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    Default How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    Just trying to get an idea of how often this would happen if I become a stripper.

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    at least 1 out if every 2 that I talk to, up to 4/5. so if I talk to a lot of people that could be 50+ in one night.

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    You're going to get rejected... a lot. You are also going to have fabulous nights with some amazing customers. I'd try not to focus so much on the rejection.

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    Really, how long have you been considering dancing? You've asked sm really good questions here but I think it's time for you to just take the plunge & see what comes of it. Nothing teaches you better than experience.

    As to this question, this job is a numbers game. There have been nites when everyone & their mother seemed to want dances from me, when I was so busy I couldn't get to everyone before closing time; there have been nites when it felt like I couldn't pay a guy to get a dance w/ me; & there have been all the nites in between.

    I've read a number of threads where girls mentioned their particular 'demographic'. Mine tends to be the older guys who are looking for a girl who can hold intelligent conversation; I have limited to no success w/ the younger crowd (I think part of that is b/c I don't drink alcohol at work). W/ that being said, one of the best pieces of advice I've ever seen here on SW, is 'Keep prying open those oysters, b/c sooner or later you'll find a pearl.'

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    Sooooo mannnyyyyyyyy!!!! My night consists of mostly rejection with a few lucky breaks lol. I go for the big champagne room sells though and will give a lap dance as a last resort. If the guy doesn't seem even remotely interested in the champagne I'll fish around and come back to him later. Makes you seem exclusive...or greedy. Whatever.

    You're gonna hear "no" most of the time so capitalize off the yes's. Always mention the higher priced options, always ask for extra tips, and always give your BEST dances to the customer. You're not done selling when he says yes. Sell more dances, sell rooms, and if you're already in the champagne room sell more time! The beauty of this job is that the sky is the limit and you're not gonna make it being a lazy biotch. If he pays for an hour don't sit and talk the whole time unless he says he wants you to. Ask what HE wants. Make it about him and let the money flow into your pocket.

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    It's going to be different for every person, every club, and every night. There is no way to really put an average on how much you're going to get rejected. The fact is, as a dancer you must be ready for rejection. If you can't handle being rejected a lot then the job isn't for you. Thick skin is a necessity in this industry.

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    As other ladies have pointed out, rejection happens a lot and you can't take it personally to last in this industry. The best way of looking at rejection is as another no closer to yes!

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    A lot, a lot, a lot.

    I seem to get strings of "yes" or "no", oddly. Probably an unconscious attitude thing.

    But you will get rejected at least a few times a night no matter how awesome you look or how much you hustle. It's part of the job. And you can't take it personally; if a guy only likes Latina girls and you're white, it's not that you're a bad stripper or unattractive... you're just not his type. You may have the next guy say "Holy shit, where have YOU been all night?" because you ARE his cup of tea.
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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    All the fuckin' time.

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    sometimes a lot, some times hardly at all. everyone will get rejected..now if you're smart you'll narrow down what nights you do better on, what kinds of guys like you more, what look works and what doesn't, you'll read hustle hut constantly, etc. and that helps, but even then you will get rejected and the next girl will get a yes. you can't let it bother you unless its happening every time and you make no money. then you can start worrying lol.
    as somebody else pointed out, i like your questions, but are you really considering dancing or are you just taking polls for some school project on the adult industry or something?

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    I don't usually get coherent responses from them. They're too busy looking at my tits.
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    You're going to get more "no"s then you will yes.
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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    [as somebody else pointed out, i like your questions, but are you really considering dancing or are you just taking polls for some school project on the adult industry or something?]

    Didn't want to be the one to come out & say it, but this is really the impression I'm starting to get from all of her posts. Come on woman, enough w/ the questions, just strap on your heels & get to it!

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    It depends on what you look like and your hustle. I get turned down maybe once every six guys. Sometimes more and often less. Sometimes it's so busy that you're the one turning down dances.

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    Default Re: How often do patrons turn down dances from you?

    Like all the other ladies have said, you get turned down allllll the tiiiiime.

    But it totally depends on your hustle, as well. I have awful days were almost everyone is all "maybe later," and really fantastic nights were folks are coming up to me. Last Saturday night, I had a legit line going. (Tooting my own horn here, but holy crap I was proud of myself!!)

    At first the fear of rejection kept me from wanting to ask everybody, but I realized it wasn't really personal. People aren't turning you down as a person, they're generally turning down the $40/3 mins, which I totally get.

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