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    Blahhh that's how I feel!!! I feel so stuck at this point in my life! All I do is take care of my daughter and go to school. My plan is to tan, get nails done, eyebrows done, etc etc and try dancing again. But I'm just stuck, I feel so anxious when I think of going back; it takes guts to dance that's forsure. Last time I had the motivation of: 1. the man I love being with another woman 2. Had been in bed for 3 months depressed. Now the only motivation I have is the money and how fun it could be. But I feel this intense anxiety when I think about going back, I worry that I'll choke on stage (I don't like stage). Even though I didn't last time it was still scarey, its like jumping in a pool you gotta make yourself do it and once you do its not so bad. I just need some motivation

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    Just do it.

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    Yeah, I'm kinda in the same 'place' I don't have a child though good luck maybe we can motivate ea. other

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    Motivation only goes so far, at the end of the day it's about you making a DECISION and creating a HABIT of that decision. If you don't want to go back don't but if you need to go back, and you need to do what you gotta do, decide and keep at it. If dancing is what has kept you in bed for 3 months don't do it.

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    My POS ex is what kept me in bed for 3 months lol. I actually liked dancing a lot everything came pretty easily and naturally to me, except for getting on stage.Ive always had stage fright. I just need to do it and eventually getting on stage won't give me anxiety.

    And yes whilerz we should motivate each other

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    Some clubs will allow you to pay to be off stage. Talk to the DJ. Once you're comfortable again, give it another go with stage.

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    Thanks so much for everyone's opinions

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    i was incredibly shy my whole childhood and teens, when i first started i didn't go onstage for a week, and since i started at a laidback little dumpy club they didn't even make me pay a fee, some of the girls were even sweet enough to teach me some moves and go onstage with me when i first started..but if i had to do it again i'd just get it over with because you get comfortable with it and learn very fast. even now sometimes i get nervous if the stage is packed! :p just pick a day to go, don't give yourself any excuses not to go, and get it done! you will feel great and so proud of yourself .. good luck!!

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    Thank you Simone! =)

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    Yea I would say tip the DJ so you dont have to go up but if you absolutely have to go up dont show that your anxious, do whatever you have to to hide it cause people can tell. I avoid looking at everyone while I am up there at clubs that make me nervous, and just "fake it till you make it" you will get right over it cause you will see its no big deal. OH and alcohol helps

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    I cant drink, & the drink can def. hit one harder than expected, causing more probs. But I agree w/everything else


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    Yea true about the drink I guess I have a higher tolerance than most so it calmed my beginners nerves. But Ive seen drunk stripper disasters as well so it may not be for some

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    Default Re: Stuck in a Rut

    Stuck in a rut? It's painful, understanding that you need to be on a path toward wellness, innovation and creative happiness, but in reality you are spinning your wheels in some kind of quicksand. Sometimes, a small attitude adjustment can get you going, or a little inspiration. But quite often, altering your routine isn't enough. There are some ideas for how to get free from a rut, seated in observation and action. Might help you figure things out.

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