
Originally Posted by
AliceFun
Oh yes, this thread was catching my eyes/ soul and i can relate due to my life experience, personal and of significant others.
First of all i think people will judge about others being 'different' in general. As i was learning in art school there are specific measures regarding human body, we learnt that the ideal means a specific distance between eyes, ears, nose size, mouth size, forehead, so on.
The same applies to body, height, weight and such. These standards are ancient old and people see them as 'normality' in our present society.
Now everything that is out of these standards is considered by many people abnormal, if it's about weight, figure, whatever.
If u have a specific figure u cant do anything about and is considered unattractive then u need to live with that or go for plastic surgery if u can afford.
If u overweight people will judge "she/ he is eating too much" therefore the bashing 'u dont take care of yourself' by 'my' standards.
Now the point is, u never know what makes somebody become overweight, i dont think somebody wants to be overweight but it's happening due to various reasons. From outside things look like 'laziness, eating too much, low self esteem, so on', from inside things are different 'race, genetics, high appetite (gourmand), depression, pain, fear, not moving much due to profession or energy level in general and so on'.
I can honestly say i been going thru all these situations, been the ugly duck all my life (sad lol), been bashed about it, been skinny, also been bashed, overweight now, bashed again, my son been overweight when in elementary school, been bashed, my mom been always overweight, been bashed.
This is happening always with other categories, blacks will be bashed by white people and opposite too (racism is working both ways), transexual's, gays, disabled, all are suffering from others being nasty to them because all these people are 'out of the norm' and what is different must be bad for some.
Regarding overweight people these haters will think "why u let urself get there? you are disgusting, u are a disgrace for human race, it's disturbing me to see you like this, i am better than u cause i do my best to look fit while u sit on ur lazy ass and eat".
I seen people doing this to me or others, i had a 'friend', cam model too that was skinny and fit and was bashing overweight models alot, when i became overweight too she started to feel superior towards me and give me advice to loose weight, to work out, bla bla, our friendship degraded cause i felt hurt by her attitude.
I can tell one of the reasons i dont do gold shows (i tried) is because i dont want to expose myself to be bashed by haters, i towards time developed a sensitivity about being called out (for being ugly, skinny, fat so on) and i prefer to protect myself cause it hurts to put urself in a hot spot (GS) and be called out by haters.
I can make money from pvt's with people that are into me and like what i have to offer and consider me attractive, sexy & hot but to try indulge the crowds when u 'out of the norm' is alot more difficult.
I know people will not change, the haters will stay haters, they will continue to bash and hurt others but u know what?
That people have their own issues we dont know about, it's something inside them most probably, they must feel miserable about something in their life but they can hide it, they want to make others feel miserable for something that is visible to others, haters need to feel superior therefore they attack 'minorities'.
Have peace and lots of love for all of You out there, skinny or overweight, gays or straight, TS's or not, we are all humans and deserve love and to be happy!
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