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    Default Being a perfectionist and camming/content... how do you deal?!

    So I can definitely be a perfectionist when it comes to stuff, and I feel like a lot of times when camming or making content it gets in the way and I feel like in the long run it will make me less money because I can get fixated on stupid stuff that doesn't matter! Any advice on how to deal with this? Or if you deal with it too let me know so I'm not alone
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    Default Re: Being a perfectionist and camming/content... how do you deal?!

    Ugh..def not alone.When I first started camming,I was going all out with my disguise.Covering 4 big tattoos (the rest I didnt show nearly as much and arent nearly as recognizable/unique),fake lashes,full face of makeup,fake beauty mark,wig,contouring like crazy etc etc It took a minimum of 3 hrs,and that was if I majorly hustled and nothing went wrong.So 4 hrs usually lol.Then Id go to get on and fuck with the camera and lighting for atleast another hr.Change wardrobe a cple times usually.Id end up getting in 2-3 hrs tops out of an 8 hr day! Needless to say,it led to burnout QUICKLY.Ive since taken time off,gone through a dozen illnesses including one that mimics Lupus (stalking SW like a crazy ex the entire time lol) and reconsidered my entire routine.I had to come to terms with some major fears of mine,Im STILL working through some actually..

    Point being - Ive begun to shed my layers and lay off of atleast half of what I was doing to get ready.I havent yet gone completely naked as far as the disguise goes but I know that eventually Ill get there.I had to just LET GO.

    Look around at all of the shitty feeds,lighting,cameras etc.SM demands the best of the best so its easy for a perfectionist to spend countless hrs going nuts over every little detail.But Ive noticed many girls with horrible setups still get privates,still have guys in their rooms.Some ladies on here have even started threads,puzzled over how they got more privates working with a shitty backup cam and horrible lighting and internet etc when their usual set up was having technical difficulties.

    Guys rarely care about stretch marks,pimples,a fat roll,razor burn,2 days worth of armpit hair etc so most arent nearly as worried about everything being absolutely perfect as we are.I just try to remind myself of this every chance I get.Fussing and fretting = nervous,anxious,pissed off,worried,sweaty camgirl whos constantly fiddling with tech stuff and how she looks in the camera.

    That doesnt exactly exude confidence,which is what they need to see from us.Ever notice how someone can wear an absolutely gorgeous/sexy outfit but because theyre constantly pulling it down,checking themselves in the mirror,occupied with their ensemble, that it doesnt really look that great on them? We just waste precious money making time stressing over stupid shit that doesnt even matter half the time.
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    If you are ashamed of your body don't expect someone to pay to see it. If you can't act like your body is a treasure how DARE you charge people to see it.

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    Default Re: Being a perfectionist and camming/content... how do you deal?!

    I feel you. I wish I had some incredible advice but unfortunately I'm still figuring this one out as well.

    One thing I have started doing is getting the absolutely necessary things done first. I'll pick out my outfit when I first wake up (no matter how long it's going to be until I actually get on cam) then put it in my office. When I start getting ready, I put on the most important make up (foundation, mascara, lip gloss) then I log on to any sites that don't require free cam. This way I can still talk to custies but I don't have to be 100% ready. Then I straighten my hair, finish my make up and put in my extensions, all the while taking any shows that get booked during that time. I gain at least 30 min of productive time online to break it up like that.

    I'm also really obsessive about my clips. My hair, outfit and make up has to be PERFECT and I always spend wayyyy too long writing an awesome script. While yes those clips turn out amazing, it takes me hours to finish just one working at that pace. I've been allowing myself to do that still, but alternating my perfectionist clips with easier, less time consuming ones. For example, I'll just record at the end of my cam shift since I'm already all done up. And I won't write a script then, I'll just wing it. Usually I've already done plenty of cam shows of similar themes during the day so it won't be as tough to improvise.

    As far as pic sets go, honestly, I bumped up my rate by 40% since taking photos seems to take the longest for me. Imperfections show up MUCH easier in pix than in vid and especially more than cam shows. I try to remind myself that MOST guys don't notice/care about a weird shadow on your thigh or if your skin tone looks perfect and just get it over with.

    I think what it may come down to is figuring out what your time is worth to you (per hour) and think of the perfectionist distractions as a drain on your time & money clicking away. Make sure you are earning enough to make up for the time spent getting everything ready. And if not, then it's time to set those limits for yourself.

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    Default Re: Being a perfectionist and camming/content... how do you deal?!

    I think i am over it. I spent hours getting ready, adjusting lighting, sitting in certain angles, refusing shows because i didnt shave properly down there that day. deleting photos and videos, spent ages making a video and then just deleting it because it was awful. the way i got over it was to completely remake my persona, delete all profiles, changed name, changed look (minimal makeup, any old clothes, simply wig), got rid of all my regulars, competely started over. told me self "who gives a fuck what they think of me as long as theyre paying" switched to paid-chat only. absolutely NO FREE CHAT. So if they dont like me they can pay the first minute and then fuck off but least i got a mins worth out of them. but turned out they did like me and they stayed and i making a good wage, more than min wage. i think what was bugging me was that before my customers in freechat gave TOO many complements, and i felt like i cant dissapoint now because they think i am a goddess, so i tried to be that goddess. but it ends up being too much effort. once i ditched them i had nobody to constantly impress. and i feel so freeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.

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    Default Re: Being a perfectionist and camming/content... how do you deal?!

    Having worked as an art director I used to prep like it was an Annie Liebowitz shoot. To break this, my mantra became "You have a pussy and a webcam, get the fuck online." I mean, I still get into getting dolled up because it's part of the job appeal but honestly, it's for me, really.

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    It's hard for me to make content without looking perfect. I edit clips like crazy, and still don't feel confident about that. What helped me get over it was just putting up the clips that weren't perfect, watching them sell, then watching the guys come back and buy more clips from me. Kind of told me that they don't care that they're not perfect. It's still a struggle, but making money anyway can help boost confidence.

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    Just wanted to bump this and say thank you to everyone for your wonderful responses. <3333
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    Quote Originally Posted by Cam_Model_Jess View Post
    It's hard for me to make content without looking perfect. I edit clips like crazy, and still don't feel confident about that. What helped me get over it was just putting up the clips that weren't perfect, watching them sell, then watching the guys come back and buy more clips from me. Kind of told me that they don't care that they're not perfect. It's still a struggle, but making money anyway can help boost confidence.
    This this this. I edit like crazy and spend forever on lighting/makeup and sometimes I don't even really need it, as I constantly get requests for 'uncut' versions of clips.




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    OK, so i got on today even if my auntie Flo didn't leave town for good, and my belly is reallly reallllly swollen and such....and i got two guys returning to my room after the show to compliment me on how great i look and saying that my body is perfect. So...just get filming and it's gonna be peachy!

    (this coming from a girl who made a living by perusing 100s of pages and observing when a comma is not in the right place..or there's a double letter missing)

    Just DO it girl! u'll see u're awesome

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