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    Hi girls I am sorry if this is a duplicate posting, but I searched for this information and could not find it on other posts.

    How long does it take to work at a club to make regulars?
    How do you make regulars? Any tips or advice is welcome!

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    Don't worry about making regulars. Just worry about doing your job. The regulars will follow. Besides, cultivating regulars involves a LOT of work with very questionable payoff. And all regulars have a shelf life. The best way to get regulars is to just do your job, be enjoyable, engaging, effervescent, funny, whatever matches your personality best. Guys will like you and they will come back for you. Out of all the regulars I have, I've never once tried to "cultivate" them. They just liked me and started coming back regularly.

    A lot of (newer) girls will tell you to buy a disposable cell phone and give the number out to everyone you meet in the club. I think this is horrible advice. First off, how do you know you WANT these guys as regulars? You really want some grabby, clingy, disrespectful douche calling and texting you all the time and coming into the club to bother you every time you work? Most of the guys you give your number to like that are only interested in getting laid. A lot of guys also know that this tends to be a new-girl thing, and they'll assume you don't know what you're doing and will be easy to manipulate or take advantage of.

    The only immediate advice I would give you is maintain a very regular work schedule. It's much easier for guys who like you to come find you again when you work the same days every week. Because guys who like you will ask, "What days do you work?" and it's much simpler to say, "I work Monday through Thursday nights," than, "Well, this week I'm working Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday, and next week I'm on Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday, and the week after that..."

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    It only takes 2 shifts to make a regular... One to meet him, and one for him to come back!

    I'm really interested in seeing how other girls respond to this thread, because really... All regulars I've had pick me, not the other way around. There's really no way to "trick" someone into coming back and seeing you, they have to really want to come back specifically for you to be considered a regular.

    Ultimately, I guess there are ways to run your business to make yourself more accesible to regulars, which would be:

    *Having an email/work number that you use to contact them.
    *Having a stripper FB/twitter/whatever. ~ personally, I wouldn't do this for the same reason I would never cam. I don't want my face being linked to this industry and run the risk of having myself "outted" to my family/day job clients.
    *Sticking to a set schedule
    *Learning how to pick the guys that are likely to become regulars - obviously the 20-something married guy who's in for his friend's bachelor party is less inclined to become an SC regular than the lonely 50-something divorcee. Learn how to make yourself attractive to the latter type of clientele.
    *Always letting new customers know the next time you'll be in, how to contact you (e-mail/FB), etc. - plant the idea in their head that they should come back and see you!

    Other than that, regular/dancer relationships are born out of favoritism, and there's no way to ensure you'll be anyone's favorite. Always look your best when you're at work and have a cohesive and consistant style (don't wear a baby pink mini dress one night and a black studded choker the next!), so that you'll be someone's "type" and you're set apart from the other girls in some way.

    They're also a very fickle relationship that inevitably have an expiration date! Sometimes, to keep a regular, you have to be manipulative and string them along, making them believe that they'll eventually get what they want from you (which, let's face it, is usually sex, OTC activity, an SD/SB relationship, etc.). This is something I've never been 100% comfortable with, and I think I always fuck it up by coming off as super flakey.
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    Quote Originally Posted by firemaiden04 View Post
    A lot of (newer) girls will tell you to buy a disposable cell phone and give the number out to everyone you meet in the club. I think this is horrible advice. First off, how do you know you WANT these guys as regulars? You really want some grabby, clingy, disrespectful douche calling and texting you all the time and coming into the club to bother you every time you work? Most of the guys you give your number to like that are only interested in getting laid. A lot of guys also know that this tends to be a new-girl thing, and they'll assume you don't know what you're doing and will be easy to manipulate or take advantage of.
    ^This is totally true, in some respects. It all depends on what your limits are and how good you are at enforcing those limits. Given the fact that I travel for vacations a LOT and don't have a consistant work schedule, I prefer to keep regulars by exchanging contact info. I would never make a "grabby, disrespectful douche" my regular because I usually try to avoid doing dances with them in the first place. I don't respond to phone calls, only text messages, and yes, in the long run -- it's totally extra work! But to me, that extra work is worth it, to have a guaranteed & frequent day shift spender.

    I disagree that this is exclusively for "newer" girls. I've seen plenty of vets with work phones, and I myself have been in the industry for 5 years.
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    I'm surprised you didn't find any posts on cultivating regulars since there have been quite a few! Check em out:
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=regulars
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=regulars
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=regulars
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=regulars
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=regulars
    https://www.stripperweb.com/forum/sh...light=regulars

    The thing with regulars is that it's not a one-sided relationship. They pick you as much as you pick them and try to cultivate them. The single best thing you can do is work a regular schedule and make sure the people you dance for know when to find you in the club.

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    +1 on the regular work schedule thing!
    If you meet a customer who spends good money on you, tell him, "I work Wednesday through Saturday, come back and see me again!!" Try your best to remember his name or at least his occupation or something like that when he does come back in to see you. Having a work number to text regulars on slow days has been a freaking GODSEND. Just a simple little text like "Good morning :) I miss you! I'm working tonight, I hope you can come visit me!" Or text him when you're at work, "I'm so bored here, come in and have a drink with me!" And then once he's there, take his money! Lol, there isn't really a formula, it just kind of happens, but these things have really helped me stay busy during the slow season in AZ.

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    There's no specific timeframe it takes to get a regular. If you give a guy your contact info so he knows when to come back and see you again then you could potentially get a regular your first shift at a new place.

    I usually keep in touch with my regulars via text (just got google voice) but I have an email, too.

    If you want a big-spending regular you find a guy who is easy to manipulate and has lots of money. That way you can convince him to come see you, and once he's there, to keep spending money on you. One piece of advice is that if a guy spends a decent amount of money on you, don't leave him unless you know he can't be hustled anymore, because he could be regular material. If he sticks around after getting dances/VIP with you, he might very well have more money to spend. The longer he stays there spending money, the more you two drink and talk and "get to know each other better" ie, you make him fall in love with you while simultaneously analyzing if he's spent a good amount of money. If he's spent an amount of money that you consider significant then you can propose that you guys swap phone numbers or emails so he can come back and see you again. Keep in touch with him. And make sure the guy is tolerable to talk to. If you put up with a guy who you can't stand just because he spends money it will get annoying. Also, make sure his spending on you stays at least consistent (don't let him get used to spending less) so you can know a ballpark figure on how much money to expect from him when he comes to see you that. That way it'll be easier for you to plan your night at work around him being there.
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    I agree 100% with summerbre. Maintaining a regular schedule worked really well for me to cultivate my regulars base.
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    Again with the regulars I'm a cam model so I'm a cyber stripper lol but yeah just go to ur clubs at the same time and the same days everyweek and they will come back to find you if they like u enuf most cam models use twitter how many of u girls use twitter for dancing?
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