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    First of all I would like to thank all of you ladies for all of the info and tips you provide for us newbies, I honestly don't think I would have ever gotten the courage to try dancing if I didn't spend weeks lurking on sw lol, so thank you!!! The knowledge you can gain from here is priceless.
    So here's my story: me and my boyfriend/daughters father broke up and I was super depressed. I didn't feel like doing anything but take care of my daughter, go to school, and lay in bed all day on sw; it was pathetic . I've thought about being a stripper for a couple years but never had the courage and couldn't be because my bf wasn't cool with the idea. So it was always just kind of a fantasy of mine. Even when we broke up I was still hesitant to try it because if my ex found out he would never think of me the same; he's an asshole like that. One day I was at his house (booty call, hey a girl has needs too) and went thru his phone (stupid stupid stupid) and found a pic of him on his bday hugged up with some girl so I dumped my glass of miscato on his couch and left with one thought in my head " I'm gonna strip!" So the next day I go to the adult store, bought myself 3 outfits, a pair of shoes, and called up my friend that dances (and is always bragging about the money )and asked if I could ride with her to where she works and try it out (she had offered to bring me along multiple times)and she said "Yup I'm going tonight come on". So we go a little early so I can meet the owner, I show him my boobs and I was hired. My first night I made 300 after tip out, my friend of course wanted to know and when I told her she seemed kind of surprised (and honestly a little mad because she made about the same,which btw $300 on a slow Monday night is good where we're from, especially off of just lap dances, although there is VIP and cr's) . But I could sense she didn't like it and had hoped I would have made nothing but a fool out of myself, she's one of those scandalous, pathological liar strippers (you know what I'm talking about) and I probably should have expected that from her because we've always had a love/hate friendship, but I turned to her because I was desperate and I thought it would be easier to have a familiar face there, even if she is two faced. So despite my instincts I went again (this time driving myself) and did good again and also got pretty cool with boss which I don't think she liked either. And I went again, did good and the next day my ex gets a mysterious call telling him I've been stripping and he flips. I know it was my "friend" because she was the only person that knew about it. I confront her about it and of course she denies it and tells me I should come to work anyways, needing and loving the money I make, I do. The next day my ex calls me and tells me he is sorry for everything and that he misses me and wants me back and that he'll change his ways and that its what's best for our daughter, blah blah blah. Me, being the hopeless romantic I am go back to him, change my number, and decide to leave that experience in the past. Well here I am 5 months later, broke up again, needing money again. So I call my friend to see if she still works there and she says no she's working somewhere better makes $1000 a night on a slow night (yeah oook) and I tell her I'm thinking of going back to the club she showed me and she says she has a couple old dudes that go there regularly that give her a couple grand a week even though she doesn't work there anymore and doesn't want me working there, because after all she "introduced me to the club". Well now that you know my story, what do you think? Should I not go back there? I really would like to go there again because 1. its a really nice club 2. Me and the owner are really cool 3. I am familiar with the way things are done there and what the clients expect. I'm worried about what she would do if she found out, such as try to fight me (not into fighting although I know I could take her), try to embarrass me by bringing people from our home city and I don't want anyone from our city to see me, which is the whole point of me driving an hour and a half away. I would go to another club but I really really like this one and the second closest club that I would work at is 2 hours from home. I don't know if I'm over thinking this or what. I just want to know some of your veteran opinions (newbie opinions welcomed too ) are. Would it be disrespectful to go there since she worked there first and showed me the club and told me she didn't want me going back there? Or does it not matter because she doesn't even work there anymore? Any and all opinions and advice are welcomed. Sorry its sooo long I just want you guys to get the full story so you can give me the best advice possible. Thanks for reading

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    Quote Originally Posted by $Nina$ View Post
    Would it be disrespectful to go there since she worked there first and showed me the club and told me she didn't want me going back there? Or does it not matter because she doesn't even work there anymore?
    ^She has no right to tell you where/when to work (she is not a club manager after all). The fact that "she introduced" you to the industry means nothing, you could have just as easily walked through the doors all by yourself. She doesn't sound like a very good friend so I would work and risk losing this "friendship" if I were you.
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    Default Re: Need Advice

    I'm not worried about losing her as a friend because she's obviously not a good friend. I just like to avoid drama and stepping on toes. Thanks for your advice: )

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    Do what you want to! I know you wanna avoid drama but don't let that keep you from making your money. She's probably just hoping you don't go work there because you'll do well. But if you do she might not even say anything.

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    I guess I just need to quit worrying and go for it. I just hate having to worry about being sabotaged or messed with, stripping can be stressful enough as it is.
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    Live your life, this so called friend is not in charge of the club.If you can get back in then go for it honey!!!
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    Yea I can get back in the club, I already spoke with the owner and he said he would love to have me back. So I'm gonna take a couple weeks to get myself together and go back. I wanted to get some opinions first to see if maybe I was missing some "stripper territorial code" or something lol cuz I'm new to this and don't really know what the norms are other than don't fuck with peoples money. Over thinking things like usual! I wish I could turn my brain off sometimes =p

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    Dance where you want. But FFS if you want to avoid drama drop the "friend" and don tell her you're dancing again, or where!! You know she told your ex last time, she will do it it again. Good friends don't stab you in tr back and they don' think they can dictate where you can and can't work.

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    I just don't want her to some how find out n come in there n take pics of me or some BS n post em on fb haha sorry I'm being paranoid

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    You should just go work there again, fuck her. and you just shouldnt have told her you were gunna go bak to stripping if you feel she will embarass you and if she does embarrass you than embarrass her back. I used to have a "friend" like this, get rid of her, she only wants to see you do bad and who needs that in their life...just saying

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    I can understand why you wanna work there again and you totally should be able to!! It pisses me off that people are like this: But she sounds imbalanced and vindictive. We both know she is most likely gonna find out that you're dancing at the place she used to dance.. and even though she has no right to be pissed with you, a person like this very possibly may try to harm you in the most hurtful way they can(telling your family/ppl from hometown, whatever else they can think of that is destructive toward you))

    I hope I'm wrong, but to be on the safe side, I would maybe look into something else for now(a new club, travelling to other club occassionally and picking up part time lingerie housecleaner or private dancer job)

    Keep us updated! Good Luck=)

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    Yeah she probably would find out eventually, its just so frustrating that people are so greedy! Like why does it matter if I go there if you don't work there? I should just go somewhere else, but at this place the house fees are really cheap, its a nice place, and they have good management. IDK I need figure something out asap because I need the money.

    Thank you for the advice and I will keep you all updated =)

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