At the end of the day, its about the money. I understand that and this is why I am here.
But I also have the chance to make many professional networks under my SD and knowing his connections is giving me the opportunity to send resumes on a first-name basis. But still -- money is the name of the game and I felt undervalued financially since we've been together. I know I deserve more, I am owed more for all that I do.. sending pics, videos, emails throughout the day, making every appointment time, lunch date etc. but still not left with anything after paying rent. The money certainly covers all my expenses and I do have a regular job BUT the combination of both is not leaving me with much for myself at the end of the month. And that was the point! To have extra money to put in my savings account or splurge on myself.
So I asked for a higher allowance, again and this time-- if he doesn't come through I may end it.. should I? I made the argument in another thread that ending a SD/SB relationship just because you're not getting as much as you should is silly. Every relationship is different.. you may be dealing with a jerk and demand a lot. You may be with a sweet guy that really does make you feel special and factor that into your allowance. But since the emotions that usually play out in normal relationships don't enter SD/SB arrangements.. money still has to be the #1 factor and even if I may lose what I am getting now.. waking up everyday feeling like "this should be more than what it is..., spending my own money shopping, paying bills with nothing left for myself.. isn't worth it. The feeling of being undervalued isn't cool..
Also, it seems their is this idea that sugar babies should have enough for designer shoes, fancy clothes, jewelry,etc. He should be giving you gifts cards to lavish stores, etc and if not-- than you're not a true sugar baby. I haven't gotten anything like that.. and I suspect its because he's cheap. Besides my allowance.. I haven't gotten much in actual gifts, so either the money needs to go out or this is just ridiculous.. or is it all smoke and mirrors to believe sugar babies should be living like rock stars?
Have you ladies ever been an arrangement where you knew you weren't getting enough but accepted it (even after attempting to negotiate). Do you have trouble comparing your rates, lifestyle to other sugar babies? This has been a huge issue for me. Did you do go forward out of necessity (you needed the money, waiting for something better, thinking just give it some time... etc) or you just ended it from the jump?



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We carried on until his wife caught him lol. I probably would have kept it up a bit longer too, since as you said it's better than nothing, I enjoyed the money I did get, and he provided some other life benefits for me.



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