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    Hello everyone, this is my first post. I did some searching and couldn't find a relevant thread, so I apologize if I missed one. I am a pre med student and have been interested in dancing for years. I've decided it's time and I'm almost ready but I do have one more question:

    Am I supposed to walk into my first audition acting like I know everything about dancing? If so, how?

    I ask because I've read and received a lot of advice like "you aren't there to make friends, show no fear, the other girls see you as competition, NEVER tell anyone you're new", etc. That's confusing to me because I've never had a job that required rookies to have 100% confidence behind the scenes as well as in front. There is someone who will tell me how the systems and customs work, right? Someone I can at least ask questions to? This has been causing me a lot of anxiety, going into something completely alone with no allies. I'm grateful this forum is here!

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    Welcome!

    I would not lie to the managers, because it's not necessary basically. They see new girls all the time, and turnover is high because of the newbies that can't hock it after the first week.
    The managers, house mom, etc. should tell you the rules and such. Often the fees and whatnot are taped up in the dressing room.

    As far as the other girls, that's up to you. At the last club I worked at, I didn't say 2 words to the other girls because they were stereotypical coked out bitches, and I'm sure if I had legitimately been a new dancer I'd have gotten my shit stolen or something. The one I'm at currently, all the girls are very nice and willing to help out anyone new. They don't see each other as competition since each girl has a totally unique look. It varies by club. I think the "you aren't there to make friends" is more towards focusing on making your money, not sitting and gossiping in the back.
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    Default Re: Should I lie about being new?

    Quote Originally Posted by Selina M View Post
    I would not lie to the managers, because it's not necessary basically.
    This. Plus they will know you're new very quickly, so there's no point. No matter how much you've read on here and how much advice you've been given, the first time you get on stage, it will be obvious that you have never done this before. And that's okay because we've all been there. Management doesn't care if you've never done it before as long as you're able to get naked (or topless or whatever the rules are) on stage and not totally freeze up. They will explain everything to you since rules vary by club anyway, and you're always able to ask questions. I'm not sure what you mean by customs, but I wouldn't go around asking your fellow dancers about every little question you have, or to expect a briefing on the unwritten rules. Keep to yourself, smile when someone makes eye contact, and just stay out of everyone's way. You'll figure out how things work quickly, it's truly not rocket science.

    The 'don't tell anyone you're new' advice you're receiving probably stems customers trying to take advantage of new girls who don't know any better and are easily swayed to break the rules.

    Honestly, don't fret so much about something you have no control over and that is really quite insignificant. Just go for it already and make that $$$!

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    You are both immensely helpful. Thank you! I am so grateful this board is here, hearing advice from actual people is priceless.

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    ^^^ Oooh, she does have a good point I forgot, about not telling customers you're new. You can certainly do that; they will often buy an extra dance without being sold on it, or will tip you onstage a bit more, so I would milk it for all it's worth. BUT do NOT let them try to tell you "how it is" at that club and use it to push your boundaries or waste your time without paying for it, etc.

    If you've been reading on here, you should be well-prepared aside from actually doing it I'm sure you'll do fine!
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    Default Re: Should I lie about being new?

    ive taken breaks from dancing, a couple years gap to a few months and anytime a customer says hes never seen me before and gets all excited i say im the new girl. they love it and i almost always make atleast a bill off of these guys

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    I wouldn't lie about it either. Most mgrs and a few custies can spot a n00b a mile away. Milk it for what it's worth and enjoy it, like others have said. Pretty soon the ride will end and your new girl novelty will wear off. Then you're in stripper limbo.

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    You all are amazing! Making me a hundred times more confident. I'll be sure to update after my audition.

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    Default Re: Should I lie about being new?

    I wouldnt lie to the managers about being new, becuase there are new girls coming in and out of the industry all of the time. Now for other dancers, you dont have to tell them anything if they dont ask. But you can tell who is new and who I not new by thier dance style and how they interact with the customers.

    It takes time to get the hang of things, but if you just put your mind to it, you will do well.

    I dont like telling people that I'm new(er) becuase some customers like to and dancers like to "preach" to you. Tell you where you SHOULD work at and what not, how you should change your outfit and hair so you can make MORE money. But none of it is in a mean way at all.

    If they ask, tell them, if not, just keep it to yourself.

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