a Tiffany necklace that I want (we both love the movie Breakfast at Tiffany's, so it was his idea, but I love Tiffany jewelry so I wouldn't mind it). He also wants to take me to Tiger's games (the Detroit baseball team), etc. Basically, he now wants to see me outside of the club to go on dates, etc.

    Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't mind being taken shopping and I love going to Tigers games and whatnot, but I RARELY spend time with customers outside of the club... I am an entertainer, I don't do any "extras." I've only let customers take me out on dates on two occasions, and those were with guys who'd come to see me in the clubs countless times and spent a lot of money.

    How do I get this man to understand he needs to see me more inside the club and spend money there? Or should I just let him take me out and enjoy the perks, and leave it at that? He has stated that he'll pay me for my time spent with him, but I'm afraid if I see him outside of the club he'll eventually expect me to have sex with him which simply isn't going to happen. Ladies, how would you handle the situation?
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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    i've been out with a VERY FEW customers in public places, but it was after a long time of getting to know them in the VIP so if you don't want to,explain that he needs to build more of a rapport, gotta get to know you more, etc the usual. maybe hint that after you really bond in champagne he may have a chance lol, if he still persists and doesn't take no for an answer then drop him..he's just looking for a gf/lay. idk, this is a very annoying but common situation, sorry

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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    Thanks! Yeah, it's really annoying... he was texting me yesterday asking if I'd like to go to a Tigers game and I kept making excuses for all the days he had tickets for. But he knows I don't have class Mondays and work Monday nights so I'd be available for a Monday game so he says, "how about April 29th? That's a Monday." I really had no excuse, so I said yes. I figured I'd use it as leverage because he really wants to take me to this game, so I told him I'll go only if he starts coming back into the club to see me. He says he will, but I won't hold my breath. Most men are bullshitters.
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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    Quote Originally Posted by Nina_ View Post
    I RARELY spend time with customers outside of the club... I am an entertainer, I don't do any "extras." I've only let customers take me out on dates on two occasions, and those were with guys who'd come to see me in the clubs countless times and spent a lot of money.
    not sure what makes it more challenging for you to tell this guy the exact same thing you told the others on the other 2 occasions but I know what you mean I get asked repeatedly to meet outside the club which I tell them I don't do simply because it makes everything easier for me.

    I am sure him offering gifts and compensation for time make it more enticing but if you're having reservations about it then go with your gut and get a better feel for what hes about before agreeing.

    If youre going to a public places then there shouldnt be much opportunity for 'extras'. If I did ever agree to OTC, I wouldn't go anywhere at night or anywhere private.

    I know I have read about a similar topic you may want to do a search and see what others have said about this same issue.

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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    1. Prolong going OTC as much as possible. Instead of coming up with individual excuses for going to watch a game, tell him that you just met, you've been burned before, and you'd really prefer to get to know him better first (ITC) before spending time with him outside. You can also tell him that club management is cracking down on OTC if you're so inclined. Keep going until he gives up or you decide it's worth it to go OTC.
    2. If/when you're reading to go OTC, make a big brouhaha over it to get the maximum amount of money out of him as you can. Act like you've never done it before. Act like it's a Big Deal. Make sure he knows he's gotta pay to get you OTC, especially if you're taking a Monday off from work to see him.
    3. Always see him in public. Always have a start and end time so no funny business comes up. Sex will, of course, eventually come up. He obviously wants that if he's taking you OTC and spending all this money on you. The OTC game when you're not willing to go that far is really a matter of stringing him along as long as possible before he realizes you're not going to give it up and drops you. That's why you want to keep him ITC as long as possible, because once you go OTC, it's generally a short line to the sex question.

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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    It's also a good idea to get a different phone for dealing with customers. My phone is from walmart and its like 49.99 a month but it saves a lot of aggravation. It also rings and gets texts on a 5 to 1 ratio with my real phone.
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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    quit texting and he wont think he has a chance otc. by texting/calling that IS otc. You opened the door by giving the number. No going back. If you want keep getting big money now, you will have to meet him eventually or he will fade. It will keep happening with every customer you give attention to via otc text etc. ITs a cycle and not a good one.

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    I would chalk it up unless u meet otc with people in person, which could result in rape or get badgered into performing sex acts or gf/bf type shit, Instead of doing your dancer job of vip and dances in the club. I hope he never comes to my club with idea me or my coworkers have energy deal with this . I hate guys wanting numbers or expect more attention than dances and say the story of last dancer etc. ugh good luck

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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    Thanks. I agree with you to an extend, but respectfully disagree about giving out my number and texting customers. I look at it as marketing myself. If a guy spends a decent amount of money I look at him as having potential to be a repeat customer so the best way I keep in touch is by text or email. Then I can keep in touch with them and we can play when they can come see me, or if I know they're good for x amount of money I can text them to come in on a slow night, etc etc. Although I do get where you're coming from.

    The guy has now been texting me asking me when I am working next so I'll let him come in and spend money. But I've come to the conclusion that my in the club luck with him will run dry very quickly; he wants OTC, he wants a girlfriend-type, and that's not what I want. He wants to take me to a Tigers game at the end of this month... I might just tell him that in order for me to go to the game with him he has to come see me more at the club [and spend more money because I've made it clear to him that time is money]. I may end up going to the baseball game with him though (driving separately, leaving separately) just for the fact that I love the Tigers, he'll buy me Tiger's merchandise, pay me for the outting, and that will be that. I already don't expect much from him, if I do things that way he will fade quickly after that, but either way he's going to be gone soon so why not get the benefit of it? Something to think about. I don't know.
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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    Dont forget the tiffanies necklace!lol

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    Default Re: How to deal with this customer who wants to see me outside of the club?

    I will SO have him take me to Tiffany's before the game... but now that I've thought about it I really don't want to go out with him anywhere!
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