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    I got dumped today. I had been with my boyfriend for almost a year. Insanely enough, we met because he messaged me on a cam site. I know, yes I am an idiot.

    I had had my own area blocked, but I took it off to check my placement. He had never bought a show or even spent time in my free chat when he sent me a curious message about how he was interested in camming himself and wanted to ask me about it. He also hinted that he was looking for a female camming partner. There was no way I was ever interested in a camming partner BTW. Why do I want to split my money with someone else? I do fine alone kthanks.

    At first, i brushed the message off as just like so many others I get every fucking day.
    but it happened to be a slow day and I was bored.. so I did something I never do, and haven't done since. I opened the attachments to see his photos. I wondered what such a guy could look like, and he was jaw-droppingly gorgeous. An insane body and the most beautiful dick I'd ever seen.

    I toyed with the idea of responding for a few weeks. I hated the idea of meeting anyone off of a cam site, and in fact I had sworn off dating for a while. Eventually, I agreed to meet up with him so that he could ask me about camming. He was crazy hot, so I thought maybe at the most i'd get a fuck buddy out of the deal. But he seemed so sleazy messaging me like that.

    Initially, I had started camming at the suggestion of a boyfriend at the time. After that relationship ended, I became very socially withdrawn, afraid that if I told anyone that I tried to date the truth about camming, that he'd look down on me.
    I was also worried that other people wouldn't see the distinction that I myself make between prostitution, or porn, or even stripping, and camming. I had stripped before, and I prefer to cam. One of the reasons I like camming so much more is that I am physically removed from the situation.
    Another fear I had was that a guy I dated might get into the idea of dating a cam girl, or think of me as an object, or trophy,

    A funny thing happened when I met the guy who messaged me. He was amazing. And because he knew from the get-go what I did for a living, it felt like he really accepted me. I fell in love with him. I gave him my whole heart. Neither of us had been looking for a serious relationship, but we found that we couldn't stand the thought of not being exclusive.

    At first, the sex was the best I have ever had. But over time, it deteriorated. It became less and less like making love, and more and more like anger-fucking a whore. Our relationship had a lot of problems, and they are probably all relevant, but I want to discuss the camming issue.

    Today, when he broke up with me, he finally confessed that he can't respect me because I cam, and that he sees me as untrustworthy because I cam. He admitted that he does not love me, and I don't know if that has anything to do with camming or not. It is worth mentioning that we live about an hour and a half apart, so part of the trust issue is connected to the distance, but today he told me that even if we lived together (which we had discussed) that he still could not trust me or respect me as long as I am camming.

    Hardly any of my friends even know I cam, so when I talk to them about the break-up, I have to leave out this huge important piece. What hurts the most is realizing how little he really thought of me.

    The irony of course, is that he is dead wrong. Sadly, I have never been so devoted and loyal, and I never have, nor ever would do anything to warrant being distrusted. I don't have the slightest desire to even flirt with anyone else, with the exception of course of when i am on cam and being paid to do so!


    So my fears came true. He couldn't accept me, couldn't trust me. He judged me.

    It is throwing my self-esteem for a loop. I keep telling myself:

    I deserve to be respected. I deserve to be trusted. I deserve to be loved.

    But all of my anxieties have been reaffirmed.

    How can a boyfriend or husband be ok with other men seeing us naked, and us doing all kinds of dirty things for money?
    Don't get me wrong, it's not that I think they shouldn't be ok with it, I literally want to know how it works when they are ok with it. I have to believe that I can still have a healthy relationship with trust and respect, and that my choice to cam isn't a death sentence for my romantic life. I feel like I know that this is true, but I need to hear it from a few dozen other people, lol.

    Is it about his own security and self-esteem? My now ex-boyfriend cited his low self-esteem as being the reason he couldn't accept that I loved him. He said he felt that he didn't deserve to be loved because he didn't love himself. It may be relevant that he is unemployed and lives with his parents. Wow, I am not proud of how this sounds on paper. lol. I could get into all kinds of reasons, and I'd love to talk to a therapist about these things, but I'm sure no one wants to hear every detail of my life. This may not even be appropriate for camming connection? I never know. Stripperweb is the only place I can actually discuss the complications of my secret double life.

    I know that some of you ladies have had better luck than I have. What is the difference between men, "boys" I guess, who will not be accepting in the long run, and the men who can get past the fact that they aren't the only ones seeing our tatas and vag-pies?

    Is camming harder to accept than , say stripping for example because our customers get off as part of the deal? Or because we see their dicks or watch them masturbate? Is the masturbation itself what makes camming hard to accept? I do not intend by any means to say that stripping or porn or whatever is any 'better" or 'worse" but merely that there are distinctions. So I hope I didn't accidentally offend anyone with my clumsy mascara-stained hammering at my keyboard.

    2 more things I think might be pertinent. My ex said that sometimes when we would be having sex, he would be looking at my ass and wondering how many other guys had ejaculated while I shook it for them that day or week, and that it made him start to resent me. He would do things like call me a "dirty whore" during sex partially, in his words, because he thought I wanted it, (which i did not. I had told him I didn't like it and that among other things, kicked off our breakup finale spectacular.) and partially because he felt that I deserved it.

    Basically, imagining me getting other men off was so repulsive that it made me less of a person. I was a whore who needed to be punished. For a little while I believe this was all play, but it became clearer and clearer that there was no love beneath it, only contempt.

    The other thing he said was that I was "too smart" to be camming. This was not a judgement on the morality of the adult industry but an objection to its short-lived nature and lack of a clear career path. Basically he was concerned about what I will do with myself when I am unable to make a living off of camming. Admittedly, I don't have much of a plan, and I probably should be ashamed of that. Yay! Issues! But hey, all this coming from an unemployed guy, who himself considered camming for money. I never bothered to point out his hypocrisy to him because it doesn't change the fact that he dared to look down on me.
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    Default Re: Dumped for being a cam girl

    1.) He did you a favor. Do you really want to be with someone judgmental, non-supportive, and thinks that he should be the one making decisions for you? No.


    Quote Originally Posted by LaceyCummings View Post
    Insanely enough, we met because he messaged me on a cam site.
    2.) It doesn't sound like he dumped you for being a cam girl if that ^^^ is the case.

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    So let me get this straight.

    This guy is "interested in getting into the industry" meets you, starts "dating" then dumps you because you're in the industry? I think everything went out exactly the way he planned. I think he used you. He was never genuinely interested in camming his self, if he were, why would he message YOU rather than the hundreds of MEN on the site? Why as a male would he ask a female cammer for work advice?

    He was amazing? You sure this wasn't because he's hot and good in bed...cuz that's not equivalent to an amazing person.

    No offense, OP but it sounds to me like you where your heart out on your sleeve too soon, seeking acceptance from others and emotionally depend too much on others. He did not dump you because you're a cam girl. He dumped you because he is a douche, that was his game plan all along and probably has done it to more than one girl. A guy like that does shit like this to feel good about his self. He wanted to prove to his self that he is hot enough to bag a cam girl without paying for jack shit. And he prob brags to his friends about it. You being a cam girl has nothing to do with the break up- he is a pussy and won't tell you the real reason why.

    To answer your question about guys not accepting us...I've been in a few relationships while being in the industry and never had a problem with guys accepting me for who I am. I never had a problem with a guy not wanting to see me anymore because of what I do- why? Because I accept and love who I am and I don't seek approval from others. As RuPaul says "If you don't love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else?"

    Your perception basically becomes your reality. No one will love and accept who you are if YOU don't.


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    I don't think that he dumped you for being a cam girl. He was just being a dick when he broke up and used that against you.

    For all I care, I would have told him "Well you're not enough of a man to meet a girl in real life. You had to search the internet." (I don't mean it at all, I think that the internet is a great tool for people who are more shy socially, but you get the point).

    So no, don't be ashamed of being a cam girl! I met my man in college, then we broke up, and when we got back together, I told him I had started camming and he has been super supportive. If they can't accept what you do, then it's not your problem. There are plenty of guys out there who would love the idea of dating a "porn star" who doesn't actually bonk other people, or guys who will just be supportive and respectful about it. Don't beat yourself over it girly!

    PS. He might have been hot, but his looks will fade with time. If his personality doesn't improve, there isn't much hope for him with an attitude like that.


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    I'm so sorry you are going through this, I know how hard break-ups can be.

    I agree with everything that's been stated, it doesn't sound like he broke up with you because you are a cam model. While I completely appreciate the fact that some people would never be comfortable with dating someone in the industry it does not take nearly a year to figure that out.

    As far as guys who will accept your job? Yes, they are out there. I have met them. Not every guy will be willing to date a cam model because there is still so much stigma surrounding it but it is definitely possible to find quality men who will not hold your job against you.

    And who needs a man, anyway? Dr. Phil has this catch phrase that I have recently internalized and I am happier than I've been in years. "I'd rather be healthy by myself than sick with someone else." Use it as your mantra. Own it. Live it. And I promise, when you are comfortable with not having to worry about a man judging you, you won't give a rat's bottom whether you're single or not, and you'll never again let someone else's insecurities define your opinion of yourself.


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    Unfortunately I agree with JoJo, although I wish that wasn't the case. You sound like a really nice person, almost *too* nice. I'm really sorry and I hope that you'll learn some good lessons to carry on to future relationships. Like Courtney said, don't be afraid to be single for a while and work on yourself, so that you are ready to deal with some of the complications that having a relationship in the industry entails.
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    I'm sorry this happened. Hugss .Its not cuz ur a camgirl he broke up with you.It just he wanted to be an asshole and move on to other things.Some men are assholes like that.Sad but true

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    If he was messaging you like that he was 99% sure doing it to other girls. And he probably found someone else, got bored with you, and decided to try to jab at you by saying he can't respect you - which MAY be true anyways. I really don't see any man, who can legit respect us when they seek us out through camming, porn, etc. We are sex objects to them - thats it. Sure they talk about it up and down how they want to be our girlfriend, and marry us on cam, but all it is, is a fantasy.

    So this situation sucks. Sorry you had to go through this OP, but at least it was a good lesson. And hopefully other girls can pick up on it too. One thing that totally irks me though is that he was a freeloader, blech. And he sure freeloaded. Yuck. What a snake.








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    I agree with all of the above, can't say it any better.

    He was just an asshole, nothing to do with camming. The sex deteriorated anyway so he wasn't even good for being a fuck buddy even though he was good looking.

    Should you want a partner, there ARE secure, open minded men out there who will cherish you but in the meantime it's good that you didn't waste any more time on him.


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    I agree with everything every one else said to but if ur not in verified u should be - threads like this are best there just becuase if u use the same name everywhere he may find this and use it against u or find some sick and fucked up enjoyment about how ur gushing it out here.
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    I appreciate your reply, JoJo. I am a little offended that you would say that I don't accept myself or love myself. As long as my post is, I am leaving a lot out. I am strong, incredibly resilient, and I do love myself.
    But, I will contend that seeking approval is potentially one of my weaknesses, and I genuinely thank you for pointing that out.

    Like I said, there were indeed many other issues in our relationship that were not about camming, so it is true that was not the only reason we broke up, or perhaps even the main event so to speak, but it is the only reason I would like to discuss on this forum. I know why it didn't work out.

    And yes, he is amazing. At first, I had the same doubts about the authenticity of my feelings, so I kinda don't blame you. Apparently, he never truly believed them either. My attraction to him was more than physical and sexual, it was genuine.

    And, he dated me for a year. I don't think that qualifies as a pump and dump. It was a very serious relationship.

    Again, I appreciate your enthusiasm. Seriously, thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my post. But, you don't have all the information, and your judgements are largely inaccurate, as well as offensive, even though it says no offense, lol. I didn't write this post to ask to be judged by my peers, as I was judged by someone I love, but because I am seeking out other people's experiences. I hope that is clear, and that I will not regret reaching out for help.
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    I appreciate your reply, JoJo. I am a little offended that you would say that I don't accept myself or love myself. As long as my post is, I am leaving a lot out. I am strong, incredibly resilient, and I do love myself.
    But, I will contend that seeking approval is potentially one of my weaknesses, and I genuinely thank you for pointing that out.

    Like I said, there were indeed many other issues in our relationship that were not about camming, so it is true that was not the only reason we broke up, or perhaps even the main event so to speak, but it is the only reason I would like to discuss on this forum. I know why it didn't work out.

    And yes, he is amazing. At first, I had the same doubts about the authenticity of my feelings, so I kinda don't blame you. Apparently, he never truly believed them either. My attraction to him was more than physical and sexual, it was genuine.

    And, he dated me for a year. I don't think that qualifies as a pump and dump. It was a very serious relationship.

    Again, I appreciate your enthusiasm. Seriously, thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my post. But, you don't have all the information, and your judgements are largely inaccurate, as well as offensive, even though it says no offense, lol. I didn't write this post to ask to be judged by my peers, as I was judged by someone I love, but because I am seeking out other people's experiences. I hope that is clear, and that I will not regret reaching out for help.
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    Thank you for your kindness, I appreciate you putting things very gently.
    but seriously, where does everyone get the idea that I don't want to be single? What about the whole part where I said I had been single for a long time? Lots of judgement coming through on this thread...Hmmm sinking sensation....
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    I would love to hear about some healthy relationships, and how those came to be fostered.

    Some negative experiences might be helpful too, if similarities can be drawn and a pattern formed for future reference. Early warning signs that you have experienced or red flags. Perhaps things that aren't obvious. The circumstances under which we met were an obvious red flag. Can you think of any red flags from your own experiences, that are not common to my situation, that might be useful?
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    Maybe it's *because* you left out the other details and just focused on the camming part that you feel like you're not being represented fairly? You're right, it probably doesn't give a 100% accurate picture if you just talk about one aspect of your relationship. Please don't feel like anyone is judging you because I don't think they were (I certainly wasn't) just trying to give you some perspective I think.
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    I understand. You are right.
    However, it seems to me that people are making declarative statements about what they believe to be the truth regarding my life, and that is not what I am requesting.
    Also, no one has asked me any questions to clarify anything before making these statements and declaring them true. Yes, I didn't provide every bit of information, that would be quite the task, both to write and to read, but more importantly it is not necessary for the purposes of this thread. The matter at hand isn't my character and its many flaws, it's the issue of trust and jealousy in respect to a chosen life of camming.
    Camming is what we have in common, so it seemed like the only place for me to ask for other people's experiences. Even in the OP, I say that I'm not sure if this is the right venue, so please don't hold it against me, saying that I invited this kind of response, simply by writing.

    Opinions are welcome on the topic of people's personal experiences with relationships, and any complications that may or may not have arisen because of the intimacy of camming. I would prefer to not have to repeatedly defend my own experiences, and to explain why I feel I need not do so. Please.
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    I re-read your post again. He sounded controlling, insecure you even had a moment before you messaged him that felt off/offended you. (Asking for a female camming partner) - red flag #1

    All I have to go on is by your post but you mention him being "so hot" and the amazing sex - then the sex sucked and things started sucking more and more. It just sounds (from your post) that you got swept up by his looks, and insta-love connection - he didn't have much else going for him. (jobless, living with parents, and trying to sucker women into partnered cam sex)

    "Is camming harder to accept than , say stripping for example because our customers get off as part of the deal? "

    Neither. It doesn't matter that we cam, do porn, etc. It comes down to self-esteem and security, open-mindedness, honesty and trust. If you don't have those in ANY relationship you are fucked. If you have all that, you have a good chance of succeeding.

    A lot of men have self-esteem and security issues. Jealousy. In a job where we are constantly oogl'ed at can heighten those issues.

    I really don't think anyone should form a relationship with someone who seeked them out in our line of work - it almost NEVER works out. If you are like the 2% that does, damn you are lucky.

    If they do snag us, we are the fantasy 'Trophy sluts!" Idolized in porn. Men always talk about wanting a slut in the bedroom. We are a fantasy - we CATER to fantasys. That is our job. We do not cater to long-term-relationships, our clients are not there for long-term-relationships. Men do not want a slut for a LTR. Men do not marry sluts.

    "But wait Hayden wut are u talking about we aren't sluts, etc etc feminist power."

    Ya, well. First impressions are a bitch.

    Guy meets a girl at a coffee shop, "Wow, she's so beautiful. I'll talk to her, ask for her number, invite her to dinner. etc etc what-ever-men-think-about"
    Guy sees us on cam, in private with a dildo shoved up our cunts and he thinks, "Wow, she can take a dick! I'd love to fuck her. I want her. My dick wants her. Look at her lips, dick sucking lips. I want her. So I'll tell her I want to date her because I want to get all up in that pussy."

    See the difference? And whatever first impression they get of us is going to be in the back of their minds no matter what. The way we are marketed to men effects it. Porn effects it. The close-mindedness, the jealousy, the insecurity....Girls please do not go after cam customers. It will just not work. And you know what those slime-balls do after they fuck you? They go brag about it to their friends or their keyboard buddies, "I fucked so-and-so" Because you're like as close to a porn-star as they will ever get.

    Ugh ok, I'm tired. I think some of that made sense.

    Basically he is an insecure douchebag. The end.








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    When I first started camming, my then-boyfriend flipped out about me "selling my body" and people seeing "my naked body". We'd only been together for about three weeks, so there were certain political and socialogical conversations that we hadn't had yet - turns out he was pretty anti-feminist. So, starting camming at that time saved me from potentially months of total douchebaggory.

    The right guy will come along, and he'll totally embrace what you do. My husband and I have our issues but at least he doesn't think I'm a "whore" etc and listens to me when i vent about work.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaceyCummings View Post
    I appreciate your reply, JoJo. I am a little offended that you would say that I don't accept myself or love myself. As long as my post is, I am leaving a lot out. I am strong, incredibly resilient, and I do love myself.
    But, I will contend that seeking approval is potentially one of my weaknesses, and I genuinely thank you for pointing that out.

    Like I said, there were indeed many other issues in our relationship that were not about camming, so it is true that was not the only reason we broke up, or perhaps even the main event so to speak, but it is the only reason I would like to discuss on this forum. I know why it didn't work out.

    And yes, he is amazing. At first, I had the same doubts about the authenticity of my feelings, so I kinda don't blame you. Apparently, he never truly believed them either. My attraction to him was more than physical and sexual, it was genuine.

    And, he dated me for a year. I don't think that qualifies as a pump and dump. It was a very serious relationship.

    Again, I appreciate your enthusiasm. Seriously, thank you for taking the time to read and respond to my post. But, you don't have all the information, and your judgements are largely inaccurate, as well as offensive, even though it says no offense, lol. I didn't write this post to ask to be judged by my peers, as I was judged by someone I love, but because I am seeking out other people's experiences. I hope that is clear, and that I will not regret reaching out for help.
    I think you're a little too defensive. You're upset because "we don't know you" but we can only feed off of what you told us, we can only answer to the situation that you present to us. I also think it's weird that an entire year later he is still not on a cam site, so yeah, I do still stand by my opinion that this was a game plan. I was only explaining to you and answering your general question about men not accepting us because of what we do, that your own perspective of yourself is way more important than what others think. No one was judging you at all.

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    before I even read the replies, I'm so sorry Lacey. This type of work should be treated with respect from -anyone- we trust to include in our lives
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    Quote Originally Posted by LaceyCummings View Post
    Lots of judgement coming through on this thread...Hmmm sinking sensation....
    Lacey, it's not judgement, it's interpretation of the material that you have provided us. You did also say:

    "I was also worried that other people wouldn't see the distinction that I myself make between prostitution, or porn, or even stripping, and camming."

    That could be interpreted as insecurity on how you feel about camming/how others perceive you. The ladies here can only do so much if you only provide a certain amount of the story. Please don't get defensive if they reply, at the end of the day, we're all trying to help you feel better and learn. Some may be nice, some may be a little tougher, just know that they cared enough to chime in.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LaceyCummings View Post
    I would love to hear about some healthy relationships, and how those came to be fostered.
    When I told my husband I used to be a stripper he said he wished he'd seen me and he would have been so proud to be the guy taking me home. Now that I'm camming he sees it the same way. We did vow to talk through any issues that crop up but so far the only one has been "Jeez...your mic level was way too high! Didn't you see my PM, telling you?" "No, darling, I was a little pre-occupied screaming through an orgasm!"

    My husband is involved in all aspects of my work. He helps me with videos, photographs, my website, everything. I help with his business where I can. It's the way it works for us.
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    I just wanted to thankyou for writing this out, it's a huge thing in the camming industry I find for us single ladies! What with the stigma attatched to the industry and how hard it can actually be to find someone to date who accepts everything about us, what we do, and also have crazy good chemistry. Why is that too much to ask for?! because we live in a judgemental world >.< anyways.

    I had a boyfriend who accepted me camming. I loved him, he loved me. It was all good because I (honestly) thought I was going to be with this fellow for the rest of my life. Circumstances happened and we broke up, I was devastated and my camming plummeted because I was so depressed and miserable. I honestly figured... well who wan't sto date a girl who isn't exclusively theirs, and a girl who flirts around and teasings for a living (i'm a nn camgirl). I know that makes me sound judgemental and just like all the trolls who harass us online, but I just didn't think anyone would want to be with me seriously. Flash back to last summer, I started seeing this guy, he's all sweet, he likes me. I tell him from the beginning what I do, because I figure if I tell him from the start if he would never we won't waste each others time at all. He says he's dated strippers and girls in the industry before, and it's cool. He understands, and things flow so smoothly. I finally see myself moving on from my 'forever-man', we date for 5 months and I'm getting happy that it seems someone else WILL accept me, and my job and me as a whole. I was happy...

    He was leading me on.

    I was wondering when we were going to be official, he was seeing other women on the side, since apparently 'dating' means you can date and have sex with as many sleazy women as you want. And we had agreed not to sleep with other people in the beginning because we both don't like to use condoms (i'm always on bc). But that agreement apparently magically dissapeared sometime after 2 months and he never mentioned it to me. He said he loved me but he could never date me because of what I do. And he might consider it if I ever got a real job and worked 30 hours a week at least. Doucheee-bag. Good riddance too. But honestly, yah it really hurt haha

    So I'm kind of in the same boat as you, but I know from my previous ex there was a guy who loved me and was with me, and even admitted it was hot that I was wanted by so many men. And he got 'giddy' by being the only one to really 'get me'. So, I know it's possible and it's hard to look at the bright side but keep your head up. It hurts but in the end we are wayyyy better off without the lying judgemental guys! and to be frank, I agree with previous posters saying that you being a camgirl was not the reason he ended it, because you know before a year if that's really an issue especially with how he met you. He was just a dick, and be thankful you didn't waste another valuable moment on that peice of work. <3

    sorry for the really long post btw, i get carried away sometimes lol >.>

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    Sorry you went through this OP; I've learned many a lesson the hard way too. These sites are our bread-n-butter, not match.com. It's always best to say "No thanks, I NEVER meet anyone from here" right from the start (unless you escort, but still, that's a BUSINESS transaction..keep personal out of it)... I have to say, most hot men that I've met over the years were usually dicks...even some of the not-so-hot ones were! lol Once you realize that no matter how many compliments they pay us, most don't want to date or marry us, they just want to FUCK us..short-term or long-term. But few will probably say "this is the woman I want my parents to meet!". This can be a lonely business, no doubt, but there are non-judgemental men out there who can handle it because they understand what the limits are etc.... Also, if we are willing to meet one guy, what's to say we wouldn't be willing to meet another? Could that go through their minds, creating trust issues, etc..??? It's possible. Big hugs...


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    I don't have much dating advice since I've been with my husband since I was 15 but there are definitely men out there who are not douches about camming. My husband gave me the idea to cam and I started the month after I turned 18. He loves what I do. He loves knowing that he gets to have me while every other man has to pay to see me. You'll find a man that accepts you for you

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