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    OK, I'm actually not even sure there's a question here, but I want to get this off my chest I guess.

    I've gone to strip clubs for years. I have gone to many strip clubs in the LA area. For the most part, I just watch stage shows; I'll get lap dances every once in awhile when I really find a dancer attractive. And I've always understood the basic transaction at the heart of the industry-- we are paying the dancers to pretend to be interested in us; they aren't actually into us, they just want our money, etc. I've been offered extras every once in awhile (and have accepted them on occasion when offered, but not always), but the big turn-on of strip clubs has never been extras, but rather the pretense that really hot women would be interested in me. (And I accept any criticism of this in advance. I should just turn down the extras, especially since that isn't why I go to strip clubs in the first place.)

    Every once in awhile, a dancer has offered me her number, and that has always turned out to be a solicitation for off-the-club escorting. I've never taken up that offer.

    Well, late last year, a dancer in a local club who I had bought lap dances from 5 or 6 times before, over the course of a couple of years, and who offered me extras on a couple of occasions, asked to exchange numbers. I figured that this was just an offer for escorting, but she made a big deal of saying it wasn't. She was actually interested in me, wanted to go out with me, etc. I said OK, whatever, and exchanged numbers. She told me to text her and we'd set something up.

    That started what has been four months of frustration, where I have texted her, she has ignored my texts, and just when I decide to give up, she texts or calls me and says no, she's just really busy, she really wants this to happen, etc. I've also been into the club a couple of times and bought some lap dances from her, which resulted in some really passionate, affectionate extracurricular activity in the VIP room which at least seemed to be mutually pleasurable. And when I've been in the club, she's offered this or that excuse for why she was out of town or too tired or was moving and couldn't schedule a time to get together and promised that we would get together soon. But then when I text her in the runup to or on the day when she says she is available to meet, she doesn't text back and it starts all over again.

    At any rate, it's pretty clear that I should just cut off contact. It's been four months, and people who are serious about getting together with someone will find a way to do it in that length of time. And the whole thing is driving me crazy-- I am quite comfortable being a strip club customer (indeed, I'm totally comfortable with dancers who don't even offer extras and have bought many dances from women who I simply found enjoyable with no expectation of anything more than a beautiful woman bouncing on my clothed lap), understand the fantasy involved, but this dancer, whether she means well or not, has completely upset that equilibrium. I've gotten very depressed (I am normally a happy person) because she keeps on stringing me along and telling me she is interested but won't actually get together.

    So my question is what do you all think is going on here? Is this just a scam to try and get me to spend more money on lap dances? (If that's the case, it was a spectacular misreading of me-- I would have continued to spend money on lap dances with her because I liked her, and the distaste from this experience is going to cause me to stop coming to the club.) Does this just sound like a dancer with a lot of issues in her personal life who can't get it together and schedule a date? (For what it's worth, in our conversations she seems like a very down to earth person who enjoys the flexible hours and decent compensation her job offers and not someone who has a drug problem or a bunch of ex-boyfriends following her around or anything of that nature.) Is it something else?

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    yes, its a scam to keep you interested, clinging onto that hope, and coming in. i've dated customers from clubs who i was actually interested in, and i've somehow found a way to meet up with them..in fact i've been the one who suggested it and followed through. its been 4 months, if she was really interested, she would have found a way. you've been playing right into it, going back and getting VIPS, spending lots of money in HOPES she is serious and is "just busy".

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    Quote Originally Posted by simone87 View Post
    yes, its a scam to keep you interested, clinging onto that hope, and coming in. i've dated customers from clubs who i was actually interested in, and i've somehow found a way to meet up with them..in fact i've been the one who suggested it and followed through. its been 4 months, if she was really interested, she would have found a way. you've been playing right into it, going back and getting VIPS, spending lots of money in HOPES she is serious and is "just busy".
    Thanks simone, that's helpful.

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    I agree with Simone87, she's scamming you.

    I think it was stupid of her to this in the first place, from a business standpoint. If girls don't know the right guys to choose or the right way to hustle them, taking things outside of the club might lessen the financial benefits of it while also adding the mental stress of having to entertain a guy OTC, be expected to do more than inside-the-club, and make less money (unless she was really into the guy and not his money). It's been four months. That's 1/3 of a year, she has no interest in finding time for you. Spend time with a different girl who won't frustrate you as much.
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    Quote Originally Posted by lawdude View Post
    Well, late last year, a dancer in a local club who I had bought lap dances from 5 or 6 times before, over the course of a couple of years, and who offered me extras on a couple of occasions, asked to exchange numbers. She was actually interested in me, wanted to go out with me, etc. I said OK, whatever, and exchanged numbers. She told me to text her and we'd set something up.

    That started what has been four months of frustration, where I have texted her, she has ignored my texts, and just when I decide to give up, she texts or calls me and says no, she's just really busy, she really wants this to happen, etc. I've also been into the club a couple of times and bought some lap dances from her, which resulted in some really passionate, affectionate extracurricular activity in the VIP room which at least seemed to be mutually pleasurable. And when I've been in the club, she's offered this or that excuse for why she was out of town or too tired or was moving and couldn't schedule a time to get together and promised that we would get together soon. But then when I text her in the runup to or on the day when she says she is available to meet, she doesn't text back and it starts all over again.
    The fact is, she knew enough about you and had seen enough of you to want you to visit more often and spend more money on her. That's why she upped the ante and exchanged numbers. From her perspective, you were a customer who she saw "every once in a while" and that was not enough. If you can show up once every couple of months, then you can show up once a month, and then once a week. Spending more money on her overall. And the phone numbers create the added bonus of her always being on your mind outside the club. Every time you look up Contacts, there she is.
    Bottom line: she hooked you, and it sounds like she got a couple of nice VIP sessions from you.
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    Yup, Scam...
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    Quote Originally Posted by lawdude View Post
    Is this just a scam to try and get me to spend more money on lap dances?
    Yes. As a matter of fact, it is quite common. And contrary to your assertion that it is hurting her rather than helping her, I would beg to differ.

    Before this started, you were a very casual customer who only danced with her 5 or 6 times over a two year span, so let's say it was once every four or five months. Not exactly a rockstar in her roster.

    Since she started this, you have gone to see her twice in a four month window. Also, I have no idea if your spending increased at all during your last couple of visits, but it wouldn't surprise me given your references to "really passionate, affectionate extracurricular activity in the VIP room which at least seemed to be mutually pleasurable", which of course would have required some time to build up. And despite feeling a bit burned, your head is still wrapped around her and I would not be shocked if you end up there at least once more, if for nothing else than to get a little more of that VIP goodness and take one more stab at scoring a hookup.

    And let me save you the trouble of starting into a "but I could have been a decent customer for a long time" comment by saying that she doesn't care. The girls that run these types of games are trying to maximize today's take. And truth be told, this is a transient business, so one can never really count upon what some guy might do six months from now as either he, or she or both may no longer be going to the club.

    If it is any consolation, most every blue posting on this board has gone through something like this at one time or another. IMHO you should just take this as an educational moment and move on.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    Yes. As a matter of fact, it is quite common. And contrary to your assertion that it is hurting her rather than helping her, I would beg to differ.

    Before this started, you were a very casual customer who only danced with her 5 or 6 times over a two year span, so let's say it was once every four or five months. Not exactly a rockstar in her roster.

    Since she started this, you have gone to see her twice in a four month window. Also, I have no idea if your spending increased at all during your last couple of visits, but it wouldn't surprise me given your references to "really passionate, affectionate extracurricular activity in the VIP room which at least seemed to be mutually pleasurable", which of course would have required some time to build up. And despite feeling a bit burned, your head is still wrapped around her and I would not be shocked if you end up there at least once more, if for nothing else than to get a little more of that VIP goodness and take one more stab at scoring a hookup.

    And let me save you the trouble of starting into a "but I could have been a decent customer for a long time" comment by saying that she doesn't care. The girls that run these types of games are trying to maximize today's take. And truth be told, this is a transient business, so one can never really count upon what some guy might do six months from now as either he, or she or both may no longer be going to the club.

    If it is any consolation, most every blue posting on this board has gone through something like this at one time or another. IMHO you should just take this as an educational moment and move on.
    Actually, I probably spent less overall than you think post-when she gave me her number. But I take your general point.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lawdude View Post
    Actually, I probably spent less overall than you think post-when she gave me her number. But I take your general point.
    Fair enough. But if she did this "late last year" and you visited her two more times before four months was up, then she has already seen you - and earned from you - two more times than would otherwise have been the case if you followed your customary patterns.

    Like I said before, we have all had those moments where a stripper gets under our skin and our visits increase accordingly. The whole stringalong game is a classic one and is designed to accomplish exactly what it did. But look at the bright side - you enjoyed those VIP moments with her, so it wasn't exactly a complete loss. And now you will be savvy to this game when you see it again in the future.

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    Total scam, and she sounds like one of the many that are good at it, at least in the sense that plenty of customers won't question her motives and they'll start believing that they might have a chance with her. Trust me - if a dancer is interested, you'll know right away - she won't play games, hold out or stall. I've been there often and it's easy to tell the real deal from the posers that are just trying to dig deeper into your wallet. She definitely sounds like the latter.

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    It just sounds like she's doing a very bad job of trying to make you her regular IMO . And if she were doing a good job of it, you would have already been in to see her at the club and to spend more $ on her.

    Don't let her antics hinder your experience too much-you said you understood the game, so to speak, so go play !
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    no its not a scam. shes really relly into you.. and I have a beach in Arizona to sell you.
    Quote Originally Posted by lawdude View Post
    OK, I'm actually not even sure there's a question here, but I want to get this off my chest I guess.

    I've gone to strip clubs for years. I have gone to many strip clubs in the LA area. For the most part, I just watch stage shows; I'll get lap dances every once in awhile when I really find a dancer attractive. And I've always understood the basic transaction at the heart of the industry-- we are paying the dancers to pretend to be interested in us; they aren't actually into us, they just want our money, etc. I've been offered extras every once in awhile (and have accepted them on occasion when offered, but not always), but the big turn-on of strip clubs has never been extras, but rather the pretense that really hot women would be interested in me. (And I accept any criticism of this in advance. I should just turn down the extras, especially since that isn't why I go to strip clubs in the first place.)

    Every once in awhile, a dancer has offered me her number, and that has always turned out to be a solicitation for off-the-club escorting. I've never taken up that offer.

    Well, late last year, a dancer in a local club who I had bought lap dances from 5 or 6 times before, over the course of a couple of years, and who offered me extras on a couple of occasions, asked to exchange numbers. I figured that this was just an offer for escorting, but she made a big deal of saying it wasn't. She was actually interested in me, wanted to go out with me, etc. I said OK, whatever, and exchanged numbers. She told me to text her and we'd set something up.

    That started what has been four months of frustration, where I have texted her, she has ignored my texts, and just when I decide to give up, she texts or calls me and says no, she's just really busy, she really wants this to happen, etc. I've also been into the club a couple of times and bought some lap dances from her, which resulted in some really passionate, affectionate extracurricular activity in the VIP room which at least seemed to be mutually pleasurable. And when I've been in the club, she's offered this or that excuse for why she was out of town or too tired or was moving and couldn't schedule a time to get together and promised that we would get together soon. But then when I text her in the runup to or on the day when she says she is available to meet, she doesn't text back and it starts all over again.

    At any rate, it's pretty clear that I should just cut off contact. It's been four months, and people who are serious about getting together with someone will find a way to do it in that length of time. And the whole thing is driving me crazy-- I am quite comfortable being a strip club customer (indeed, I'm totally comfortable with dancers who don't even offer extras and have bought many dances from women who I simply found enjoyable with no expectation of anything more than a beautiful woman bouncing on my clothed lap), understand the fantasy involved, but this dancer, whether she means well or not, has completely upset that equilibrium. I've gotten very depressed (I am normally a happy person) because she keeps on stringing me along and telling me she is interested but won't actually get together.

    So my question is what do you all think is going on here? Is this just a scam to try and get me to spend more money on lap dances? (If that's the case, it was a spectacular misreading of me-- I would have continued to spend money on lap dances with her because I liked her, and the distaste from this experience is going to cause me to stop coming to the club.) Does this just sound like a dancer with a lot of issues in her personal life who can't get it together and schedule a date? (For what it's worth, in our conversations she seems like a very down to earth person who enjoys the flexible hours and decent compensation her job offers and not someone who has a drug problem or a bunch of ex-boyfriends following her around or anything of that nature.) Is it something else?
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    no its not a scam. shes really relly into you.. and I have a beach in Arizona to sell you.
    Quote Originally Posted by lawdude View Post
    OK, I'm actually not even sure there's a question here, but I want to get this off my chest I guess.

    I've gone to strip clubs for years. I have gone to many strip clubs in the LA area. For the most part, I just watch stage shows; I'll get lap dances every once in awhile when I really find a dancer attractive. And I've always understood the basic transaction at the heart of the industry-- we are paying the dancers to pretend to be interested in us; they aren't actually into us, they just want our money, etc. I've been offered extras every once in awhile (and have accepted them on occasion when offered, but not always), but the big turn-on of strip clubs has never been extras, but rather the pretense that really hot women would be interested in me. (And I accept any criticism of this in advance. I should just turn down the extras, especially since that isn't why I go to strip clubs in the first place.)

    Every once in awhile, a dancer has offered me her number, and that has always turned out to be a solicitation for off-the-club escorting. I've never taken up that offer.

    Well, late last year, a dancer in a local club who I had bought lap dances from 5 or 6 times before, over the course of a couple of years, and who offered me extras on a couple of occasions, asked to exchange numbers. I figured that this was just an offer for escorting, but she made a big deal of saying it wasn't. She was actually interested in me, wanted to go out with me, etc. I said OK, whatever, and exchanged numbers. She told me to text her and we'd set something up.

    That started what has been four months of frustration, where I have texted her, she has ignored my texts, and just when I decide to give up, she texts or calls me and says no, she's just really busy, she really wants this to happen, etc. I've also been into the club a couple of times and bought some lap dances from her, which resulted in some really passionate, affectionate extracurricular activity in the VIP room which at least seemed to be mutually pleasurable. And when I've been in the club, she's offered this or that excuse for why she was out of town or too tired or was moving and couldn't schedule a time to get together and promised that we would get together soon. But then when I text her in the runup to or on the day when she says she is available to meet, she doesn't text back and it starts all over again.

    At any rate, it's pretty clear that I should just cut off contact. It's been four months, and people who are serious about getting together with someone will find a way to do it in that length of time. And the whole thing is driving me crazy-- I am quite comfortable being a strip club customer (indeed, I'm totally comfortable with dancers who don't even offer extras and have bought many dances from women who I simply found enjoyable with no expectation of anything more than a beautiful woman bouncing on my clothed lap), understand the fantasy involved, but this dancer, whether she means well or not, has completely upset that equilibrium. I've gotten very depressed (I am normally a happy person) because she keeps on stringing me along and telling me she is interested but won't actually get together.

    So my question is what do you all think is going on here? Is this just a scam to try and get me to spend more money on lap dances? (If that's the case, it was a spectacular misreading of me-- I would have continued to spend money on lap dances with her because I liked her, and the distaste from this experience is going to cause me to stop coming to the club.) Does this just sound like a dancer with a lot of issues in her personal life who can't get it together and schedule a date? (For what it's worth, in our conversations she seems like a very down to earth person who enjoys the flexible hours and decent compensation her job offers and not someone who has a drug problem or a bunch of ex-boyfriends following her around or anything of that nature.) Is it something else?
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    I've been down this road a few times. Always assume it is a hustle. An enjoyable one, especially if you get them to a hotel. I'm curious why you would not take some of them up on the escort offers if you found them attractive? Nothing like a perfect little hottie in the shower with you (I like to wash my toys before play) before she demonstrates her "talents".

    I never thought, no matter the skill of the hustler, that I was anyones boyfriend. However, I do think I became actual friends with a stripper or two entirely on accident. Beware though that the hustle aspect never really goes away. I had one (after a couple VIP's and several hotel dates) tell me that if I didn't have any cash she would take care of me free. She also brought me to her apartment, went to dinner/lunch/movies, etc. I took her lingerie shopping and we nearly got kicked out of VS as she was flashing me from the dressing room where I was standing around feeling like a pervert (picture a lingerie store full of young ladies and this old guy standing by the dressing room, lol)... I even met her mom (akward) and a couple of her friends (annoying punks). The thing is, though I think she liked me, there is no doubt in my mind she was grooming me for more of a sugar daddy relationship - which I was not looking for at that time, so I cut off contact.

    PS. Always have a disposable phone if you are going to do this kind of stuff. Borrow a friends car or rent a car or park 3 blocks away, don't leave her alone with your wallet, don't call or email her from your "real" phone or email account. And do not connect your incognito technology to your real life gear. Do not check your hobby email on your regular personal computer (learn to use a proxy site), do not email between accounts or call between numbers, etc. You can trust her with your penis (for a while) but not your identity (life). Get it?

    Good luck, and for petes sake get your knob slobbed. lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nerd View Post
    I've been down this road a few times. Always assume it is a hustle. An enjoyable one, especially if you get them to a hotel. I'm curious why you would not take some of them up on the escort offers if you found them attractive? Nothing like a perfect little hottie in the shower with you (I like to wash my toys before play) before she demonstrates her "talents".

    I never thought, no matter the skill of the hustler, that I was anyones boyfriend. However, I do think I became actual friends with a stripper or two entirely on accident. Beware though that the hustle aspect never really goes away. I had one (after a couple VIP's and several hotel dates) tell me that if I didn't have any cash she would take care of me free. She also brought me to her apartment, went to dinner/lunch/movies, etc. I took her lingerie shopping and we nearly got kicked out of VS as she was flashing me from the dressing room where I was standing around feeling like a pervert (picture a lingerie store full of young ladies and this old guy standing by the dressing room, lol)... I even met her mom (akward) and a couple of her friends (annoying punks). The thing is, though I think she liked me, there is no doubt in my mind she was grooming me for more of a sugar daddy relationship - which I was not looking for at that time, so I cut off contact.

    PS. Always have a disposable phone if you are going to do this kind of stuff. Borrow a friends car or rent a car or park 3 blocks away, don't leave her alone with your wallet, don't call or email her from your "real" phone or email account. And do not connect your incognito technology to your real life gear. Do not check your hobby email on your regular personal computer (learn to use a proxy site), do not email between accounts or call between numbers, etc. You can trust her with your penis (for a while) but not your identity (life). Get it?

    Good luck, and for petes sake get your knob slobbed. lol.
    Interesting response. I'm actually not that interested in hiring an escort (heck, I'm not even that interested in extras in the strip club. I've turned most of them down over the years!). But to be clear, the girls who have offered their numbers for escorting have been completely clear about their intentions. I also get what YOU are talking about-- a dancer actually offering to hang out outside of the club and following through, and the precautions one should take in that situation.

    What was weird about this was that she was offering to hang out outside the club, but hasn't actually followed through.

    At any rate, what I have done, if anyone is interested, is the following. I am continuing to text with her and call her and take her texts and calls. Why not? It's harmless. She's actually fun to talk with, and this thread has helped me deal with the situation. But I am not going into the club again under any circumstances.

    I assume eventually she will get the point and decide to cut off contact. But I am not worried about it either way.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lawdude View Post
    What was weird about this was that she was offering to hang out outside the club, but hasn't actually followed through.
    What exactly is weird? She never had any intention of following through. That's her play. If you don't go back to see her the texts will stop pretty quickly...
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    What exactly is weird? She never had any intention of following through. That's her play. If you don't go back to see her the texts will stop pretty quickly...
    Not weird as explained in this thread. Weird compared to the situation Nerd was talking about (where the dancer DOES see the customer outside the club).

    (And yeah, I am assuming the texts and calls will stop.)

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    Yawn. Sorry your title says it all..

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    Quote Originally Posted by lawdude View Post

    What was weird about this was that she was offering to hang out outside the club, but hasn't actually followed through.
    ^This is "bait" basically. She's dangling that "option" of OTC in front of you so that you keep seeing her ITC and spending $ on her. But seeing as you are "not going into the club again" you don't have to worry about it and I would stop texting her and stop wasting her time, so that she will get the hint and stop wasting yours.
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    There's one thing dancers like about custies. Awesomely handsome, strong, big, thick....WALLETS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by lawdude View Post
    Not weird as explained in this thread. Weird compared to the situation Nerd was talking about (where the dancer DOES see the customer outside the club).

    (And yeah, I am assuming the texts and calls will stop.)
    Just different types of hustles for different guys lawdude.

    Guys like Nerd are really trying to source p4p, so they aren't really susceptible to the "let's go on a date" stringalong. For the most part, girls know that if they want to earn from these types of guys that they have to collect their cash OTC. Well, the girl in his example decided to do so and, once the "relationship" developed, looked to see how she could convert it into something more profitable.

    You, on the other hand, showed disdain for any type of p4p but otherwise seemed to enjoy your time with her, so she took her shot at the date hustle and it obviously worked. I wouldn't be surprised if something in your interactions with her also gave her the sense that she might be able to get you on the hook, but there it is.

    Heck, I had a fav not long ago who was seeing me OTC for p4p while trying to convert me to an SD AND running the "let's go on a date" scam on other guys ITC. I actually saw one guy crying in the LD area and babbling "please don't break up with meeeee" WHILE she was giving him a string of LDs. LMAO. And it wouldn't surprise me if she had a half dozen other hustles just waiting in her pocket to use as appropriate.
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    Eesh, that's harsh to read

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    Quote Originally Posted by whirlerz View Post
    Eesh, that's harsh to read
    LOL. It was interesting to watch. The simple reality was that he was running out of money and, as it was happening, he became increasingly desperate to win her over. This moment in the LD area was his final hurrah, but leading up to this he would follow her like a puppy in the club and send her some pretty crazy texts (some of which I read - lmao). He even came in one night, with another girl, to try to make her jealous, which I learned was his goal when she showed me his text messages touting the fact that he could find another woman besides her. This guy was really pretty stupid.

    Idk though, perhaps I have spent so much time in strip clubs over these last several years that I have become very jaded, but IMHO any guy who is stupid enough to let things go that far deserves what he gets. A grown man has to be responsible for looking after himself. More than anything, I felt disgust and contempt for this guy as I watched all of this unravel. That may be uncharitable of me, but there it is.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    LOL. It was interesting to watch. The simple reality was that he was running out of money and, as it was happening, he became increasingly desperate to win her over. This moment in the LD area was his final hurrah, but leading up to this he would follow her like a puppy in the club and send her some pretty crazy texts (some of which I read - lmao). He even came in one night, with another girl, to try to make her jealous, which I learned was his goal when she showed me his text messages touting the fact that he could find another woman besides her. This guy was really pretty stupid.

    Idk though, perhaps I have spent so much time in strip clubs over these last several years that I have become very jaded, but IMHO any guy who is stupid enough to let things go that far deserves what he gets. A grown man has to be responsible for looking after himself. More than anything, I felt disgust and contempt for this guy as I watched all of this unravel. That may be uncharitable of me, but there it is.

    I feel little sympathy for customers like that as well, rick.
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    Cross-posting is not allowed. Stick to the topic please.
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