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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    You could be outted for working on ANY site so why not maximize your income and work for the site that you could make the most money on?
    Because, at the moment anyway, the increased money is not worth the increased risk of being outted. Granted that it's a possibility on any site but from what I've read on this forum combined with my own experience, it seems to be a greater risk on SM than on other camsites that I've used. Recordings being used on affiliate sites also seems to be more of an issue on SM. Increased revenue is often associated with increased risk in all walks of life, it's just a balance that one has to find out for themselves and strike appropriately. I suppose that's all I'm trying to do.

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    That's because they sell the videos for $14.99 a month to customers lol. It's bound to show up haha. That's why I changed my cam look and hair color too.

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    I've been outed, people I know have even bought shows from me (revealing identity afterwards..douchebags.) My family knows, my friends know, my ex knows (and cyber stalked me to death and purchased vids..at least I got his $$!!) old coworkers know from when I had a vanilla job...At first when these people were popping up in chat I had a feeling of dread shoot down my spine but I just kept on going about my business. I'm not ashamed of what I do, so why go to lengths to hide it? I'm proud I have what it takes to be successful at something, especially something unstable in nature. My fiance is supportive of me getting back into it, so you might as well slap a "Hi, I'm a camgirl" sticker on my forehead and let me go about my life. Camming rocks. If someone has issues with me over it, well they can go **** themselves. Or better yet, I'll go fuck myself. On cam. And make lotsa $$ doing it ^_^
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    Quote Originally Posted by Brilynne View Post
    At first when these people were popping up in chat I had a feeling of dread shoot down my spine but I just kept on going about my business. I'm not ashamed of what I do, so why go to lengths to hide it? I'm proud I have what it takes to be successful at something, especially something unstable in nature. My fiance is supportive of me getting back into it, so you might as well slap a "Hi, I'm a camgirl" sticker on my forehead and let me go about my life. Camming rocks. If someone has issues with me over it, well they can go **** themselves. Or better yet, I'll go fuck myself. On cam. And make lotsa $$ doing it ^_^
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    I haven't been outed. Or if I have, I don't know about it. For the most part, I'm just waiting for the day when someone tells me that other people know. I'm pretty sure that most of their reactions would be "I'm not surprised" and I'll just shrug and be like "Ok. Good for them. Pervs lol."

    I mean, I wouldn't want it to reach my parents, but at the end of the day, I'm not out on the streets and I work safely in my home. My boyfriend knows and he's cool with it, that's all that matters to me right now. If my parents ever told me "We raised you better than that!" I'll say "Yes Dad. But YOU were the one who told me that I had to know how to learn how to sell myself... Soooooo... Yeah. I guess I took your advice literally LOL."

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    Yeah with certain sites posting your vids and pics in various places, it's inevitable if you work online or post ads or what not online, you will be seen. A guy I used to date showed up in my room the other night on SM. Told me who he was in an email. Creeped me out, so I blocked all people from my region but that doesn't help when SM and other sites have the right to post your pics and vids all over. Good luck hon. Just ignore their comments and stares and smile and keep on rockin'.

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    It's not so much that I've been outted, per se.....but....some awkward moments.

    An ex boyf from NINE YEARS AGO has continued googling me (compliment? or creepy?) and found my ELM info which directed him to my cam-related blog. He contacted me on MGF and didn't know he can't give me personal info. They blcoked him for trying to give me his email....... what an idiot, as we are FB friends!

    The weord moment happened the other night. An acquaintance from tumblr who I know recently got married found me whilst trolling MFC. He went, "Wow, this is the first time I've seen anyone I know!" Luckily, he wasn't looking to out me and was kind enough to just PM and say hello. I think he tipped a bit out of his own embarrassment. I thought it was pretty funny.....but evidence that maaaaaaaannnnnnnn, anyone can find you, even if you're a newb listed on one of the last pages, lol.
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    I'm sorry, this thread made me giggle because of something that happened about two-ish weeks ago. I had been reading SW so much and was reading about being outed along with all of the other things new girls need to read. Then I was out and about doing some shopping and this old man drives past slowly. He waved at me and leaned over so hard I thought he would fall into his passenger seat. I had to laugh because I knew I MUST be too new to be noticed yet and was just being paranoid, but I couldn't help wondering what the hell was up with that. Maybe he really did see me on cam. I sure didn't know him since I tend to keep to myself. It's honestly weird to think about anyone recognizing me around town.
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    If I get outed I hope they spend $ on me. And as far as judging me, wth were they doing on the site? Before I cammed I had never been on one(shrug).

    I love my job! I want to shout it from the rooftops! If I get outed I'm inviting them to come have sex with me on cam!
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    I think it's only natural to think that because you're new, you haven't been noticed but we all know that you can cam for 5 minutes and still be outted because we live in a world full of worthless busybody.
    Quote Originally Posted by SweetieBelle View Post
    I had to laugh because I knew I MUST be too new to be noticed yet and was just being paranoid, but I couldn't help wondering what the hell was up with that. Maybe he really did see me on cam. I sure didn't know him since I tend to keep to myself. It's honestly weird to think about anyone recognizing me around town.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Marina Starr View Post
    I think it's only natural to think that because you're new, you haven't been noticed but we all know that you can cam for 5 minutes and still be outted because we live in a world full of worthless busybody.
    Too true.
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    No. But I have only one best friend that I see maybe 3 times per year. My immediate family knows and they think it's a good idea that I do caming to make extra money because it's using my resources. It's smart because it saves gas and I can do it when its convenient for me and I get a lot of money for my family.

    I'm a professional and I don't just do caming and nobody has ever said a word to me. A lot of people watch porn but the chances of someone you personally know seeing one of your videos or seeing you pop up on a porn site like youporn I think is slim. I work with people that I'd never recognize if I saw them on a porn site anyway. It's also not the end of the world. A lot of people work as dancers and to me caming is just virtual stripping. And another note, if we worried about what people thought of us we'd be worrying all the time. If it pays the bills and you are happy and it's not hurting your personal relationships with people you care about, then my word of advice to being outed is "f*ck em". Until they are paying your bills their opinion don't matter. And as for a job, it's highly unlikely unless you are really intentionally putting yourself out there as a porn star or amateur adult star that any boss will know who you are when you get hired or interview. And to my knowledge most employment background checks aren't going to find your cam model page that is listed under a different screen name.

    For precautions I also don't use photos of my face in any of my profile photos. The way I see it is, they log on and see me on cam in person, that's what they care about, not my bio photos.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Brilynne View Post
    I've been outed, people I know have even bought shows from me (revealing identity afterwards..douchebags.) My family knows, my friends know, my ex knows (and cyber stalked me to death and purchased vids..at least I got his $$!!) old coworkers know from when I had a vanilla job...At first when these people were popping up in chat I had a feeling of dread shoot down my spine but I just kept on going about my business. I'm not ashamed of what I do, so why go to lengths to hide it? I'm proud I have what it takes to be successful at something, especially something unstable in nature. My fiance is supportive of me getting back into it, so you might as well slap a "Hi, I'm a camgirl" sticker on my forehead and let me go about my life. Camming rocks. If someone has issues with me over it, well they can go **** themselves. Or better yet, I'll go fuck myself. On cam. And make lotsa $$ doing it ^_^
    Yes. Exactly. My question to anyone who may be scared of being outed is "Is it really all that bad if you are outed?" Are there that many people out there who hate you enough to tell the world? Probably not. We are all adults and we all have private lives. What about the people who are swingers who advertise on Craigs List or Adult Friend Finder? Strippers dance in person and people locally know they work at the club. Do they care? Nope. And they do full nude and toy shows in some clubs. They don't care for many reasons but you know you can always say, like you did, "I'm getting paid well because I'm so attractive to certain men that they throw money at me and in turn, I probably make more than you do per hour and per minute and do a lot less hard labor". Plus you can say "I have no boss", "I work when I want", "I don't have sex with people, I don't even touch them" or if it's a female you can always say "I'm sorry that you couldn't see yourself doing such a thing, but don't knock me because I have enough self esteem to get naked in front of men who adore me and collect $$$ doing it".

    If it's an employer that finds out then I'd say simply, "What I do is legal and I'm an adult. It has no bearing on how I perform this job and there's no contract that says I cannot work in the adult industry and still hold this job". As for co workers or anyone else who has something to say "If you are interested, come chat. If you have a problem with it then don't visit my page again and leave me alone about it." That's just what I'd say if someone said something. It's not like I've ever been a "good girl" anyway so if people really know me they wouldn't think a thing of what I do. And I'd bet all of the people who work in the adult industry whether it's as a big star or a small amateur who wants to keep things on the DL, we all have a certain personality where if people personally know us it wouldn't come as a surprise.

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    Yes I had some loser say my real name in chat. I blocked his fucking country but the bitch just log into to a different ip and says "he's on vacation". Some loser from my myspace days. I knew chatting with a bunch of posers on that site would come back and bite me in the ass later. Ohh well.

    Then another "loser" that kept asking me out for a year popped into the site and started texting me like crazy when I was on cam. When I logged off I bitched him out and deleted him from my facebook. Another guy sent me a picture message of us in a photo at a club and said "remember me" then said he was providing moral support to his one of his "cam girlfriends". Yawn more bullshit " blocked and deleted from facebook.

    It's funny that their behavior changes as if they need to prove to the room that they somehow know you but really you just saw them in passing. A few laughs that last 30 mins at a theme party club event doesn't count as knowing me.

    I even had someone from work contact me every few months asking if I still work at the old job. Lol bitch that was 6 years ago that I left and he left 8 months before I did. He obviously knows I cam but is trying to see if I'll fuck his married ass. It's like umm I didn't want you back then and sure as hell don't want you now wtf? He was one of those guys that worked with his wife and actually was fucking around on her at the same damn job. I only admired his work ethic because the man put in hours meant for a zombie. Because he negotiated his salary hard and worked like he did he was making about 6 figures when he left. With all of that I appreciated his sage wisdom but umm that's not enough to fuck someone. Sorry lol

    There have been a few others that all of a sudden once they see me on cam it's like 360 stupidity comes out. I have no idea what the hell they are thinking .

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    Yes I had some loser say my real name in chat. I blocked his fucking country but the bitch just log into to a different ip and says "he's on vacation". Some loser from my myspace days. I knew chatting with a bunch of posers on that site would come back and bite me in the ass later. Ohh well.

    Then another "loser" that kept asking me out for a year popped into the site and started texting me like crazy when I was on cam. When I logged off I bitched him out and deleted him from my facebook. Another guy sent me a picture message of us in a photo at a club and said "remember me" then said he was providing moral support to his one of his "cam girlfriends". Yawn more bullshit " blocked and deleted from facebook.

    It's funny that their behavior changes as if they need to prove to the room that they somehow know you but really you just saw them in passing. A few laughs that last 30 mins at a theme party club event doesn't count as knowing me.

    I even had someone from work contact me every few months asking if I still work at the old job. Lol bitch that was 6 years ago that I left and he left 8 months before I did. He obviously knows I cam but is trying to see if I'll fuck his married ass. It's like umm I didn't want you back then and sure as hell don't want you now wtf? He was one of those guys that worked with his wife and actually was fucking around on her at the same damn job. I only admired his work ethic because the man put in hours meant for a zombie. Because he negotiated his salary hard and worked like he did he was making about 6 figures when he left. With all of that I appreciated his sage wisdom but umm that's not enough to fuck someone. Sorry lol

    There have been a few others that all of a sudden once they see me on cam it's like 360 stupidity comes out. I have no idea what the hell they are thinking .
    Do you or have you told anyone that you are a cam model and on what site? You mention club events so is the adult industry your main job? I'm asking because some people only do camming on the side and don't want to work on promoting themselves as an adult entertainer, etc. So it would be good for people who may be worried to know if those who are more open about their job/are trying to actually make a career in the industry and a name for themselves get outed more often than say, the mom next door who never tells anyone her part time job.

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    I got outed and it's been the worst experience ever. Mainly because I wasn't outed by some pervs finding me (as far as I know) but by people I know that felt vindictive and posted the links on facebook.... That was months ago and even today, I'm still dealing with it. Sucks, cuz it was mostly controversy about Clips4Sale, which... yanno, is a fetish site. People like weird stuff... Just last night, I got a text at 5:40am from a number I don't know, sending me nude photos of me from a clip of mine, saying, this is you! ... Ugh. I deleted my C4S at this point and my streamate & everything else. I have people that have been harrassing me for months now about this stuff, posting stuff about me on facebook... Pretty humiliating. Just make sure you don't tell ANYONE that doesn't need to know.

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    ^^ OMG Vela I am SO FUCKING SORRY!!! I saw your name pop up as the last poster on here and was like "Holy shit,I havent seen her around here in FOREVER!!" I'm sending you an e- and some e-love...fucking bastards..

    I'm not shocked at their behavior or anything,I know that my time will come as well,but it still pisses me off nonetheless when I read another horrible outing happened to another good chick...yet again...
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    TY VB -- I appreciate it! I am not ashamed of what I do, but that doesn't mean I'm not trying to be private about it -- I'm just gonna start over, but when, I'm not sure. Getting outed sucks, but you gotta stay strong and remember that the people that chastise you for this are always doing something equally as scandalous. Stay strong ladies, no matter what!

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    I am so so sorry you have to endure such cruelty. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and don't let anyone steal your joy! I'm sending lots of love and hugs your way!
    Quote Originally Posted by Vela Valentine View Post
    I got outed and it's been the worst experience ever. Mainly because I wasn't outed by some pervs finding me (as far as I know) but by people I know that felt vindictive and posted the links on facebook.... That was months ago and even today, I'm still dealing with it. Sucks, cuz it was mostly controversy about Clips4Sale, which... yanno, is a fetish site. People like weird stuff... Just last night, I got a text at 5:40am from a number I don't know, sending me nude photos of me from a clip of mine, saying, this is you! ... Ugh. I deleted my C4S at this point and my streamate & everything else. I have people that have been harrassing me for months now about this stuff, posting stuff about me on facebook... Pretty humiliating. Just make sure you don't tell ANYONE that doesn't need to know.
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    I was outed....no just kidding. My mom came over and asked what I was doing to make extra money and I told her. She said "are you serious they will pay that to not even touch you? What a bunch of losers....bleed them dry". Haha my mom never gives a shit.

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    ^^ That's awesome!! If only ALL our parents were as understanding and open-minded..
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    Quote Originally Posted by VoluptiousBriadda View Post
    ^^ That's awesome!! If only ALL our parents were as understanding and open-minded..
    Well it depends. See my mom can brag to her friends I have a college background and a day job that's impressive as compared to a lot of jobs. I am sure if I had said...hey mom I'm making a living masturbating on cam she would b e pissed. Its not like she feels she can brag about that.

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    were u quite discreet and hidden away?
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    Just curious if anyone here is completely out by their own choice?

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    I am completely out to my whole family by my own volition.
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    Just curious if anyone here is completely out by their own choice?
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